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Another mama friend of ours that is TTC and charting thought we might advantage from a TTC w/out charting thread. Brilliant!<br><br>
So here goes! If you need support...come talk to us! Anything you need to get out or want to talk about...come on in!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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I had my first stoppedthepill AF last week. Was sadly thrilled by it as it means that my body is producing its own hormones now. So now I OFFICIALLY start ttc. Last month was just practice. My only indication of pg are symptoms and no AF.
 

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I'll join you! I don't chart, I barely keep track of anything, I don't check mucus, etc. I just figure halfway through my cycle and we wing it...DTD a lot for several days either way just in case I O early or late. Worked the last time - first cycle! Our first was a pleasant surprise, so I've never really TTC...<br><br>
I didn't join here for support in trying as much as I did just to have company while we do try, if that makes sense?
 

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We just started trying for #2 and I am not charting yet..I am thinking about it though, because I kind of have wacky cycles and it might help. But I do check CM and I usually know when I O. But, I wanted to join you ladies on this adventure! Here's to BFP's for all!
 

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lindsey8: My story is identical to yours!! First DS was our special surprise (one month after I was told I'd need fertility treatments to get pregnant b/c of not ovulating). Second DS was conceived the first cycle we "tried"!! DS is still BFing and I have no PPAF. We've been "trying" since May but not charting/temping/doing much of anything beside what actually makes the baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
So, I love this thread! Here's what I need to get off my chest: I am SO sick of BFNs! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Because I have no AF, I don't have 5 days where I can obsess and test and then have AF say "haha! I'm here, your uterus is empty!" Any ole day of the month I can test and very nearly WILL a line into existence...but it's never really there. I've had some darn convincing evaps though! I'm hurting. It's so hard. I feel like a bratty teenager complaining because she got a $20,000 car and not a $40,000 one....I have two healthy, happy wonderful kids (and yeah, adorable too). But here I am aching over tests with one pink line. Saddened over the baby that isn't. Yes, I DO want a girl...but we're not "trying for a girl". We're trying for a baby. I'm convinced that I'm meant to have a brood of boys with one little princess thrown in the mix somewhere. I've always wanted a big family. Since I was pregnant with my 1st and saying "I want 5" and people rolled their eyes and said "Wait till you have one!" My 2nd was just hours old and in my arms when I dreamily turned to DH and said "I want 10 babies!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We'll see how many we end up with. Probably more like 5.. Anyway, I'm trying to stay positive. "God's timing is perfect and I want God's perfect timing." But I'm so ready to be pregnant. So ready for another awesome homebirth! So ready for another BABY! Where are you God? It's me stellamia.<br><br>
Ok, that's what's in my head. My DH is amazing. So supportive. Wants another baby as much as I do (possibly even more).<br><br>
This is my disconnected pattern of thoughts. Hope someone understands/can relate/sympathize.
 

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We're TTCing our first, 2nd cycle. I'm not charting either. Nothing against it, I just don't feel like it's for me. I feel like I could obsess over it really easily, and I don't need any help there. This is our second cycle ttc though, maybe I'll feel differently in a few months if we're still not pg. I started using digital OPKs this cycle.<br><br>
AF was due yesterday, and she was conspicuously absent. I am never late. I didn't want to test though - I can't take seeing another BFN. Just went to the bathroom and saw some red spotting, so she might have just flown in on her broom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy"><br><br>
Stella, I can totally empathize with you. I have a wonderful husband, wonderful family, a job I enjoy AND pays the bills, and my health. I don't think that makes me a brat because I dare to ask for more. And I don't think you are, either.<br><br>
Good luck to us all...
 

