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Although I realize the importance of venting the rude comments some people make when you're pg, I thought I'd try to start a positive thread where we can share ideas or comments that have inspired us or made us feel good.<br><br>
I have to share that when I was pg with DS it was around Christmas time when I was listening to my favorite holiday music radio station. I was having trouble getting used to the idea of having a boy and as a result I didn't have the usual elation at the notion of being pg. I felt so guilty that I wasn't excited about having a boy. Then a song came on that I hadn't heard before, "Mary Did You Know?" I'm not a religious person by any stretch so I really didn't think much of it. But there was a line that really caught my attention: "Mary did you know when you kissed your little baby then you kissed the face of God?" The rush of tears and emotion was so intense and it gave me a whole different outlook about my precious little boy. It's now one of my favorite Christmas songs for that wonderful little memory that I will always carry in my heart.
 

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Great thread idea, BTW.<br><br>
I also had an experience with a stranger that really has stayed with me.<br>
I was engaged, planning a wedding, a move, a career change and had just bought the "perfect dress" in my size when I found out that I was pregnant. While my now husband and I were happy about it and were always planning to start a family, the timing was a bit awkward. I was only 6 weeks along when I was working at a trade show of sorts in San Francisco. Of course, I wasn't showing in any way, wasn't wearing maternity clothes, etc. Yet, the bellhop at the hotel who was assisting me in transporting my gear to the show floor asked me, out of the blue, "Is this your first child?"<br><br>
I just kind of stared at him, perplexed look on my face, trying to recall if I had mentioned my pregnancy anywhere in our conversation of small talk. He took the expression on my face to mean that I was not pregnant and he had just made a colossal blunder. He began apologizing for his assumption when I told him that, yes, I was pregnant but I was wondering how he knew. He said that I just had that "look" about me. He went on to tell me exactly what I needed to hear; stories about his own children and how they changed his life for the better, that children are the biggest blessing in life. He said what no one has EVER said to me before or since -- that children make life EASIER. I was so worried about all of the challenges ahead that I never considered such an option. That quote really stuck with me. In so many ways, he has turned out to be right. I was pretty convinced that I had encountered an angel that day. Who knows, right?
 

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Good idea, Mama in PA. I think just the overall joy and happiness family and friends have for us has been really great. Also, at one point DH was talking to my Mom about how he is not sure how his Mom will react because she works as a school counselor and generally thinks the world is such a bad place for kids and has made comments in the past like "It would be irresponsible to bring children into this world", ect. So, DH was telling me Mom this and my Mom said in all seriousness "God help the person that doesn't support this baby fully because I will make sure that my grandchild is protected from negative attitudes." It was kind of cheesy but also really cool to see how my Mom has every intention to help raise her grandchild in a way that they are only seen as a blessing and not letting anyone taint that with their negative views.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have to share that when I was pg with DS it was around Christmas time when I was listening to my favorite holiday music radio station. I was having trouble getting used to the idea of having a boy and as a result I didn't have the usual elation at the notion of being pg. I felt so guilty that I wasn't excited about having a boy. Then a song came on that I hadn't heard before, "Mary Did You Know?" I'm not a religious person by any stretch so I really didn't think much of it. But there was a line that really caught my attention: "Mary did you know when you kissed your little baby then you kissed the face of God?" The rush of tears and emotion was so intense and it gave me a whole different outlook about my precious little boy. It's now one of my favorite Christmas songs for that wonderful little memory that I will always carry in my heart.</div>
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I can't even THINK about that song, without crying! It's gorgeous!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">He said what no one has EVER said to me before or since -- that children make life EASIER.</div>
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Oh, I really agree with this! Children bring back the simplicity that life is supposed to have, don't they? Without them, I unknowingly made things so much harder for myself!<br><br>
I'm finding that the more children I have, the easier Life gets. Not the daily responsibilities (like picking up after them, laundry, errands, etc.), but the general understanding and lessons, KWIM?
 

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i LOVE this thread! when i was pg with dd i was waiting tables at an upscale breakfast and lunch restaurant. most of the time i got nothing but grief from anyone who knew we were using a MW or planning a HB. as a result i had figured out how to give pretty generalized answers to customers when they wanted to ask the typical PG questions.<br><br>
one lovely fall day i had a table out on the patio with two ladies, one of whom was nursing a young baby. i said something about how cute her LO was, she asked me when i was due, one thing lead to another and soon enough we were talking about home birth. she told me the story of how her dd was born in their bathroom with her DH there before the MW could even make it in the door.<br><br>
i was so in awe of her story! it felt as though i was supposed to wait on her because that story was a confidence-booster that i really needed at the time. everyone else wanted to tell me their horror stories, and this beautiful woman told me a story that made me hopeful for what was to come.
 

