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I was wondering if anyone has or is using any of the Shettles methods to increase your chances of having a girl or a boy?<br><br>
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I hate to say it but Shettles has been debunked. It is a wide misconception that there is a difference in the size and shape of male and female sperm(the female being slower, larger and hardier-the male smaller, quicker but more vulnerable). Shettles, when observing sperm through a microscope(sperm can still not be sexed by the human eye, that's why high-tech approaches rely on techniques like microsort and PGD) was actually observing sperm that had either gone through the process of capacitation(the process the sperm has to go through in order to fertilize the egg) or not(therefore the difference in shape and size).<br>
Timing always results in a 50/50 chance outcome. But it doesn't hurt to try anyway.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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we tried it, followed it to the letter, intending for a boy, and well.. as my siggie says, we have 3 girls. Emma's twin was most likely a boy, as my medical history caused my doctor to express concern that I may have an antigen or something {i was grieving the lost twin, not taking notes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">} that causes my body to attack boy babies.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Either way, I tried it several times, and the two that didn't end in m/c were both girls...
 

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Well, it must be a VERY wide misconception because other than Shettles it is easy to find MANY doctors that believe in the difference in male and female sperm.<br>
For instance we got pg with DD#2 after having sex on day 5 of my cycle. We were QUITE sure she was a girl because I don't see boy sperm living for 6 days waiting for an egg. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We did not know for sure until she was born but I don't think we could have been more sure sans U/S.<br><br>
I pulled out his book the other day and absolutely agree that most of it is bunk. Honestly, the only thing we are thinking of trying is timing intercourse closer to ovulation to try to increase our chances of having a boy. We already have 4 children and would be perfectly happy with a healthy girl but part of each of us would love to have another son.<br><br>
So, like you said we'll just have fun with it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Maybe we'll increase our chances a smidge or two <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
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Thinking about it!<br>
I'm not convinced that the method has been totally debunked.<br><br>
He says in his book that the sperms cells cannot always be identified as male or female by microscope...depends on various factors. Maybe I'm misunderstanding the basis for saying its been disproven but that is no reason to discredit the theory. It is difficult to determoine accuracy when you just rely on what people say they did.<br><br>
The techniques that the method currently recommends are safe...the only possible side effect could be not getting pregnant as quickly...and of course, it's not 100% and Shettles goes to great lentgh in the book to encourage parents to seriously consider how important it is to them. If they really want a child of one sex to the point of being disappointed with not getting that particular sex, he urges them not to try this method. Those parents could adopt or reconsider having a child.<br><br>
We have two girls. This is exactly what I hoped for. I didn't use any method...I would have been happy with a boy. Now I'm considering ttc #3-- our last and to be honest I'd like a son now. So I'm thinking of trying the method...but I know for sure my desire to have a baby- any baby- is bigger than my desire for a son. If it were up to me though I'd like a boy this time. I still have to get up the courage to have 3 kids though!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I just thought I'd offer up this article.<br><br><a href="http://www.in-gender.com/cs/blogs/gender_selection_news/archive/2006/1/13/5342.aspx" target="_blank">http://www.in-gender.com/cs/blogs/ge...1/13/5342.aspx</a><br><br>
The web site itself outlines various methods of low tech swaying. I've never actually attempted any of these methods and IMHO the supplements sound dangerous to me.
 

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Kind of off topic...but related...does anyone know if cyclists have less y sperm?? My dh is a triathlete and I've been told biking can lower a man's fertility and also that it decreases their chance of having a boy...my dh has no problems with his sperm count but I wonder if biking would decrease y sperm somehow??? Anyone have any ideas on this??? Know any good links on this topic? I trind searching but haven't found any information of this.
 

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Im gunna go old-wives here, and maybe a bit off topic, but my mom fed our mare vinegar in her mash before and during the breeding season. The theory is that the acidity or whatever in the uterus killed off the colt (boy) sperm. I dont know the truth to it, but any time she was fed vinegar, we had a filly (girl), and the years we forgot she had a colt <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Just so everyone knows I take everything with a grain of salt and would only like to try to increase my chances of having a boy - I REALLY want a baby, if it were a boy that would be a little bonus.<br><br>
The funny thing is that one of the things they say to increase your chances of having a boy are that the woman should have an orgasm prior to the man. I have two sons with my XH and NEVER had an orgasm. I have two daughters with my DH and at a minimum of 10 orgasms during one encounter <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I know that most of it is genetic. I think some men are more likely to produce girls or boys. I met a gal once and in her DHs family there had not been a girl born in over 250 years!!! They did everything to try for a girl focussing mostly on timing and their second child was a girl.<br><br>
Mary-Beth, I have read that male athletes in general tend to have girls because their body temp is warmer - testicles are held closer to the body with jock straps or in your DHs case, cycle shorts so more heat is generated and the theory is that girls are more likely to survive in that environment rather than boys. Take it for what it's worth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
The only thing we plan on doing when we are ready ttc is having DH drink some caffeine shortly before BDing and trying to time intercourse as close to ovulation as possible. We'll probably try this appoach for a couple of months and if nothing happens we'll jsut have sex every single night which is closer to our M.O. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
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