[TAC]

I had a certified letter waiting for me. It was from the new pediatrician. I just knew what it said. I didn't want to get it, but I knew I had to. It said just what I feared most. The doctor will no longer see the children. He said the lack of trust makes it impossible to care for the children and they will no longer be able to provide medical care.

What happens now?? What happens when the judge gets wind of this?? I know the law guardian said she would file for me to have sole custody but she hasn't done anything. They promised me the children wouldnt go to foster care, but how can I believe them? My lawyer said the judge was only trying to scare x, but what if she's wrong. I really really really scared. I don't want to lose my babies.
I picture the police coming and escorting them into a car and taking them away. I am scared. You all said I was strong, but I don't feel strong.

 

[mama40]

Have you contacted the GAL?

 

[mama40]

You know, as I listen to you talk about these things, it sounds to me like something is not right, unless your judges are totally unreasonable there.

If the problem is as you describe -- x's temper, immaturity, etc. -- it would seem to me that the judge is just waiting for you to take action and shut him down. The judge after all can't do anything until all the paperwork/people/etc. is before him. Are you doing all you can to appear to be the stand-up, assertive, responsible, mother seeking a specific remedy? Or are you more sort of waiting for the court to notice the problem and hope they'll save you & the kids?

I wonder if the judge is sending you & your lawyer a message, too, in other words: "Get something in front of me that I can act on. Don't wait for me to fix this for you."

 

[TAC]

I've called the lawyer, I've called the law gaurdian. What else can I do. They told me they were going to do things. Told me they were outraged. I believe them. If there is something I'm missing fill me in.

 

[Jilian]

It never ends with your ex huh? WHY won't they just give you full legal custody so you can make the medical decisions alone??! It is VERY clear that you two CANNOT make medical decisions together! Why doesn't the court just look out for the child's best interest and appoint one parent responsible for medical decisions? It's obviously not in the child's best interest to keep getting rejected by doctors. I'm annoyed for you mama. Something has to be done here!! The current situation is clearly not working, it must be really frustrating for you.

 

[MsChatsAlot]

Well, I honestly don't see how the judge could do that based on the fact that you followed the orders, got them to a new doctor, etc. You have no control over the doctor's decision. You did what the judge ordered you to do. You followed the rules set out by the judge. But, I have no idea what else you can do.

I am sorry this has been so difficult for you and your kids. Your ex is quite a jerk....to say the least.

 

[mama40]

Have the lawyer & GAL told you what specific things they were going to file and when, what the procedures & timeline will be after filing, and whether they needed anything from you in order to get the papers to the clerk? Outrage is nice, but filed, date-stamped papers are nicer. If they're not moving when they say they will, then you may want to set a deadline and find a lawyer who will do the things timely.

Otherwise, sounds like you're in as good shape as you can be.