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They are acting like animals and I am losing control of my household. Is this normal??
 

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Well how exactly are they acting like animals? (I mean they aren't peeing on the floor right? :LOL ) Are they bored and whiny, or are they really active and that's bugging you? How long have they been out of school? Are they happy? What are they specifically doing that is causing a problem? Have you talked to the children about your concerns? These are places to start maybe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I am not sure I alone have ever had control of my house, but it could be that we have different definitions of control. What do you mean by control? Did you have it before?
 

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i'm reading 7 kids in ypur siggy...plus a pregnancy. maybe they are normal busy, and you're tired. :LOL<br><br>
i have 4 kids and the noise level can be high, even with happy campers.
 

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LOL!!! I think it is the running around and screaming that is making me insane!! And they aren''t doing their chores ect. It is like I told them I want them to decompress and they decided that meant go on stirke!! I didn't expect it to get this nuts. I ahd the woman at the grocery store today ask me if they were this "active" at home! I almost cried! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild">
 

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How old are your kids? What kinds of fun things are you offering? Are you regularly going to the park, or somewhere outdoors, where they can be active and loud?<br><br>
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Ugh 8 mo, 2, 4, 7 and 8 My older ones don't live wiht me and NO I KNOW I dont' offer enough outdoor running around. Tomorrow is gym and I am planning the entire day at the park. I WISH I could let them outside here but I just think it too dagerous for my neighborhood. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Maybe find out the stuff they are interested in and draw up a list of ideas for them when they are bored. Maybe visit a thrift store to get some board games (connect 4 is one that almost everyone can play), Candyland, Hi ho cherry o (or whatever it's called), etc. Maybe they'd be interested in making their own Mancala game?<br><br>
I bet your day at the park will be helpful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You could also try some not too messy type art stuff. Put stickers, crayons, tape, paper and other things in small baskets or boxes and make a 'message center' . With so many sibs, they could send each other 'mail' all day. The older kids could even send little notes to friends or relatives.<br><br>
I find that glue sticks and torn paper, water colors, playdough etc. are all very appealing to small ones- and not hard to tidy up. Contact paper is also fun- pretty much anything sticks to that--feathers, paper, shells, sand, acorns, leaves etc and you can put another piece of contact paper over the artwork and make a wall hanging or placemat. Don't try to direct the work, just keep things out in baskets so kids can get to them. Lots of children like doing the same things many times, and they can take it in different directions as they become more familiar with the materials.<br><br>
For the teeny ones, maybe a tub of water on a big towel on the kitchen floor, with plastic or metal cups, baby dolls, funnels etc. When they are done, clean floor. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Blankets over tables make great tents. Large appliance boxes can be decorated with crayons and be a little get-away spot.<br><br>
Maybe make a small 'construction corner' for little animals, small blocks etc. where one or two children can work together. Put a small rug under every thing with a big basket so cleanup is easy.
 

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Outdoor time will be very helpful I bet! This always helps all of us. Even if DH or I are feeling irritable, we go for a walk or something and always come back feeling refreshed. Also, my kids get really wierd when the t.v. is on. I'm more inclined to tell people to keep the thing off and their kid's imaginations will take over. I'm not assuming you all watch a lot of it or at all, but it does help some people. Maybe you all could plan a camping trip soon. Go hiking. Anything outside works. Go out to the country and let them run around. Make sure they have a "who can scream the loudest" contest. Take lots of food. Have fun and keep us posted!
 

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How about tapping into a local homeschool group and recruiting one of the older homeschool kids as a "mother's helper" . Maybe a couple times a week. Ask the older kid to facilitate some sort of fun art project, game, etc so you can close the door, prop up your feet, sip some tea or sleep for an hour or two.
 

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Those are some great ideas!!! Gym was cancelled to day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Rain so there were muddy fields. If it clears I think we will go for a walk then I can skip the treadmill. I LOVE the mail idea, LOL. I have all sorts of baskets so they can each have a box. I was alos thinking of doing some marble painnting today as we haven't painted in a while. They also have board games that have never even been taken out....<br><br>
How would I make Mancala? I used to own it and loved to play with DH but have forgotten how to play....<br><br>
A mothers helper would be ideal! Unfortunately there are no support groups close by and the one I belong to has all young kids.<br><br>
Bellydancer: I HATE the tv. I am truning that damn thing off all day long. Our living room tv broke and I TOLD dh not to buy another one but did he listen?<br><br>
I am thinking aobut teaching them how to use the sewing machine today and make puppets....They have been asking over and over so that is a good option. I have bunches of thos eyes they can glue on and I bet I can find other stuff if I look hard enough.<br><br>
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Love the puppet idea <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Here are some links to make your own mancala game.<br><br><a href="http://www.agirlsworld.com/geri/quick-craft/mancala.html" target="_blank">http://www.agirlsworld.com/geri/quic...t/mancala.html</a><br><br><a href="http://www.sinasohn.com/crafts/mancala.htm" target="_blank">http://www.sinasohn.com/crafts/mancala.htm</a><br><br>
and just for the heck of it here is a clay recipe<br><br><a href="http://www.pioneerthinking.com/modelingclay.html" target="_blank">http://www.pioneerthinking.com/modelingclay.html</a>
 

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i built a giant sandbox out of cedar; the prefab ones are too teeny for decent play with any amount of kids (and a good place to store all those big tonka bulldozers etc.) it was pretty easy by myself with a tarp, some planks (i stained them for longer life- we rot things pretty well in this climate, but cedar is pretty resilient on its own), cordless drill. non-stripping screws & bit! four sides & a seating rim (holds up the lid also.) i put a trellis up on one side (two pieces lattice, three posts, 3 bags cement) for summer shade. i made mine 8 x 5 but you can easily make one bigger <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> cedar planks come up to twelve ft...<br><br>
it was a part time reasonably priced weekend project for one person, really (dh held the posts while i mixed the cement, & later carried in the 15 or so bags of sand, lol) but pg, maybe your dh can do it for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> mein gott, it is nice to have a decent sized sandbox to set the kids free in- it really does keep them busy. (and it looks pretty good, if i say so myself.)<br><br>
ps oh yeah, i used the lightest outdoor plywood for the lid, & framed it with furring strips for added strength & to keep splintery edges away from little hands. just screw 'em on. a good hacksaw can get through the wood, altho' i used a circular saw.<br><br>
good luck- i know two little ones here can get into a lot of mayhem if i don't keep them busy (and sometimes when i do. right now i am letting them make a haunted house out of graham crackers with royal icing- i hate to see what my house is going to look like in an hour. 2 & 4! fun ages but whew! though i feel guilty even saying 'whew' to you!)<br><br>
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