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I didn't think it would. I told dh we could try it to see if dd was less upset in the car if the seat was FF. FTR, she's strong and wily and there were two major problems with RF:<br><br>
(1) Escape. No matter how tight, she fights/stretches/slides her arms out of the arm straps, then pushes herself up to standing and out of the seat by using the seat back (easy to do RF, not possible FF).<br><br>
(2) Misery. I can't drive while she screams; I have to stop no matter what. Okay, if someone in the car was dying, I'd keep driving, but that's about it. It took us 1.5 hours to take a 15 minute drive the other day; that's when I said ok to dh that we would try turning the seat FF. It is not okay to have my toddler completely hysterical to the point of having trouble breathing. I can't drive let alone think with her that upset.<br><br>
Since turning the seat, she's been much better. No escapes, although she has once slid her arms out. But she hasn't had a hysterical crying fit once yet. It's been a couple of weeks.<br><br>
She's 20 mos, about 33 inches and roughly 25 lbs. I planned to keep her RF until 33 lbs, the seat's weight limit (Britax Boulevard). I'm not comfortable with either situation (FF or hysterical/escaping toddler). Any insight? WWYD?
 

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What would I do? Just what you did. A toddler standing in their RFing seat isn't safe either. I'd try and limit time in the car anyhow, but I'd imagine you already are.
 

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She's safer properly sitting FF than she is climbing out RF. Plus you're all safer if she's not screaming while you're trying to focus on the road.
 

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It sounds like she's loosening her harness, not just sliding out b/c in the BV the harness should be the same height rfing or ffing, even w/ her shoulders. We had to call Britax and get the training kit for Evan's BV b/c he learned how to loosen the harness and would get out of his seat as well, but while driving he would just loosen his harness.
 

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Thanks for the replies. She is not doing anything to the seat that makes the straps loosen except exert brute force and then wiggle. She has not figured out how to unbuckle, unlatch, or unsecure any part of the harness or straps, either on her body or on the sides or back of the seat. She has also given herself some minor injuries trying to (and succeeding in) getting her arms free from the straps (i.e., strap burn type injuries, bruises). But FF has been much better, so I guess we'll stick with that. It's not that she can't get out - she still can - just that she seems so much happier in the seat that way and isn't fighting the seat trying to get out. She can still get her arms free if she really wants to, but has only done that once and she has no leverage to push herself up to standing so she can't physically do that FF.<br><br>
Thanks for not making me feel like the worst parent ever for trying FF this early. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I have now had 2 carseat criers. I turned DS around at a year. He was 30lbs and 30something inches tall. The crying stopped for the most part at that point. Enter DD. She screams. I'm sure you know what that's like. It's horrible and drives me nuts, honestly. I go through periods of feeling sorry for her then periods of being plain annoyed. I know she doesn't do it on purpose, but I feel like I offer her so much stability in our everyday life, I can't figure out why her feelings are so hurt in the car! Anyway, she's a tiny thing and it will be awhile before she meets the legal limit of FF, let alone a weight I'd be more comfortable with (28lbs or so). Anyway, we'll just see, but the only people who could judge you for this are those who don't know what it's like to have a kid who does this in the car.
 
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