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... Is it any more inherently dangerous than any other birth??<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><br><br><br><br>
IF I have any more biological children (a HUGE "If" because I very much want to adopt, also) it will have to be through IVF and I would very much like to have another Unassisted Birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><br>
Has anyone here done this??<br><br>
How does the medical establishment react???<br><br><br>
Do midwives perform care for IVF patients---?????
 

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you will most likely receive a LOT of negative comments about this from your care providers however, if you truely want a UC go fo it!!<br><br>
The only problems I for see with IVF are the chances you have with becoming pregnant with mulitples.<br>
It will be a lot more complicated to UC twins or triplets.<br><br>
You will be seen by your RE for the first 10 - 12 weeks of your pregnancy then you will be let go to seek prenatal care from your chosen OB or midwife.<br><br>
Best of luck to you!
 

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I think it depends on the reason for IVF. Sometimes there are underlying problems with the reproductive organs that potentially cause two problems: problems with conceiving, and complications with the birth itself. If there's some medical reason to expect a "complicated" birth, then UC might not be the wisest option.<br><br>
However, if you only have difficulty conceiving, and there's no reason to expect difficulties during the birth itself, then I would think that a UC could be very healing, to have a truly normal birth after a rather "abnormal" conception. If you're planning a UP as well, then I would tell my care providers that I was switching to another care provider, could I please have my medical records to bring to them?
 

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I have my tubes tied, so yeah I would say that would be cause for an abnormal conception. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But it wouldn't present any problems with birth would it??<br><br><br>
I wouldn't mind free-birthing twins but anything higher would freak me out.<br><br><br><br>
And, thanks for the positive vibes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Like I said it's unlikely anytime soon but I'd still like to think it's an option at some point.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I don't see why not? and why would you need to tell them? once you sign off with the RE, what say do they have? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't see why not? and why would you need to tell them? once you sign off with the RE, what say do they have? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Thanks.<br><br><br>
I just don't think I've ever heard of any womyn doing this.... (maybe because a reliance on IVF in the first place makes you more likely to rely on the medical establishment?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!">. .... )
 

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I don't know that I have, but then I don't know that I've asked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I'm sure there is for many people utilizing assisted fertilization, inherant fears about the health/wellbeing of the pregnancy and many probably see OB care as a way to get frequent reassurance of the health of it. Many have faced years of infertility, etc and have learned to distrust their bodies, sadly.
 

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have you considered having your tubal reversed? It will be a LOT less expensive then IVF<br>
I had a friend do this just 2 years ago, within 5 months she was pregnant!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">have you considered having your tubal reversed? It will be a LOT less expensive then IVF<br>
I had a friend do this just 2 years ago, within 5 months she was pregnant!</div>
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Considered but, with the way mine was done it will be far more invasive of a reversal operation + less likely to have a decent outcome (if I am to believe my dr. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> )
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The only problems I for see with IVF are the chances you have with becoming pregnant with mulitples.<br>
It will be a lot more complicated to UC twins or triplets.</div>
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I disagree with this about twins. Most twins are not high risk.<br><br><br>
One thing that I see is OBs telling IVF patients that they have a "premium" baby and should do all of the prenatal testing, etc. to prevent anything from happening to it. It's treated like a high-risk pregnancy.
 

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Well...I haven't done IVF, but i do have t use fertiltiy drugs to get preggo. And i think what you are saying is so right on.....once you get into the infertiltiy roller coaster, most women are in it for the long haul of high-intervention. In many places/docs offices, the fact that you had IVF (or any fertiltiy drug to conceive) automatiucally places you in the "high risk" birth column. And of course we all know that according to the medicos, multiples, which would be a high possibility, would also put you in that category.<br>
The other thing i have heard is the "premium baby" speech....which is why a lot of IF'ers just have scheduled C/S....because, you know, you went through so much to get that baby, you don't want to chance anything possibly happening at the birth to take that baby from you. (because, of course, birth is a horribly risky process, whereas a C/S is totally safe....*tongue out*)<br><br>
I think that you could certainly do whatever you wanted. I used a combo of 4 fertility drugs to get dd, and then UC'ed.
 

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Wow Jess! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> First, congratulations...!<br><br>
and second, thanks for the input. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Well, as a lesbian married to a woman(here in MA anyways) anytime I want to get pregnant, we have to go through our doctor simply to get the sperm. Luckily I get pregnant fairly easily, but just moving into that world to get pregnant raises your chances of high-risk pregnancies and birth, according to the doctors. I will have homebirths with any pregnancy that I have. If I were to need IVF, I would still have a homebirth once I was pregnant. Having IVF due to a tubal wouldn't raise your risk of problems at birth simply due to the IVF.<br><br>
The only time I would be worried about having a higher risk birth is if I were to use donor eggs, as that signals that my body is really in the dark about conceiving a child. I'm not sure what I would do, as that's really high tech means of getting pregnant in the first place. But that's OT.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I disagree with this about twins. Most twins are not high risk.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">One thing that I see is OBs telling IVF patients that they have a "premium" baby and should do all of the prenatal testing, etc. to prevent anything from happening to it.</div>
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Yes, I've heard that opinion before. I consider it discriminatory and highly offensive. If I don't need IVF and I'm young and healthy, then my baby is somewhat more expendable? Because I can get pregnant again cheaply and easily, my baby is not as worthy of protection and care? Gah.<br><br>
Not that routine prenatals actually improve outcomes - but I still find that attitude galling.
 

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They do.
 

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I thinkt hat I personally would not do a UC after IVF if I happened to get pregnant with multiples.<br><br>
I honestly think that some women are "meant" to birth several babies at a time with little to no issue (assuming they take care of themselves before and during the pregnancy). That's why they concieved multiples naturally.<br><br>
Since IVF means that I'm bypassing my body's natural ovulatory and conception cycle, I wouldn't assume that things will go well with multiples.<br><br>
If I did end up naturally pregnant with twins, I'd definately UC again. Its the IVF to concieve multiples that makes me not trust my body's ability to birth those babies.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I thinkt hat I personally would not do a UC after IVF if I happened to get pregnant with multiples.<br><br>
I honestly think that some women are "meant" to birth several babies at a time with little to no issue (assuming they take care of themselves before and during the pregnancy). That's why they concieved multiples naturally.<br><br>
Since IVF means that I'm bypassing my body's natural ovulatory and conception cycle, I wouldn't assume that things will go well with multiples.<br><br>
If I did end up naturally pregnant with twins, I'd definately UC again. Its the IVF to concieve multiples that makes me not trust my body's ability to birth those babies.</div>
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This is weird to me. I can totally see your point in this, but disagree with it.<br><br><i>I</i> feel any conception that works (ie there is a conception, pregnany and babies growing and thriving) is meant to be, authorized by God and trust my body to birth it..that goes for one baby or nine.<br><br>
Not an IVF or multiple mom yet, but considering it.
 

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I admit I haven't read the whole thread, but the title caught my eye because I know that <a href="http://rixarixa.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">this woman</a> had a uc after ivf. Best of luck to you.
 
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