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Originally Posted by SweetAfton 
Built in baby sitters!
When I was 13, I loved kids (not much has changed
) and begged my parents to have another.
They didn't.
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NO, NO, NO!!!! I loved kids too, and babysat a lot for other people, but when I was expected to babysit my 11 years younger brother, the resentment was unbelieveable. My parents saw it as "contributing" to the family unit, and they did have a point, however, a child is a child, and not a babysitter. I think the best way to handle it would be, "preteen/teen, do you have time, and would you like to watch infant/toddler sibling?" and then be prepared to find another solution if they aren't keen.
On one hand, caring for my little brother was really good for me - it made be comfortable and confident in my abilities and it was something special and unique that my friends didn'nt get to do. Also, having a much younger sibling gives older children the freedom to indulge in "childish" activities long after they are "supposed" to move on to grown up activities. For example, the younger sibling is a good excuse to enjoy the zoo, swinging on swings, etc. But, there is potential for a lot of resentment if things aren't handled properly.
Also, you are not alone, not at all. I can't tell you how many people I know who either are the children with the big gap or have children with a big gap. Maybe it's like the phenomenon where, once you're pregnant it seems like everyone else is also pregnant. In any case, you will find people "like you". You have a great opportunity to widen your older childrens' world by introducing a new baby, and the baby will have a great resource and confidants in his/her older siblings. All will be well. And I adore my brother.
Congratulations on the pregnancy!
Katia