TTC & mood swings

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Sweetflyfishfeel

Discussion Starter · Apr 8, 2009

I'm 29, and I feel like my moods have been all over the place, on and off.

We've been happily married nearly a year now. I've never been so happy. I've also never had PMS mood swings as bad as while we've been engaged/married. Last month was our 1st month TTC. Most of the time I feel fine, but when DH is home, when I feel like this, all he has to do is look at me wrong (or not look at me right or not like the movie I like or not be hungry when I'm hungry) and I am all upset/irritated/offended/angry and feel like slamming doors or throwing things. Our ordinarily great dog has kept me up all the last two nights due to barking whining, so I know I'm overtired on top of things but geez...

Last month I had zero mood swings with PMS, was fine for my period, but as my period ended, I became an emotional wreck with no reason at all to feel like that! I don't understand. All was right in the world!! So what gives?

Now I'm 9 DPO, waiting to know, and again, I feel fine except when DH is home and then I'm a cross between a witch and a whiny-toddler-in-need-of-a-nap. Anyone else can talk to me, and I'm great. DH takes me in his arms, is trying to be sweet, still says the "wrong" thing, and I'm all upset. He's gone out to a coffee shop to give me some space.

I'm wondering if I'm just a wreck due to TTC, or maybe it's my biological clock ticking/wanting a baby? Will pregnancy or having a baby make me easier or harder to live with? I just can't stand myself right now!!

Does this sound familiar to anyone? Is there anything I can do to make it stop? *sigh*

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ACsMom

· #2 · Apr 8, 2009

TTC is SSTREEEEEEEESSFUL!!!!!

Not to mention your marriage is only a year old - getting married is good stress, but still stress, and in the grand scheme of things your wedding is a fairly recent event! It makes sense that he would be the target of your moodiness - he's the most important thing to you right now, the one you go to to get your emotional needs met.

Plus, if you're 9dpo, is it possible you got preg. this cycle? One of the early signs of pregnancy is irritability, from what I understand (I don't remember with my first one).

Just as an aside, since stress can deplete your nutritional stores, you might look into taking extra B-complex and fish oil - those are the two nutritional elements most closely linked with mood stability.

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marinak1977

· #3 · Apr 8, 2009

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Originally Posted by bananabee

I'm 29, and I feel like my moods have been all over the place, on and off.

Last month I had zero mood swings with PMS, was fine for my period, but as my period ended, I became an emotional wreck with no reason at all to feel like that! I don't understand. All was right in the world!! So what gives?

I'm wondering if I'm just a wreck due to TTC, or maybe it's my biological clock ticking/wanting a baby? Will pregnancy or having a baby make me easier or harder to live with? I just can't stand myself right now!!

Does this sound familiar to anyone? Is there anything I can do to make it stop? *sigh*

This sounds totally like me last year - my PMS got worse and worse and I got moodier and really hard to deal with. My DH had to learn to verbally duck.
However, I found a few ways to help. I'll share in case some of this may be useful.
First - I learned to recognize when I was being controlled by my hormones and then I could emotionally disconnect from the moods. It was a lot easier to deal with the emotions if I could say to myself - this is not me doing this. I also learned to laugh at whatever unreasonable state I was in, and that would diffuse the situation.
This all really helped me manage the moods, but ultimately - changing my nutrition really helped make the moods go away.
For starters I went onto a whole grain, low sugar, lots of veggies, and less meat diet, and my PMS got a lot lighter.
Ultimately I had a mineral analysis (you send a lock of hair to the lab, and they run a diagnostic) done and had a consulation with a nutritionist. My thyroid is underactive, and my adrenals are probably overactive, and I am calcium and magnesium deficient - all of this can cause anxiety and mood swings. As far as I understand nutritional deficiencies very commonly cause mood problems. But all of these are correctable with proper nutrition.
So I would totally recommend for you to get together with a nutritionist to see if you're missing something.
I can find out what kind of nutritionist mine is if you'd like.
Hope this helps.

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lisko15

· #4 · Apr 8, 2009

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Now I'm 9 DPO, waiting to know, and again, I feel fine except when DH is home and then I'm a cross between a witch and a whiny-toddler-in-need-of-a-nap. Anyone else can talk to me, and I'm great. DH takes me in his arms, is trying to be sweet, still says the "wrong" thing, and I'm all upset. He's gone out to a coffee shop to give me some space.

I can very much sympathize and its driving me crazy too... I've noticed the same pattern with my moods and DH. When its O time I'm super happy and couldn't love him more... but when I'm getting into the late part of my TWW (10 dpo today) I get very irritable. But not with DD, just DH. Just him coming up behind me to give me a hug can send my skin a crawling. Its disturbing really and makes me sad. I'm quiet about it, and I've apologized to him that it is just the "time of the month", but I've never had it to this degree. I chalk it up to getting older (33 currently).

I have done what Marina suggested, and thought through the awful mood - because I really don't feel that way about my DH - AT ALL.

I did start taking a magnesium/calcium/B6 supplement - and I do notice a little bit of an improvement.

Anyhow... you could be PG! I was extremely irritable and snappy through my whole pg-cy with DD. Which was amusing, since I'm usually a very quiet and low-key chick.

I hope you can get through it and figure something out. However, keep your communication with DH open... if he understands its really something you can't totally control - maybe you can laugh about it later.

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Sweetflyfishfeel

Discussion Starter · #5 · Apr 8, 2009

Thanks all. I've had deficiencies in the past and do take some good mag/calcium and B supplements, among other things, and I'll up my Bs today. I notice too that during these times I am extremely hungry all the time, and feel better after I eat something substantial.

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one and you know what I mean. DH handles it fairly well, and we're very open about everything - we blame the hormones instead of taking it seriously. I just hate that feeling and how it doesn't go away when I want it to and it ruins cuddly warm moments. Lisko15, that sounds awful! I'm glad you don't feel like that towards your daughter. I still like DH to be close, but then he keeps rubbing me the wrong way and then I explode with all sorts of emotions and push him away. In my defense, it's not always petty things that set me off. Guys can be so stupid sometimes about the way they say things!! WHAT DO YOU MEAN "It's not important!"?!!!!

Yeah, I def could be pregnant. We timed things real well this month, so it wouldn't surprise me at all. OH I hope I'm not like this all through pregnancy! *sigh*

Thanks for the support, ladies. As DH said to me last night, we'll find a way to get through this. He can be so great sometimes, too. Gosh I am grateful for such a good guy.

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