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I'm having periods where I go back and forth & wish he would just "wean already..." I heard someone mention that they always felt that way right around two years, but that it passed and they kept on nursing & lost those feelings....<br><br>
Can someone tell me that they also experienced these feelings at around two?<br><br>
I don't really have an explanation. I love it most of the time & I KNOW in my heart and head that he NEEDS me right now, but sometimes - I just want him to stop. A little <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> ? LOL! I wonder if it's because I never expected to go much past a year. Rookie!<br><br>
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We went through a weird time right around when dd turned 2... and I know that alot of it was probably my expectations. I think in the back of my head I felt like "Well, by the time she's 2 she won't still be nursing to sleep...." HA!! Apparently dd didn't have the same calendar! We also had a lot of visitors around her birthday and I'm sure I felt influenced by their expectations.<br><br>
I've been reading Raising Your Spirited Child and she says that children seem to go through big developmental changes about 2x per year, often around their birthdays and half-birthday. If your dc is going through a time of being a bit more demanding and fussy then it might spill over into your nursing relationship.<br><br>
We got back into a groove after a short time though. It also helps that dd is less likely now to lunge at my chest or throw a fit if she needs to wait just a bit... she uses "please" and "thank you" (and sometimes "i really appreciate that mommy!") and is just in general more respectful of my body!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Been there and am just pulling out of it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">. Eveyone kept telling me that things would level off and they just have. I went from feeling like I was ready for him to wean to now wondering if he is and being sad.<br><br>
Give it some time mama but for now where here!
 

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Thanks... It's going better now - for the past few days. I'm beginning to think it's related to my expectations (even though they've changed) and also my own cycles. Right before AF comes, I HATE nursing & get touched out so easily. Then it comes & I'm cool again.
 

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I'm at that point right now and feeling so awful about it. I hope it passes quickly. I think it's magnified with me because I'm tandeming my 2 year old (his birthday is tomorrow <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"> ) and almost 3 month old. Sometimes I just want one hour during the day where nobody is touching my breasts. And Nik nurses a lot more now than he did before Nate's birth. I think if he would cut back a little I would be less frustrated, but with teething and everything else I don't want to limit him. *sigh* It will get easier, it wil get easier, it will get easier (I hope!)
 

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Just wanted to add that YES YES YES, I totally felt this way at this age. In fact, I'd say the most difficult and confusing time of nursing my DS was between 20 or so months and 2 1/2. He would go into growth spurt periods and want to nurse ALL THE TIME, in need of constant milk and comfort. I'd get worn out and think, NO MORE, I CAN'T TAKE IT. But then, overtime I started to realize that everytime we got through such a period, he'd be nursing less than before it. It was a whole series of this pattern until he weaned at 4 years, 3 months. I came to trust it, and during the rough times, I tried to keep in mind the bigger picture and nurse as often as he asked, for as long as he asked and used the time to relax myself. I found the overdrive times were still exhausting, but overall, my lack of resistance meant they didn't last nearly as long as they did when I let it get to me and he could sense it... "To invite independence, you must first invite dependence." (Gordon Neufeld, Hold On To Your Kids). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I remember getting to a "smooth sailing" period when DS was between 2 1/2 and 3, and by the time he weaned at 4 and 3 months, I was truly lamenting the big change in our lives. Alas, he was ready. Total turn around from two years before. *sigh*<br><br>
The best and hang in there!<br>
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I'm right there with you on this one mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> We're going through a rough spot now too...
 

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yup.<br><br>
I thought with DD1 it was because I was pregnant. But now then DD2 is almost two and it's the same thing again. It doesn't help that she just had a MAJOR growth spurt, nursing all night every night for nearly a week!! ACK! I got so used to sleeping all night long, it was very rough on me.
 
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