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So, I have a profile up on OKCupid, even though I really don't check in there and am not really interested in online dating right now....I've just been too lazy to take it down (plus, I kind of forgot about it! lol).<br><br>
I got an email today that I had 3 new dudes to check out in my quiver (OKCupid suggests people you might be interested in, in your "quiver". You chose "Yes, I'm interested", or "Pass"...or something along those lines) so I popped in to check it out.<br><br>
I looked at the first two and clicked not interested. The third one's pic was kind of blurry (yes, sorry, I was not interested in the first two on looks alone. bad, shallow, me. I'm OK with it lol) so I clicked on his profile and checked it out....ultimately choosing not interested.<br><br><br>
Later, I got a notice that I had a message from 3rd dude, so I went to see what he said. Here you go:<br><br>
"What?!? You look at my profile yet don't leave a message? I have been stalking you for a long time on this stupid site trying to get you're attention then you finally come by and....nothing! So are you on here to actually date or do you just come for the tests?"<br><br>
Oh, well, when you put it that way, pretty please can we go out sometime? You seem like such a laid-back, mature, *sane* fella! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
And I'm not sure how he was trying to get my attention - I went back and looked and I've never received anything from him, not a "wink", not a message, not an im, nothing! LOL I guess he was just concentrating super hard, hoping I'd pick up the signal w/my ESP.<br><br>
Aside from the overly aggressive, inappropriately entitled tone, it was over the moment I saw he'd used the wrong "you're". Sorry, pal, no can do.<br><br><br>
Anyone else have some winners (or wieners) to share? I know I'm not the only one....
 

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I met STBX on OKCupid...not to jinx you or anything <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> That guy does sound particularly creepy though. At least he admits upfront to being the stalker type? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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Aside from the overly aggressive, inappropriately entitled tone, it was over the moment I saw he'd used the wrong "you're". Sorry, pal, no can do.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh"> I'm dying here! I would respond with that bit right there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">
 

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LOL Thank you for the laugh. I loved this.<br><br>
I remember one who messaged me on another site. He was nice looking enough, but then only spoke with text talk. How annoying! I did find out he was accessing the site from a cell phone, but I don't really care. Use grown up words if you expect a chance with me. But it gets better... He went on in the short text style conversations over a few days and then asked if he could come visit (he lived about six hours away). He started by asking about hotels and then mentioned grilling at my house. That quickly progressed to him saying he was thinking of moving and I would be a really good reason to move to this area. And of course then goes on to say how he is unemployed and all..... oh man.<br><br>
Then there was one on okcupid who simply wanted to know if I had any flat ballet style shoes. LOL He even offered to buy me some if I would wear them for him.<br><br>
But - in two weeks that my profile was active on okcupid I did meet one really cool guy and we've hit it off really well so far. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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He was trying to get your attention by repeatedly checking out your profile. On the sidebar it says something about "stalkers" and tells you everyone who visits your profile unless there browsing anonymously in which case they can't see who visited there profile either.
 

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Ooh, yeah, an angry, stalking message always gets the girl!<br><br>
This illustrates why, for me, online dating just hasn't been appealing (I do understand the helpful aspects of it, but really don't like the crazies!).<br><br>
I put a profile up on a small site recently, and heard from a man: in Australia (I live in NY), and married! Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner. I can see that working well. And he showed this photo of himself, I guess at his computer using Skype (I suppose to illustratate how available he actually is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> ) with this headset on... that was hot.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">He was trying to get your attention by repeatedly checking out your profile. On the sidebar it says something about "stalkers" and tells you everyone who visits your profile unless there browsing anonymously in which case they can't see who visited there profile either.</div>
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Oh, I had forgotten about this feature! Good point....<br><br>
But, I don't ever look to see who's been checking me out. I figure that if they don't care enough to message me, I don't care enough to wonder about it lol.<br><br>
So, I guess I will give him half a pass on the whole "stalking" thing (only half b/c it's a pretty half-a$$ed method of getting someone's attention, IMO) but the rest of it is still not cool.
 

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I've come to the conclusion that I am just not interested in online dating. It's just not for me - I need to meet someone in person to see if there's a spark (and that they're really who they say they are!).<br><br>
I can see the usefulness of a dating site to broaden the field, and to pre-screen the crazies...I just don't have the time, and really am not *that* interested in finding someone right now.<br><br>
I'm thinking I may just take down the profiles I have up....but I hate to waste the time I put into coming up with my intro/"about me"-type essays.
 

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Sometimes you can "hide" profiles. Or, on some sites, it seems that if you just don't go to the site much, your profile gets buried behind more active members' so you won't get many visitors.<br><br>
I think online dating is...weird...with potential. On the big site I was on, I got a message from a guy claiming he's a married physician looking for some discreet fun. Uh, no thanks. If I'm not getting a bill for a pap smear, a married doctor has no business up in my privates (or va-jay-jay as some of my patients would say).<br><br>
I don't love being out on the internet, but then again, the only guy I've dated since my divorce, I met online on a smaller religiously-themed site, a bit of a different crowd. I've gotten quite a few winks/messages on there, but most of the guys are not that interesting to me. Yes, I'm very picky. But at least it's not because they are such awful creeps that it's obvious over the internet. The worst thing I've encountered there are just guys from other countries who want to chat even though I've clearly said I'm not interested in long-distance.
 

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Yes, WHAT is the long-distance thing about?? What the heck is the point? The Australia guy was my worst... but there was another guy from Minnesota, etc! (I actually had a long-distance relationship last year, but it wasn't from online dating - it was someone I'd met years ago when he lived in my state, and he got back in touch with me - anyway, it didn't work out.)<br><br>
I don't get what these guys are hoping will happen. Do they really need pen pals?
 

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Oh and I meant to fully agree, about the guys that can't spell. Inarticulate, run-on sentences are not hot. Neither are grown men using abbreviations - "U R cute!" What am I supposed to say to that?
 

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yep, i tried okcupid and that's why i closed my account. i got the feeling that they had a great number of people just cruising to see what they could get or the generally creepy folks. yep, that is exactly why i was fine with closing that one out.
 
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