Oh I am so sorry. *hugs & prayers*
I just miscarried at home 2 weeks ago, I was 15 weeks along, passed the baby with no problems whatsoever, other than getting a little dizzy & nauseated. My midwife had no qualms about it, and she is very experienced, she said it was my decision whether to m/c at home or go in. She just told me to be aware of what I was passing, keep track of how much I was bleeding. If you are soaking more than a pad an hour, you need to go to the hospital. (I went in 6 days later thinking I was hemmhorraging, I had a pad every hour and a half, and they said I was fine, my body was just trying to pass a large clot, which I did pass the next day.) She also asked me to estimate quantity of blood lost. For instance, I estimated that the 36 hours I lost about 1 1/2 cups of blood. She said she would recommend iron supplements at 2 1/2 cups, and a blood transfusion at 5 cups. Of course, she also said you can loose this much blood & be fine, as long as its not all at once.
Is there a particular reason your midwife is worried about your being able to pass the baby? A history of complications or a uterus delivering with a baby? It's somewhat rare to lose a baby this late, after you've heard the heartbeat its between 5-10% of pregnancies that miscarry. Perhaps your midwife hasn't had a lot of experience with late miscarriages?
My midwife told me that once we couldn't find a heartbeat, I would most likely miscarry within 12-20 hours, be prepared in case your induction isn't scheduled until later than that, to miscarry at home. Sometimes it happens very fast, my 12 week miscarriage 4 years ago was all at once, in about a 20 minute period of time.
Just make sure you have someone with you, and have someone else take care of your other kiddos for you. The baby wasn't really all that big, a little smaller than my fist. I have also miscarried before at 12 & 5 weeks, at home with no problems.
Feelings of guilt & wondering if its something you did is part of the process of grieving. Most likely, it was nothing you did or didn't do. I know how heartbreaking it is to have heard the heartbeat & felt the baby move, and then have it pass on. My heart goes out to you.
I just miscarried at home 2 weeks ago, I was 15 weeks along, passed the baby with no problems whatsoever, other than getting a little dizzy & nauseated. My midwife had no qualms about it, and she is very experienced, she said it was my decision whether to m/c at home or go in. She just told me to be aware of what I was passing, keep track of how much I was bleeding. If you are soaking more than a pad an hour, you need to go to the hospital. (I went in 6 days later thinking I was hemmhorraging, I had a pad every hour and a half, and they said I was fine, my body was just trying to pass a large clot, which I did pass the next day.) She also asked me to estimate quantity of blood lost. For instance, I estimated that the 36 hours I lost about 1 1/2 cups of blood. She said she would recommend iron supplements at 2 1/2 cups, and a blood transfusion at 5 cups. Of course, she also said you can loose this much blood & be fine, as long as its not all at once.
Is there a particular reason your midwife is worried about your being able to pass the baby? A history of complications or a uterus delivering with a baby? It's somewhat rare to lose a baby this late, after you've heard the heartbeat its between 5-10% of pregnancies that miscarry. Perhaps your midwife hasn't had a lot of experience with late miscarriages?
My midwife told me that once we couldn't find a heartbeat, I would most likely miscarry within 12-20 hours, be prepared in case your induction isn't scheduled until later than that, to miscarry at home. Sometimes it happens very fast, my 12 week miscarriage 4 years ago was all at once, in about a 20 minute period of time.
Just make sure you have someone with you, and have someone else take care of your other kiddos for you. The baby wasn't really all that big, a little smaller than my fist. I have also miscarried before at 12 & 5 weeks, at home with no problems.
Feelings of guilt & wondering if its something you did is part of the process of grieving. Most likely, it was nothing you did or didn't do. I know how heartbreaking it is to have heard the heartbeat & felt the baby move, and then have it pass on. My heart goes out to you.
