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Hi All,<br><br>
I need to know what you sage mamas would do in this situation...<br><br>
We have a DD who's nearly 8 months old now. We are happily co-sleeping, nursing much of the night, etc. No changes will happen anytime soon, unless she begins crawling to the edges of bed during the night.<br><br>
However, I am trying to think how to plan transitioning babe into her own room in the far future. I'm having trouble because there are a few more variables than usual in our circumstance:<br><br>
-Her crib (which she might play in 5 min a day) is in my at-home office. She's comfortable playing in it, and has slept in it maybe 5-6 times total for naps (many months ago now). It converts to a toddler bed & a full-size bed. It would need to disassemble completely to move into any other room.<br><br>
-Our room is big enough for our queensize bed plus the crib or a twinsize on the floor. Currently babe & I are in our bed and DH is on a twinsize on the floor. So we could move babe to a floor mattress once I know she can get on/off the mattress. We cannot easily move the queensize onto the floor and be comfortable.<br><br>
-DD's room is at the extreme other end of the house, four rooms away, and I am not comfortable putting her down to sleep in there by herself. I am not sure when I ever will be, because there are 3 stairs at the end of her hallway she'd have to take (going down) to get to our room. That makes things tricky. No rails, no walls on the sides of these stairs either.<br><br>
I would be comfortable with putting a twin mattress on the floor in her room, and sleeping the night in there with her, but is that a bad idea? I want her to know where my room is and her room is (eventually).<br><br>
I don't want to make a mistake in schlepping all this stuff around, or in confusing DD. Inevitably we'll change things around more than once, I just don't want to make a step without a larger plan in mind.<br><br>
I think my judgment is a little clouded b/c I have a well-meaning friend who is bit more mainstream than I am, and very indirect about her opinions, but I feel the pressure to "do something" about sleep time. At the very least, I feel I ought to familiarize DD with her own room. She has spent nearly zero time in it since born.<br><br>
What would you do?<br><br>
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I would continue Co-Sleeping and ditch any plans to move her to a room that far away.<br>
With my first I started to pay attention to advice as far as getting DS out of our bed and I regret it to this day. As long as everyone is sleeping well I don't see any reason why you should move her out.<br>
My DD was born just 10 days before yours and she is still happy in our bed, with her brother as well!<br>
When she is ready she will let you know when she doesn't want to sleep with you. Until then cherish the cuddle time while you still can. She'll be a toddler before you know what happened and you will be longing for the nights when you could hold her all night.<br>
Good Luck and trust your instincts over all advice.
 

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I don't think you need to worry about it at all.She will let you know when she is not comfortable in the bed with you.I'm also sure once she starts walking she will find her room(and everything else in your house<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">).<br><br>
You can put bed rails on your bed if you're worried about her crawling off in the night.<br><br>
Don't worry about what anyone else says.Only you know what is right for your babe!
 

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If things are working for you, I wouldnt change them. Just enjoy the time you have together <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> There are ways to get around the short period where babe can roll off the bed and cant figure out how to get off the bed, and rails/barriers that you can use to keep them from rolling in their sleep.<br><br>
It sounds like you have room to make adjustments inside of your room too. I would go for that first, if you need to make any adjustments in the far future. Again though, I wouldn't change anything for you as long as it works as is. My DD is 18 mos and what I do now is put her down on a toddler bed in our room when she goes to sleep at 8ish. She sleeps there while we are awake (we play video games and watch tv in our bedroom in the evening) and any time after 11 when she wakes she comes to bed with us. In the past two weeks, once she has slept through the night in her bed, once she has come to our bed and slept through the night once she has gotten there, and the rest have been very few wakings and she goes back to sleep with no problems.<br><br>
My DD's room is way on the other end of the house as well, so we made her a "room" out of an area in our home that is closer to us. DD used to nap in there, but since we moved the toddler bed back to our room, it has really worked out much better. I couldn't put her down that far away either, because I'd just be afraid she would wake up scared and alone really more than anything and that just wouldn't work for either of us.
 

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Perhaps we could buy a fullsize mattress (we will anyway eventually, for her fullsize bed) and put it on the floor in her room. I could nap there with her during the day, on occasion, not a mandated "every nap" sort of thing. We could make that the only change for now. She'd get used to her room a bit, and I'd not be sleeping nights in there, just naps. Eventually she could nap on her own on the fullsize in her room (I'd expect her to wake after x amt of time, and a baby gate would take care of the stairs for now).<br><br>
Then we could do bedrails in our bed if she's a nightcrawler. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
We could leave everything else the same for now... and not try to see too far into the future.<br><br>
I know I'm a chronic worrier about things I don't need to worry about. Thanks for listening... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Any other ideas, tips, etc, I'd love to hear.
 

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Hi Jenlaana,<br><br>
How long is that "short period" where babe can roll off/not get off the bed on her own? This is my first so I'm unaware of lots of things. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
The little "room" nearby is a great idea, as DH & I really need alone time together. I will think on that one...
 
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