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I <3 you all!!!! I'm so glad this thread is here so we can chat and share our thoughts!<br><br>
Stella...DON"T EVER EVER EVER feel like that!!!!! You want babies..what's wrong with that?? I am the same way you are...AWESOME family, 2 AMAZING, HEALTHY kiddos, PERFECT husband...would go to the lenghts of the earth for me. And if anyone were to look at me and 'gawk' that I have more kids than "normal"...I will SMILE and say something like "Yes...SEX makes these....and I LOVE MAKING LOVE TO MY HUSBAND! We are GOOD at it dont you think?!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><br>
As for me...I realized I didn't put anything about myself up here! DER! LOL!<br><br>
We are not charting, and probably won't. I know when I AF, and AROUND the time that I O...other than this cycle...I thought I O'ed this past weekend, but yesterday and today I am having cloudy CM rather than the clear CM I had the other day. We weren't able to DTD last night...hubby is pretty sick. SO...if I did O either Sat or yesterday/today, then I hope we covered it...we DTD tue and fri. SO maybe by the grace of God...he let a few sit around and wait for the eggie... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">. I'm pretty sure we missed our open door though. So here's to TTC cycle #2 in Dec! It'll be our NEW YEARS PRESENT! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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We have just started TTC baby #2. I finally talked DP into it. In a few years he's planning on starting a career that will have him away from home a lot. So we want to have another one now, so he can be around the majority of the time and help out whilet the baby is still small. Plus I don't want too large of an age gap, I want DS to have a sibling close in age to him.<br><br>
DS is almost 15 months old, we conceived him after only a couple cycles of trying, so I'm hoping it's easy this time around too. I have baby fever so freaking bad right now, I think it's because every day DS is turning more and more into a little toddler and less of a baby. I love this stage with him, but I'd also love a tiny newborn again. Plus the timing just feels right, it feels right to have another baby right now.
 

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I don't think we caught it this month. I will test probably the 9th-ish...I was a little wonky with my AF last time...it was 40 days, so I will give it until the 9th...that'll be 30 days. We were going to DTD last night but DS decided to get up right around the time we went to bed, he went right back to sleep after about 15 minutes...but we were tired. DH has been sick and not REALLY in the mood. Poor guy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> And I have been too tired to make the effort. SO I guess we will be THANKFUL for the fertility we have and just keep having fun with it and not push it. I don't want to stress my body out.
 

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I'm not sure if we were successful this month or not. There's a small chance we conceived in October That's when we decided to start TTC again now, instead of waiting. We tried a bit but weren't too serious about it. At the beginning of November I had some bleeding, I assumed was the start of my period. But it disappeared within a day. I think there was too much bleeding for it to be implantation, but who knows. Not sure what to make of it since my cycles are long and heavy.<br><br>
I'm pretty sure I ovulated or will be very soon, and we've been trying a lot harder this month. We both want to conceive by the end of the year or early next year. Right now the plan is to try as much as possible between now and Christmas. There's a 50/50 chance my period will show up at the end of the month. Or it may hold off until the end of December. My cycles are kina screwy. I may have a period at the beginning of the month, then the next one might not arrive until the end of the next month. So I don't want to waste a lot of time waiting on my period when we might have a shot at conceiving in December.
 

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Stella, I can totally empathize with you. I have a wonderful husband, wonderful family, a job I enjoy AND pays the bills, and my health. I don't think that makes me a brat because I dare to ask for more. And I don't think you are, either.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I <3 you all!!!! I'm so glad this thread is here so we can chat and share our thoughts!<br><br>
Stella...DON"T EVER EVER EVER feel like that!!!!! You want babies..what's wrong with that?? I am the same way you are...AWESOME family, 2 AMAZING, HEALTHY kiddos, PERFECT husband...would go to the lenghts of the earth for me. And if anyone were to look at me and 'gawk' that I have more kids than "normal"...I will SMILE and say something like "Yes...SEX makes these....and I LOVE MAKING LOVE TO MY HUSBAND! We are GOOD at it dont you think?!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br></div>
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THANK YOU!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> It's so nice to know I'm not alone and you're both so kind to reassure me! I know people who have fertility issues and have so much trouble having their first so I just feel so blessed to have two and wouldn't want to seem ungrateful and possibly hurt someone who couldn't have any.....<br><br>
Jennifer, I'm SO using your response for the many people who will no doubt be scandalized when I have :gasp: a THIRD child! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
Good news, I'M OVULATING!!!!!! Got a BFP on an OPK!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> I'm going to BD as much as humanly possible till I get a negative OPK!! I'm joining the TWW baby!!! When do I start counting from though? I don't have AF so I can't chart what CD I'm on...should I just count 14 days from today? We all know I'll be testing in 10 days anyway...but I'd like to know when I "should" test!
 

