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I should have posted this earlier, but with the NIN concert and having to work the next day, it totally slipped my mind. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"><br><br>
Well, we went to the doctor on Tuesday expecting to do our first vaginal exam. The appointments are rotated between the actual doctor and the nurse practioner. We saw Dr. Farwick last time and this time Gretchen, the nurse practioner. Well Dr Farwick said we would be having the exam and starting the visits every week as of Tuesday, but then Gretchen didnt do the exam, and scheduled us for another 2 week appointment. In a way, I'm glad, because the longer I stay away from the doctor, the better, but then again, shoudn't they have better communication?<br><br>
During the appointment, I said something about not knowing the other doctors who rotate with mine on weekends and wondering what their methods on delivery were, but Gretchen said that I wouldn't have to deal with them because Dr Farwick would probably induce me if I was dilated enough to make sure SHE delivered me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"> I told her that wasn't what I was asking, I just wanted to find out the other doctor's names so I could call them and set up an appointment to ask them some questions. She was stunned that I didn't want to be induced. But didn't give me the doctors' names. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Cuss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="cuss"><br><br>
Tonight, at dinner, DP said something about being induced also. He wants to make sure we have enough time to spend together before and after the birth. (He has to ask for time off a month in advance) I, of course, spouted off all the horrible things about induction and pitocin and how, most likely, I'd end up with a c-section because of some bs "you're not progressing" doctor crap <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"> and he straight up told me "I'd like to see research with that information" I *burst* into tears! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"><br><br>
ARGH!! I shouldn't have to prove myself to my own boyfriend!!! He has known how I felt about birth ever since we first found out about this pregnancy, why now is he asking me to be induced and risk both my and our daughter's safety? I just don't understand.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Oh no! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> What a lot of stress at such a sensitive time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Well, at least the research is all in support of what you told him. It'll be easy to hand him a book or show him a website with all the scary information his little heart could desire. If he's genuinely interested, the info is all there.<br><br>
Hang in there, you're making good decisions for you and your baby!
 

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Any links you all may have would be great! I have a few, but I want some REALLY powerful stuff!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I, of course, spouted off all the horrible things about induction and pitocin and how, most likely, I'd end up with a c-section because of some bs "you're not progressing" doctor crap <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"> and he straight up told me "I'd like to see research with that information" I *burst* into tears!</div>
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Go to the library. Find Henci Goer's <i>A thinking woman's guide to a better birth</i>. If your library doesn't have it, request it through inter-library loan.<br><br>
That book has a written summary of the research written in lay (=non-medical) terms. The back part of the book is <b>packed</b> with citations and analysis of the peer-reviewed medical literature from which Henci draws her conclusions.<br><br>
She has a web page: <a href="http://www.hencigoer.com/" target="_blank">http://www.hencigoer.com/</a><br><br>
(Disclaimer, I'm good friends with Henci's son, and Henci has been known to feed me dinner on occasion. Really, though, this is the right book to respond to your bf.)
 

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About induction - the only place where I've learned about it is in The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Childbirth. The problem with that book is that if someone is not inclined to agree with it already, then they might be put off by the tone. My mom, for instance, is a total natural childbirth type, but she found even the title a little condescending. I think the author also has a website; her name is Henci Goer. I hope you can find some info. The basic thing, for me, is that induction is not about trusting the woman's body and the baby to do the right thing, and as soon as that trust is undermined, you're bound to "find" (cause) all kinds of other problems and end up with a more surgical birth. But I don't know much more than that. I was born, 30 years ago, in an induced birth, and it worked out ok for my mom; I'm just saying that to end on a slightly encourgaing note <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<a href="http://www.mothering.com/articles/pregnancy_birth/birth_preparation/cytotech.html" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/articles/pr.../cytotech.html</a><br><br><a href="http://www.motherjones.com/news/outfront/2001/01/labor.html" target="_blank">http://www.motherjones.com/news/outf.../01/labor.html</a><br><br>
here are articles about the dangers of the drug they use to induce.<br><br>
The best arguement is Ina May's in her guide to childbirth.<br><br>
One thing I like to tell people is that the baby iteselft initiates labor by triggering the hormonal response in the mother. Why would we want to push our babies out before its body says its ready? Esp if it will make our own experience much more painful, more likely to tear, more likely to need pain medication? Then there are great articles (including in current issue of Mothering) showing the effects of an epidural on a baby and its neurological system.<br><br>
Birth is about patience! It is our own natural, physical and emotional initiation into parenthood.<br><br>
I hope your partner is willing to see these arguments. If not, he is probably freaking about other things, loss of your attention, big changes ahead, etc. Address those concerns of his head on, if you can.
 

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Dr. Sears' The Birth Book was the first book I read when I was prego w/ DS three years ago. It was my first exposure to the "cascade of intervention" that starts w/ pitocin. Sears is a strong advocate of birthing naturally. It's not as confrontational as Henci Goer's book (although her book is awesome, don't get me wrong), so your DP may be more open to the information.
 

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I'd also look up cytotec which is pretty commonly given to those inudced these days. I was induced with my son (NEVER again will I allow that!) and they gave me something called cytotec and I had no clue what it was. It was a little pill they put into my vagina. Anyways.....on top of that I had pitocin. Then a posterior baby and a 20 labor, no thanks, never again. I ended up giving into an epidural after 18 hours and was numb for even 4 hours after I had him and couldnt walk. Anyways, back to cytotec..... it has a high tendency to even cause uterine rupture in those who have never had prior surgery or anything. Higher risk of bleeding out, hysterectomy, etc. Had ANYONE told me that, I would NEVER have allowed them to give that to me. There is some info about that in the Mothering Natural Birth book too.
 
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