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Problem number one:<br><br>
Showering. I have to keep my two little ones separated for their own safety. BUT my oldest one gets into EVERYTHING while I am showering. EVERYTHING! (If anyone wants examples I have at least a million).<br>
My littlest one SCREAMS the whole time I am in the shower (I think because she can't see me and thinks I have disappeared....)<br>
How can I make this better? I don't want to shower at night...I need a shower in the morning to WAKE UP. Please help.<br><br>
Problem number two:<br><br>
Having 10 minutes or so to put my littlest one down for a nap. Mostly the problem is my older dd (3.5) can use this time to be very very very loud or to destroy, break, or get into stuff. She is a climber. She has PICA (eats non food items) etc. It is a daily challenge that sometimes leads me to try to bribe her to be good....yup.....not a good thing I know.<br><br>
Please please help me. I am really trying to be a AP mom but sometimes I slip and I am downright mean. Then I feel so bad.......I really am trying......
 

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Do you have a partner there? Can you shower before s/he leaves? Can you set your alarm for fifteen minutes before your girls wake up and shower then?<br><br>
For your second problem, does your dd watch videos? Could she watch a fifteen minute Scholastic book video or something while you quickly put the LO down?
 

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For the shower, take them in with you. Use a water sling to hold your ittle one and let your older one stand in the shower. My dd would freak out if I tried to shower without her for the longest time. She was in the solarveil sling for every shower until about 18 months when she was finally willing to stand on the shower seat. Even now I often have 3 kidos in the shower with me.<br><br>
For nap times, I snuggle/read to the kids while I nurse the baby down. Thy are right there and engaged and quiet.
 

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Another vote for the kiddos showering with you. That's what we do here (DD is 2, DS 4 1/2 - DD's been showering with me since she was an infant).<br><br>
Don't get me wrong, I'd love to take my shower alone when I want to, but sometime a family-shower is better than no shower <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Maybe try enlisting your older DD's help to get the baby to sleep. It was a process with my son (then when we really got the routine down DD quit that nap <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Reminding her that you and she will have alone time to do something fun when the little one is asleep might be good insentive.<br><br>
You mentioned your older DD can't be alone. Another idea - maybe get her headphones so she can listen to music or books on tape in the same room while putting your younger one down.<br><br>
Or, do a "rolling nap" - in the stroller, baby carrier/backpack or car!
 

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Yep, I agree with the family shower. Most days my kids take at least two showers, one in the morning with momma and one at night with daddy.
 

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I do sometimes bring them in to the shower with me. But it is such a production.....my firstborn hates to get out of the shower....so I have to do the countdown to shut the water off. Then......getting dried off and dressed.....wow that is alot of work and the baby screams until she is dressed, then dd1 and all the while I am naked and freezing.....so are there any tips on making the dressing part easier?
 

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It is such a production to shower with kids. Um...do you do any DVDs at all? A short 30 min video with a tidy snack while you shower might work (keep the baby in the bathroom wioth you)...same for nap...or maybe a nice little book on tape or some music with a little set of headphones for the 3 yr old while you put the baby down. Maybe set her up with some homemade playdough at nap time? If she eats it, it's non toxic and all. Or a glue stick and some torn paper to collage? Colored chalk and little chalkboard? Can't do too much damage...<br><br>
Or can you put a little high hook lock on the inside of the bathroom door to keep them in with you? Put the baby in an excersaucer or infant seat and let the older child play with whatever cool thing you've decided to offer? Since the baby cries when she can't see you, can you get a clear shower lcurtain...or one of those clear ones with a pattern if you want color...they have those neat map ones...<br><br>
Or leave the baby in the infant seat, use the clear curtain, and shower with just your older child. Let the older child stay in the shower while you dress. Then do the count down, or maybe she will be done by the time you're dressed and will get out quicker if you are not her audience. You can always bring your clothing into the bathroom so she is not alone in the shower.
 

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family bath is a good idea. i need the hot soak for my back. half the time they are out playing my dd is good with my ds so i can leave her in charge or they play in the washroom (tip make it water friendly toys) waiting to join but for the most part it is just a strip and join <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> i have 2 that dont want to come out and my ds screams. i get out first leaving the water in the tub. they play while i dry or atleast a rob for the bad days <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> take out the younger one first. older one can play then soap up and wash off while you dry and dress baby. having the clothes in the washroom is trick. also if they love to put on lotion make that part of the fun.<br><br>
nap time the story books are good (might be hard the first few time it was here but works now), having a special toy that cant be played with when baby is up, tv/movies. if she cant be left alone is there any way to put the baby down while everyone is still in the same room? maybe transfering the baby once asleep.
 

