I work in a children's hospital as a secretary. Where I sit is right across from the PIICU which mainly houses babies. I hear them cry all the time and it breaks my heart.<br><br>
I went in there recently because I offer to hold the babies sometimes to calm them down and the baby in question was a 3 week old infant and she was crying because she wanted to be held. Her nurse said that she was spoiled. I laughed and said that you can't spoil a baby. She said very haughtily that you could and she *knew* because she had four children. She said that it was doing a great disservice to a baby to hold them 24 hours a day. I walked away thinking about how ignorant her comments were.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
First off, I think it would be quite impossible to hold your baby 24 hours a day. Even mothers who co sleep cannot hold their babies 24 hours a day.<br><br>
Second off, it's been proven that it's highly dangerous to let the baby CIO. It can cause respiratory problems and brain problems, plus it's not good for them to feel alone. People must think that babies are out to get them or something. Maybe, out to make them do whatever they want. You know, because a 3 week old baby can coerce a person logically.<br><br>
Third of all, I just peeked in there and the baby's father is holding her and guess what? Not a sound, not a peep.<br><br>
It just bothers me so much to see this here. I know very well that mainstream parenting is considered to be the best and normal but it's very much far from that.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
I went in there recently because I offer to hold the babies sometimes to calm them down and the baby in question was a 3 week old infant and she was crying because she wanted to be held. Her nurse said that she was spoiled. I laughed and said that you can't spoil a baby. She said very haughtily that you could and she *knew* because she had four children. She said that it was doing a great disservice to a baby to hold them 24 hours a day. I walked away thinking about how ignorant her comments were.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
First off, I think it would be quite impossible to hold your baby 24 hours a day. Even mothers who co sleep cannot hold their babies 24 hours a day.<br><br>
Second off, it's been proven that it's highly dangerous to let the baby CIO. It can cause respiratory problems and brain problems, plus it's not good for them to feel alone. People must think that babies are out to get them or something. Maybe, out to make them do whatever they want. You know, because a 3 week old baby can coerce a person logically.<br><br>
Third of all, I just peeked in there and the baby's father is holding her and guess what? Not a sound, not a peep.<br><br>
It just bothers me so much to see this here. I know very well that mainstream parenting is considered to be the best and normal but it's very much far from that.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">