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<span style="text-decoration:underline;">THE PREGNANCY</span><br>
The first half of my pregnancy was UP - no medical care except that which I provided for myself. It was wonderful! Peaceful, relaxing - everything I wanted. At 20 weeks, we found a midwife who would travel to our area for a homebirth. At that point, I started compromising, and within 2 months I was labeled gestational diabetic, advanced maternal age, obese, GBS positive ... let the stress begin. I did my best to manage things, but my hopes for a mw-attended homebirth were slipping away. The baby was persistently breech, and the hb mw would not attend breech births.<br><br>
After much discussion and research, dh & I decided that, if the baby moved into a favorable position, we would UC. However, the longer we went, the less likely it looked that she would turn and engage. Our ob/mw convinced us that the baby's usual positions put her at a high risk for cord prolapse, so at their urging, at 40w6d, we scheduled a c/s for 41w4d. I was devastated.<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">LABOR</span><br>
The Saturday I turned 41 weeks, I finally accepted that my UC waterbirth wasn't meant to be. I spent the morning returning the birth pool accessories (pump/hose/faucet adapter/scooper), then dd & I met dh for lunch. I was having contractions the whole time, but that wasn't unusual -- I'd been having contractions off & on for weeks. I finished my shopping and headed home with dd. It was in the car that I decided that these contractions might be different. At one point I felt a POP in my belly and I thought for a minute my water might have broken. I called my doula from the car; we decided since there wasn't any gush of water that it hadn't. As for the contractions, I decided to go home, drink a glass of wine, and take a bath to see if they stopped. At this point, we weren't sure what position the baby was in, so a trip to the hospital for a c/s was still within the realm of posibility.<br><br>
By 5PM, I had had a glass of wine and was relaxing in a bath in my sister's garden tub (did I mention that we were moving out of my sister's into our new house THIS WEEKEND?) - neither of which were slowing down the contractions one bit. However, I noticed that, during contractions, it was VERY obvious that the baby was no longer transverse or oblique -- she was most definitely straight up & down! I called my doula again to let her know that I was definitely in labor and that, due to the baby's position, we would be proceeding with our plans to UC.<br><br>
At this point, it was 6PM, contractions were about 4-5 minutes apart, and our doula was on the way. DH REALLY wanted the baby to be born in our new house, which is about 1/8 mile from my sister's. I told him that was great, except that I wasn't getting out of the water unless I had water to get back into at the new house. The birth pool was there, but we now had no way to fill it except with buckets & pots. We decided to fill up the tub in the downstairs bathroom. I'd "relax" in there until the pool was filled. Did I mention that at 41 weeks I weighed 293 lbs.? And the tubs in our new house are NOT great big garden tubs? Oh, well. DH went ahead to start filling the bathtub. I got out of the garden tub, put on a nightgown & flip-flops, and drove myself to the new house. Getting in the car was fine ... getting out was a little more difficult!<br><br>
Anyway, I got there, got naked, and shoehorned myself into the tub. DH was busily filling the birth pool, one pitcher at a time. I lost all sense of time and was just riding the waves. At some point - just before the doulas arrived (our primary brought a new doula as a second pair of hands), so I'm guessing around 7-ish? - my water broke. I reached down and scooped some fluid that looked very light tan. At the time, I thought it was mec-stained, but now I'm not so sure. If it was, it was just a tiny amount. I was more concerned about cord prolapse at the time, and was scared to get upright for fear that it would make a bad situation worse.<br><br>
My timeline is all out of whack here, but I remember these things:
<ul><li>Deciding to check the baby's hb with the doppler, only I was trying to find it way up high, where my mw normally found it at prenatals. Thank goodness for my doula, who reminded me that it would be MUCH lower now. We all breathed a huge sigh of relief when we heard the baby's hb nice & strong.</li>
<li>While we were trying to find the hb, my mom showed up at the front door with dd#1 in tow. I sent them away without even letting them in. I had wanted dd at the birth, but it was WAY too intense.</li>
<li>Repeating over & over, "think think think. What am I going to do? How am I going to get this baby out?" I'd only been in labor for a couple of hours. My 1st labor was 31 hours long! I had no idea how I was going to get through 20+ more hours of contractions that intense. (Later my doula told me she laughed at this and said, "How do you THINK you're going to get her out?!" I don't remember it.)</li>
<li>Throwing up, sitting on the toilet sounding pushy, and saying "I can't do this shit for 20 more hours!" -- knowing that those things meant transition but not believing it because I hadn't been in labor long enough.</li>
<li>Deciding to have dh check for a cord. He checked and said the only thing he could feel was "something hard -- and it's RIGHT THERE."</li>
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I wanted to be in the shower, but my legs were getting too shaky, so dh & the doulas spread out a futon in the living room. I knelt on that, draped myself over a birth ball, and held on to my doula's hands. I only remember 3 contractions in this position. They were overwhelming - my body pushed and all I could do was go along with it. The 1st push, she crowned, and DH said he could see part of her head and one eye. The next push, her head was out. I kept asking what was happening, but dh & the doulas were so surprised that she was head-first they didn't answer me. I was afraid she was stuck, so I actually pushed with the 3rd contraction and BAM! She was out! They passed her to me through my legs so I could sit down and I just held her against me. They brought me a blanket to cover her and keep her warm. I will never, ever forget the delicious smell of my daughter's head, her little body fresh from my womb. She was born at 8:10PM, just 3 hours from when I decided I was in labor. All I could say was, "I DID IT! I DID IT!"<br><br>
I few minutes passed - not more than 10 - and I began to feel uncomfortable. The doulas couldn't find the placenta bowl, so they brought me a pot. I knelt over it, gave a little push, and it came out in a rush. Sweet relief!<br><br>
That morning (of course), I had thrown out the sterilized shoe laces I bought to tie the cord, so the doulas scrounged and found a ball of kitchen twine. DH used a length of it to tie the cord after it stopped pulsing, and he cut it with the knife I gave him during our wedding ceremony.<br><br>
Heidi Gisele weighed in at 10 lbs. even and was 21-3/4" long -- a little smaller than her sister. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: As far as I know, I had no tears. I had some stinging the 1st 24 hours, but I've been fine since.<br><br>
I have never loved my DH more. Nobody has ever in my life shown as much trust and faith in me as he did during the birth of dd#2. He was everything I needed him to be, and I know that giving birth unassisted has made our marriage stronger. The experience was, for both of us, both life-changing and completely normal.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> oh mama that's wonderful! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!! i love hearing about successful UC'c they encourage me soo much! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Congrats mama<br><br>
What a beautiful story <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/champagne.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="champagne">
 

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Congrats!!!!
 

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So beautifully put <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I'm soooo happy for you guys! You did it! You did it!!!! Thanks so much for sharing your awesome and inspiring story <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have never loved my DH more. Nobody has ever in my life shown as much trust and faith in me than he did during the birth of dd#2. He was everything I needed him to be, and I know that giving birth unassisted has made our marriage stronger. The experience was, for both of us, both life-changing and completely normal.</div>
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Aww..sniff sniff...thats so sweet. Congrats!
 

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I am so happy for you...congrads.......<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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