hey, yo mamas
DAAM: A is superduper stoked, he of course will be Victoria from CATS for halloween AND will be SEEING Victoria IN CATS ON halloween- right in the front even - now the refrain of "is it halloween yet?" will become an hourly chant, i betcha
moon over my hammy!!!!! wuzzzzuuup hot mama - i've found that within all my friends online and otherwise that have boys, age 4.5-5 is h.a.r.d, harder than toddler fer sure. Good news is that for everyone i've bugged for details that's been clear they love the kid hate the behaviour, 5.5 and up is sunshine and light (until puberty, ha) as far as the evil looks and behaviors around emotions.
Empathy kicks in AFTER the realization we affect others' feelings, and it SUCKS trying to make the two connect in their brains- like they suddenly figure out they HAVE feelings, which also means they suddenly figure out they have the power to manipulate other people's feelings, and they just don't give a damn for a good six months
~The biggest thing you're doing to help fabooB right now is letting him know you're there, you love him, you are frustrated as hell at his 'tude but you love him and will be THERE no matter what. It's a real reaction for us to want to lash out physically, and it's totally fine for our kiddos to know that we are also learning to control our own impulses-- the worst thing we can do is not to struggle with striking our kids, but to give the impression we don't want/love/support them when they are trying to figure themselves out. Physical consequences are a learned behaviour in us that has been subtly reinforced as ok our whole lives, and it takes time and a lot of work to retrain our instincts and snap reactions- saying "I'm pissed at the 'tude, i totally want to slap you right now but i won't, i'm going in the other room to calm myself down right now" is waaaaay different than saying something like "I'm pissed *at you* and wish i was not your mom, i'm going in the other room because i can't stand you right now"
Of course then you may end up with a kid whose negative comment at his first school evaluation is "Needs to work on asking before hugging or holding hands, especially when lining up" ~ we've had many discussions about boundaries and respecting bodies in the last six months, and needless to say many more in the last four weeks ~ when they will sink in i don't know!!!!
hey all you hotties that i missed at SummerLover's shindig~ wasn't she GORGEOUS?!?!?!?!?!?! holy smokes!!!!
elaine i'm with you and moon - one of these days coffee, tea, and herb spotted clothing is gonna be the rage on the runways!
brown ~ is there really anything to life BUT coffee and dark chocolate??? we're talking lifeblood here!!
jessikate ~ i have never been scared of ladybeetles before, although i am of 99% of all other insects/bugs/etc - but MY WORD 50 flying around one's head is the stuff of nightmares!!!! EEEEEK!!! we've been getting a lot of dogs in at work with bites, too, darn bugs without brains!
batty - i was gonna see Spider in the theatre but kept seeing happy fun movies instead, wasn't ever in the mood- i didn't know it was out yet on dvd, gotta check it out now! how'd the pants turn out? thrift store costumes rule - i found my margot tenenbaum (fake) fur coat that was identical to hers for $15 last year!! rock! oh and hugos has no answering machine, blew up in the grand BrownHugosCurvie blackout of 2003!