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I simply don't know what to do. Or whether I should do nothing. Dd is 12 months old. At nighttime, she nurses to sleep in the rocking chair, then goes into her crib for about 2 - 2.5 hours. She then wakes up (about the time dh and I are going to bed) and comes to bed with us, and nurses again. On a good night she'll nurse 1-2 more times. But on bad nights it's every hour or so. Alternately, dh takes some of the wakings and sits on the exercise ball and bounces her back to sleep. For naps, she is in her crib -- nurses or bounces to sleep, then into the crib.<br><br>
Just today, I got a call from dd's day care provider (she is there 2.5 days/week). They have always bounced her to sleep, and she has been in the crib for 2 naps/day. Today, she skipped her a.m. nap and fell asleep on the toddler cot with the dcp patting her back!!!!! And this after a REALLY hard night with a zillion wakings that we are trying to attribute to teething, but we are not really sure. Also, the dcp can rock her to sleep, but if I try, she arches her back and cries and gets really upset. The dcp has a MUCH easier time getting her to sleep than I do. And sooooo, I'm wondering if I should be doing something differently. Especially in regards to the frequent night wakings. I feel like I'm doing something wrong here.... Dh and I are so tired. And on hard nights, it feels like such a battle sometimes.<br><br>
Sorry this was so long. But any insight would be greatly appreciated!
 

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DD has always gone to sleep better with her babysitter, grandparents, etc. Basically anyone but me. I really think it has to do with nursing. When she is with you, she wants you to nurse her to sleep. When she is somewhere else or with someone else, that option is not available so she doesn't think about it.<br><br>
As far as staying asleep, here is how someone put it to me once - If you were sleeping right outside the door of your favorite restaraunt don't you think you would wake up to eat more often?<br><br>
So what is the answer? I don't have one. But that is the insight I can give you from my experience.
 

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same here! dd will go right to sleep with her grammy, but with me she'll nurse and get up to jump all over the bed (and me :LOL ) mama's are too much fun i guess. is it possible that she'd sleep better with only one nap?<br><br>
this probably isn't practical for your situation but just in case...<br>
i figured out a couple days ago, that i can leave the room while she's awake and playing and she'll fall asleep on her own!!!! quickly too, in about 5-10 minutes!!! of course this is after 2 years worth of nights you're talking about...<br><br>
now i wonder if this would have worked earlier. but it's a great slap in the face for all those who tell me she'll never learn to sleep on her own <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
anyways, i kind of went off on my own there a minute...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> we've had many sleep problems here and i know how hard it is to get night after night of frequently interrupted sleep and how frazzled you feel the next day. i hope you get a better night's sleep tonight!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping">
 

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HI!! I work in daycare and want you to know that the children always do some things better for the daycare providers than they do for mom or dad. Part of that is because when they start at a daycare, they learn a routine and part of that routine is having to share their caregiver with other children, and that is the way it has to be, and they learn that quickly. They other part of that is that children see all of the other kids doing things like laying on a cot or mat, and they just do it too!! It really is that easy sometimes.. they recognize a routine or a way of doing things and just kinda do what the other kids are doing.
 

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Well, we don't bf anymore and I can tell you that Cole goes to sleep much easier for his grandparents than he does for us, so it's not just a bf issue. I have to stand and rock him to his favorite CD - for his grandparents he will just literally lay his head down on his own and just *go to sleep*. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: Then they are like, "I don't know what you are talking about, he goes to sleep just fine, have you tried sitting in the rocker with him," etc. etc. Um, YES!<br><br>
I think it's just that they associate a certain routine with certain people and if those people are around, they expect to get the routine and if they don't they get mad. If those people aren't around then they adapt to whatever the circumstances are. YK? It's really all about their expectations.
 

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That's a good point. DD is also weaned and still sleeps much better at her grandparents house. She will go right down for a nap and sleep for 2-3 hours. And at night she goes to bed without a fuss and sleeps straight through till morning. She doesn't do either of those for me at home. I was joking with them last week that I was going to bring her over every night at bedtime and pick her up in the morning - well, sort of joking <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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I went through this at 12 months, my dd is now 14 months and this week has been much better. She did nurse like crazy at night for a couple of weeks there when she was teething. I am SO sick of teething! And she still has 1 incisor and 4 molars to go before we get a real break.<br>
Things that have helped her sleep better at night include feeding her more dinner or a snack close to bed time, since her tummy is almost full just a little milk puts her right out and she doesn't wake up as much to bf. We also completely gave up our attempts at a bed time routine and started over- we used to read stories and sing songs- it was a production. Now she gets undressed for bed, brushes her teeth and nurses to sleep- Period.<br>
I hope this helps. You might also want to consider a good book- like "The no cry sleep solution" or a family bed book like "Good Nights" they might give you some ideas.<br>
Basically hang in there. That stage is tough, but she will probably start doing much better with a little time.<br><br>
Laura<br>
Momma to Mya 7-23-02 and soulmate to Richard
 

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I have to second the reccomendation of The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. My DD is also 12 months old and up until just recently we were having some major sleep issues. We were co-sleepers and she was waking EVERY 1.5 hours all night long!! I was reaching a point of total exhaustion and decided that maybe she would sleep better on her own. I read The NCSS and followed her tips on routines, sleep associations, introducing a lovey (security object), etc. and it has worked wonders!! DD is down to two night wakings now instead of 6-8.<br><br>
Iwas totally against making her CIO and am happy to report to all those who told me that there is NO way to get a baby to sleep without CIO (many friends, family members, DD's doctor) that they were WRONG!! We're not totally there yet, but I think only two night wakings is heavenly. We'll just keep with the program until she's sleeping through.
 
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