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Okay, so here's some background: dd (35months) nursed until 18 months... I had a series of breast infections and finally just decided to wean her. (I was taking course after course of antibiotics for the infections and the benefits of continuing to nurse with the antibiotics passing through to her didn't seem worth it).... we gently weaned and she seemed pretty okay with it.<br><br>
ds(9 months) came along and something in me told me to offer the breast to dd. But, afraid of what dh and others might say, I didn't. ds nurses beautifully and both of the older kids love to come and love on him while he nurses...<br><br>
dd can be very timid, shy, easily hurt- she's very sensitive (and so so sweet).... the one who wouldn't ask for something that she really wanted....<br><br>
Today, out of the blue we were talking and cuddling and I mentioned nursing her when she was a baby, etc. I said something along the lines of, "You're a big girl now, but you're still my baby" ... She wanted to try nursing again and I said okay- she just grinned so big! After 17 months since she last nursed, she latched on perfectly, then nursed for just a minute or so...<br><br>
So, now... what? Is that weird? I would love to continue our nursing relationship if she would like to.... what do you think? I really need some encouragement here... after that long, what do you think?<br><br>
She seems to be a very insecure little soul, and being given the freedom to nurse again just put this confidant, "I am loved" look on her beautiful little face!<br><br>
Thanks for your input! (sorry if that was jumbled- I've got a little guy nursing and trying to type with my one-handed typing).<br>
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Melibee,<br>
There was a time when I might have thought that was strange. But I am tandem nursing a 14 month old and a 3 year old (her B-Day was today!).<br><br>
I would say follow your instincts and your heart. It's possible that this one brief nursing sesssion is all she'll need to remind her that she will always be your little girl. But if you do go down this path you'll need to figure out how to deal with your DH's reaction and decide whether to let her nurse indefinitely or plan on Mother Led Weaning at some point.<br><br>
Good luck, ~Cath
 

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I am definately not an expert but FWIW I think you did exactly what you should have.<br><br>
My dd was 3 when I got pregnant with dd2 and only nursed maybe 2 times durring pregnancy. She was 4 when dd2 was born asked to nurse. I let her when she asked and it lasted for maybe 10 seconds. She only asked a few times. I think she only really asked to see if I would let her, maybe to see if I loved her as much as the baby.<br><br>
I don't think I ever told my dh. After she got to a certain age, we just kind of kept nursing to ourselves. I have a feeling that at her age she probably will ask so infrequently that you may not even have to explain yourself to anyone.<br><br>
Follow your heart.
 

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My little guy never nursed, he was born with a cleft lip and palate, but I lurk on these boards because I am a nursing wanna-be.<br><br>
Anyway, your post made me smile and tear up just thinking of how loved your DD felt. I have no "experience," but I say go for it!! It sounds like you both are open to at least trying it. Like the PP said, she may have just wanted to try - and not really be interested in starting nursing again, but how wonderful that she knows she can if she wants.<br><br>
Its does not sound wierd at all, it sounds so sweet and wonderful.
 

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Thanks for your input! She did nurse again today for a little while at naptime, probably about 10 minutes or so. She sat up and said, "mmm... momma-milk is gooood!" :) I thought that was cute. Well, onto tandem nursing... kinda funny how things worked out, but she seems very happy about it.<br><br>
I told my husband about it today and he just kind of laughed and shrugged- I know that he's such an advocate of breastfeeding and so supportive... I just wasn't sure how he would feel about this though... but how can you argue with a child wanting to nurse?<br><br>
Anyhow, thanks for your input- if anyone else has experience with this, I'd love to hear what you have to say about it!
 

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no experience but i wanted to let you know that i think that is wonderful and a real gift you are giving to your DD!
 
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