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I have to travel out of town for work. Leave Sunday evening and return Wednesday evening. This is the first time ever that my 15 mo baby will sleep without me next to him since he was born and I'm really really apprehensive about how he will react. DS's nanny will be in on weekdays so daytime will be the same as always. Its the bedtime routine and nights that I'm really worried about.<br><br>
Usually I give him a massage and bath, then Dh reads to him while I have a bath. Afterwards I put him to sleep, rocking, singing and bottle. The last few days we have tried to reverse the roles, so Dh puts him to sleep instead of me. But its not working out. The minute I finish reading to him and Dh takes him from me, DS starts yelling and crying. Last night he was so upset when Dh took him inside that he threw up his dinner. I was outside the whole time and it just breaks my heart to hear him cry like that but I try not to go in and let Dh handle the situation. yesterday, I did go in and DS went to sleep within minutes.<br><br>
I really don't know what we can do make the transition easier. We have tried explaining to him that papa is going to put him to sleep but its doesn't work. The weird thing is he is totally okay during the day with his nanny, its only nights that he is used to having me all the time.<br><br>
I'd really appreciate any suggestions especially if you've had to travel for work. How did you make the transition to Dh and how did DC handle the situation? What can I do make this easier for DS and myself?<br><br>
BTW, there is no way I can postpone this trip any longer. I have considered taking him along but I'm going to travel to a couple of places and its just not feasible to take DS along.
 

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While every kid is different and there are no guarentees this will be true for you both of my kids have been fine with DH or some other caregiver as long as I am completely out of the house. If I am there but not doing bedtime they screamed and cried when they were younger. But if I was completely gone from the house they were fine. You might try actually leaving for the evening and see if that is a different story. I used to do about 1 business trip a year when mine were really young and they were fine when I was gone. A little clingy when I got back but did the bedtime thing fine.<br><br>
The other thing to look at is how does the nanny get him down for a nap? It might be that your DH would have a better time with that routine than with your routine when you are gone. If that doesn't work (again, with you gone for the evening), could the nanny stay until bedtime and try that routine? Or have DH establish his own, totally different routine and work on that.
 

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When I travel for business, DS is fussier and a little harder to get to sleep, but DH tells me it's actually easier when I am not in the house. They have their own routine, special treats, etc. And if I am gone more than one night, it seems to get easier. Good Luck!
 

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Try having BOTH of you stay there for the final portion of the bedtime routine. Do that for a few nights and see what happens.<br><br>
I'd also try the idea of you leaving the house one evening. Just tell him that Mommy has to go out, and will be back later, and then go - just see what happens.<br><br>
I had to go out of town for 4 days when my girls were 20 months and 4 years old. It was hard for DH, but he did it, and they adjusted. And they were happy to see me when I returned. The first thing my 20 month old did when she saw me after 4 days was point at my chest and say "Mommy's Milk!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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