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"Mary Did You Know?" came of the radio today and I totally balled my eyes out!
 

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"Danny's Song" from Kenny Loggins gets me every time. I added it to my labor music.<br><br>
"eople smile and tell me I'm the lucky one, and we've just begun,<br>
Think I'm gonna have a son.<br>
He will be like she and me, as free as a dove, conceived in love,<br>
Sun is gonna shine above.<br><br>
Chorus:<br>
And even though we ain't got money, I'm so in love with ya honey,<br>
And everything will bring a chain of love.<br>
And in the morning when I rise, you bring a tear of joy to my eyes,<br>
And tell me everything is gonna be alright.<br><br>
Seems as though a month ago I was beta chi, never got high,<br>
Oh, I was a sorry guy.<br>
And now I smile and face a girl that shares my name,<br>
Now I'm through with the game, this boy will never be the same.<br><br>
(To chorus<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Pisces, Virgo rising is a very good sign, strong and kind,<br>
And the little boy is mine.<br>
Now I see a family where there once was none, now we've just begun,<br>
Yeah, we're gonna fly to the sun."<br>
Etc.
 

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Oh, you got me with that Danny's Song. I am listening to the Anne Murray version now. . .
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"Danny's Song" from Kenny Loggins gets me every time. I added it to my labor music.<br><br>
"eople smile and tell me I'm the lucky one, and we've just begun,<br>
Think I'm gonna have a son.<br>
He will be like she and me, as free as a dove, conceived in love,<br>
Sun is gonna shine above.<br><br>
Chorus:<br>
And even though we ain't got money, I'm so in love with ya honey,<br>
And everything will bring a chain of love.<br>
And in the morning when I rise, you bring a tear of joy to my eyes,<br>
And tell me everything is gonna be alright.<br><br>
Seems as though a month ago I was beta chi, never got high,<br>
Oh, I was a sorry guy.<br>
And now I smile and face a girl that shares my name,<br>
Now I'm through with the game, this boy will never be the same.<br><br>
(To chorus<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Pisces, Virgo rising is a very good sign, strong and kind,<br>
And the little boy is mine.<br>
Now I see a family where there once was none, now we've just begun,<br>
Yeah, we're gonna fly to the sun."<br>
Etc.</div>
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You just made me cry! We had some pretty stressful car stuff happen today that costs us 600 dollars-seeing the lyrics actually made me feel better!! I was around thinking great-here I am 11 days from my due date and now we have more debt! How in the world am I going to bring a child into this world! Thank you! Now I need to stop crying!
 

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I had really bad gender disappointment when I found out my baby was a boy. That song came on the radio when I was feeling particularly down about it, and I just cried (and leaked) and it all has seemed much better since then <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Early in November I had both kids with me grocery shopping and an elderly man stopped and complimented me on how cute they were and asked if we were having any more. I told him no, that we were done with two (I was on the pill and we were planning DH's vasectomy). He just gently smiled at me and said "you'll have three, little mother." I just walked away, thinking he was a bit crazy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
A little over a week later, AF didn't show. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/pos.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="positive"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> Not really inspirational, but just kind of neat.
 

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My husband blew put his car speakers playing Danny's song, LOL. Most people do it on something more fast paced but he was rocking Danny's Song, LOL. We both love that song.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"Danny's Song" from Kenny Loggins gets me every time. I added it to my labor music.<br><br>
"eople smile and tell me I'm the lucky one, and we've just begun,<br>
Think I'm gonna have a son.<br>
He will be like she and me, as free as a dove, conceived in love,<br>
Sun is gonna shine above.<br><br>
Chorus:<br>
And even though we ain't got money, I'm so in love with ya honey,<br>
And everything will bring a chain of love.<br>
And in the morning when I rise, you bring a tear of joy to my eyes,<br>
And tell me everything is gonna be alright.<br><br>
Seems as though a month ago I was beta chi, never got high,<br>
Oh, I was a sorry guy.<br>
And now I smile and face a girl that shares my name,<br>
Now I'm through with the game, this boy will never be the same.<br><br>
(To chorus<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Pisces, Virgo rising is a very good sign, strong and kind,<br>
And the little boy is mine.<br>
Now I see a family where there once was none, now we've just begun,<br>
Yeah, we're gonna fly to the sun."<br>
Etc.</div>
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I found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks before our wedding and seriously considered not telling DH until the wedding...having the DJ play this song and whispering it to him.<br>
But, DH paid entirely too much attention to my cycle and was itching for me to POAS...so I had to give it up.
 

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There a couple of girls at work that when they see me, they rub their bellies and look at me with that knowing smile. I just can't help but get all giddy and smile back. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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