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hi, i have two children, a girl 33 months ( she is a brat and doesn't want to take a nap, but she needs one. she is so cranky when she doesn't) and a boy 11 months. ( very easy sort of, except he doesn't like to sleep either, and also get's cranky if he doesn't take naps. and of course he is a BOY. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> and he loves his big sis. even though she is jelouse of him a lot.)<br>
I do ok, just fine, taking care of the kids. But I have been thinking about having a third baby, i want another girl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> but i am scared. i don't quite know if i can handle three. i only have two arms and hands and two eyes. And i have been changing my mind back and forth about having a third. do i or don't? i don't know. i can't make up my mind.<br>
i have the choice to plan my third baby, so my son 11 months will be 20 months or so when the new baby would come along. but i don't know if i should wait longer. is 20 months age difference ok? is it too close? or just right? or should i wait? i don't know. i can't figure it out.<br>
i keep reading different forums online about having three babies, but i still can't make up my mind.<br>
anyways, if anyone has any advice, please let me know. i know that it is only up to me at the end, but there is a few things that i could get opinions on. like children, a boy and a new baby being 20 months apart? or should i wait?<br>
and is three children too hard?<br>
and why can't i make up my mind, why do i keep changing my mind back and forth? it's so confusing.
 

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I can't understand!!!<br>
If you want, if your husband agree, if you could permit yourself, if you have possibility then WHY NOT???<br>
It's a baby! Don't think just do it!!!
 

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we are hoping for a third soon- mine are 3 years and 16 months. they are 22 months apart. if we had a third now, they would be over 2 years apart.<br><br>
i don't think anyone is ever 'ready' to do it, but i do know for myself that it is important to work out in your heart any issues you have with pregnancy, birth, and mama-ing. for example, i had birth issues from tristan's birth that i didnt work through, and kassi's birth was long and hard because of it.<br><br>
another example is my postpartum depression after my second. as we begin to think about a new baby, i am doing a lot of soul searching about PPD and ways i would like to avoid it this time. it takes a lot of time to pore over your past experiences and make sure you are whole enough to start this process all over again.<br><br>
that said, just going ahead and doing it will jumpstart a lot of this soul searching. once you are expecting a new baby, you will find that your heart is more sure. (or at least this is my experience).<br><br>
i don't pretend to *know* you, but from your post and from my side it seems you are in a tough place with your kids, developmentally. i remember, not too long ago- well, before my oldest was 3, things were crazier than they seem now. you may find as your 2 grow a little more that another baby doesnt seem too hard. i have really experienced a load of change now that my 2 can play together all of the time.<br><br>
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We have 2 girls, one nearly 6 the baby 19 months. Didn't plan sucj a gap, lost a baby to m/c in bewteen, that one would now be 3 had he survived. I am debating a third, but know that I get children who don't sleep for the first 2 years...........so I don't want one yet. I know better. If we do decide on a third, we'd likely start ttc when this one is nearing 3 or older.
 

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I'm in the same boat- trying to decide if I want a third child...I mean, I do..I really, really do BUT I have doubts and wonder if I should just stop at 2. Can I really handle 3?!!<br>
I don't have much time now but I wanted you to know that I totally relate to going back and forth on this issue!
 
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