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Hi ladies!<br><br>
I'm the one who asked if there was a ttc w/o charting, etc. thread so i better join it, lol!<br><br>
We're ttc #2, I have a nearly 3.5 ds whose pregnancy was a big surprise 3 months after me and dh were married. I have been ttc since may, we skipped july because dh was having neck surgery and I had a bfp sept 30th but had a misscarriage 3 days later. So that means i've been trying for about 6 cycles total. After the misscarriage, i've had one AF, that was about 3 days later than normal, so i did take a pg test but it was negative. I think I ovulated in the past few days, we dtd once or twice, no marathons or anything, lol!<br><br>
my doctor says there's nothing to worry about that we're obviously fertile since i have 1 ds and i had 1 misscarriage, so i guess it is a lot about timing. If i don't get a bfp by the new year maybe I will get a bit more serious about it, and maybe try those opk or something, but i'm giving us a little more time before that.<br><br>
It's funny, I wanted to have my children about 2-3 years after marriage, about 2-3 years apart, but the reality is, i had my first lo 1 year after marriage, and i will have the next lo at least 4 years after the first, it goes to show you can control Not having children, but sometimes it's hard controlling when you DO have children!
 

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I'm in. I had started to chart but failed miserably at it. I never checked my cervix or mucous and rarely wake up at the same time each day.<br><br>
So, we were planning to try next summer but dh decided to move trying to January.<br><br>
Then we found out that my sister is trying in January so we agreed to start trying in December. And of course I realized I'm in the "possibly fertile timeframe" (cd 11) so we decided to try right away.<br><br>
Here's hoping for an August baby!
 

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So... what (if anything) are we doing to improve our chances this month? I've got digital OPKs and tracking CM, but that's about it. What are the rest of you lovely ladies doing?
 

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As for me I'm just DTD as often as possible this week. LOL I think I'm ovulating as I've felt some cramping today. Could be mittelschmertz or could be nothing.
 

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hmm, well i'm pretty sure my fertile days just passed, so now i'm just waiting...I guess my main focus is to track my cycle to see if it becomes more normal than last month after the miscarriage. My period can be wonky at times, and I've starting exercising again, not too advanced, but i know that could contribute to when my period arrives. I honestly will be paying more attention in december if i haven't conceived this cycle.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">hmm, well i'm pretty sure my fertile days just passed, so now i'm just waiting...I guess my main focus is to track my cycle to see if it becomes more normal than last month after the miscarriage. My period can be wonky at times, and I've starting exercising again, not too advanced, but i know that could contribute to when my period arrives. I honestly will be paying more attention in december if i haven't conceived this cycle.</div>
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The good thing is, to a certain extent regular exercise can actually help regulate your period!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">THANK YOU!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> It's so nice to know I'm not alone and you're both so kind to reassure me! I know people who have fertility issues and have so much trouble having their first so I just feel so blessed to have two and wouldn't want to seem ungrateful and possibly hurt someone who couldn't have any.....<br><br>
Jennifer, I'm SO using your response for the many people who will no doubt be scandalized when I have :gasp: a THIRD child! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
Good news, I'M OVULATING!!!!!! Got a BFP on an OPK!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> I'm going to BD as much as humanly possible till I get a negative OPK!! I'm joining the TWW baby!!! When do I start counting from though? I don't have AF so I can't chart what CD I'm on...should I just count 14 days from today? We all know I'll be testing in 10 days anyway...but I'd like to know when I "should" test!</div>
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A positive OPK doesn't necessarily mean you are ovulating right then. It could be up to 72 hours later I think (12-48 hours is the norm though I think)! So I would BD at least 3 days past the negative OPK results and then count from then to be safe.
 

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And its a great stress release! Nothing takes your mind off of stress like a long run with your favorite songs blasting through your iPod. Enjoy!
 

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how's everyone doing this month?<br><br>
I got AF 12/9 exactly 30 days from last month, my cycle seems to be more regular when i am exercising and or eating healthier, so I guess that's a good thing. Anyway, checked my charts for december, looks like the week of xmas is my fertile time, hopefully we won't be too busy to dtd!
 
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