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How old is your littler one? Could you have them in a swing or seat in the bathroom while you shower?
 

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I shower with both of my girls and then let the tub start filling as I get out and dry off. Then I can let them hang out there as logn as they want to before getting them out.<br><br>
I second (or third or whatever) putting on a video or a tv show. My older DD watches tv every day while I put her sister down. Or would she like to look at stuff on the computer? My older one, 3 3/4 now, is really good at navigating websites like pbs kids and sesame street. Or feed her during that time?
 

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I have had good luck with art while I shower. I know you said your 3.5 has PICA, but can she do watercolors w/o mouthing & eating them? The washable watercolors come right off, and my kids love to paint with them. It could keep her quiet for 15 min. while you shower. I would put the little one in a high chair (if you have room in the bathroom) facing you with a snack, and give the older one paint (and her snack) on the floor. After you are washed and dried you can pop them both in the bath. Or maybe even save a messy treat like juice pops (I make them basically water with a hint of juice) that take a while to eat while you shower, then bathe them after.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I kind of do what others do. I usually put the baby(6mo) in the seat ,strapped in with a toy to play around. Then I either let my older son(2.5y) watch a short TV program/give him an activity/give him breakfast in high chair OR I bring him in with me, but I put him in the little toddler tub with toys, so I don't have to get him out when I get out of the shower.<br><br>
And for the nap, I just put the little one in the ergo on my back and start cleaning the house and let the older the do blocks or paint. And by the time I'm done cleaning house, I can put the baby down in the room and get some one-on-one with my older one.<br><br>
Of course, these tactics are usually great, but things do go astray here and there as with any other things with babies and kids...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I tried reading to dd1 while nursing dd2 today ( I even got neat books at the library where you have to find the bird or teddy bear on each page). And she sat quietly and dd2 fell asleep and dd1 was quite and stayed beside me! It was only one day but I am going to try again tomorrow THANKS SO MUCH FOR THIS TIP!
 

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<i>I do sometimes bring them in to the shower with me. But it is such a production.....my firstborn hates to get out of the shower....so I have to do the countdown to shut the water off. Then......getting dried off and dressed.....wow that is alot of work and the baby screams until she is dressed, then dd1 and all the while I am naked and freezing.....so are there any tips on making the dressing part easier?</i><br><br>
Frankly, I worry about leaving my 2.5 yo alone in the house for safety reasons while I shower, so I bring her in with me. I turn on the bath after I shower and she stays in there and plays/relaxes while I put on makeup and get dressed. Works out great for us both.
 

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Is the baby small enough to go into an infant seat when coming out of the shower? I used to line my infant seat with a waterproof sheet, towels, and a fresh diaper. I would wash baby first in the shower, then pop him/her into the infant seat and quickly bundle them up so they woudn't get cold. Then I would wash, leaving the curtain slightly open so that baby could see me. I will say this worked well for DS, not as well for DD. He would often fall asleep for a catnap, and after I was dressed I would dress him.<br><br>
Another note: When I shower with the kids, I put a mat on the bottom of the tub to decrease slipping.<br><br>
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I live with being smelly and having greasey hair. When it gets bad enough DH actually volunteers to watch DS. This is why my online social life is better than my IRL one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">.<br><br>
Ok, I jest a little here, but really, do we need <i>daily</i> showers. I manage with 2 to 3 a week. I make sure I always get one the night before we have somewhere to go like Music Together or LLL, but on days when we are just hanging out, who cares.
 

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Get out with baby only, put on a bathrobe so you're not cold, dress baby.<br>
Dress yourself.<br>
Then stop older child's shower, dress her.
 

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Wow, that's tough...<br><br>
Hmm, I shower every other day, but usually when my youngest is napping. And it's super quick. I usually put on a TV show for the older two (it's a special time as they don't watch a lot of TV). But sometimes, I do have to shower when Renee is up and so for those times, she's in the bathroom playing while I'm showering, while the other two are watching TV.<br><br>
Putting down for naps, especially for really young babies, is tough if your oldest is loud. Hmm, if nothing else works (like having her read a book or playing quieltly with a special toy she only gets for those times), put on a TV show, but only for the duration of getting your baby down for a nap. My suggestion is to only use the TV in really dire situations, otherwise it's not a special event and then your older child will be loud and get into stuff even when the TV is on.<br><br>
Good luck! All will work out in the end, but you may be a bit dirty (b/c of no showers) for awhile, lol.
 
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