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Is anyone else considering an unassisted childbirth? My previous labors were 2 and 3 hours long with no complications and I feel completely confident in my ability to birth our baby at home with my partner.<br><br>
From 2006-2008 I was a homebirth midwife assistant and I am certified in non-violent neonatal resuscitation. In addition, there is a hospital, in my network, across the street, literally.<br><br>
My partner is on board, so what's keeping me from making the commitment? I guess I still kind of wish there would be a motherly figure around to comfort me? I'm sure I could find a mature doula to fill that role but part of me feels like I should let go and let that be my partners arena.
 

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I always consider it, but I've never found enough courage. But then, where I live the consequences could be disastrous if something were to go wrong. The hospital closest to me is about 70% french. We usually travel a little further away to a more English area and I would hate for an ambulance to arrive and not be able to communicate perfectly with the technicians...<br><br>
Kudos to you if you can really do it!! Sounds like you're primed with a clinic right across the street and all your experience <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I personally couldn't birth UA, but yeah for you. I wish I had that courage. GL!!!
 

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My last pregnancy, I decided to just take it one day at a time. My previous labors had been 7, 6, and 2 hours long, so I was expecting a short labor. I also had training as an apprentice midwife. And I felt confident in my body's ability to birth. I was not afraid of calling an ambulance or going to the hospital if I needed help. So my pregnancy progressed and I never felt the need to call a midwife, though I knew several good ones.<br><br>
I did have an unassisted birth. My labor was about 40 hours long, most of that at 5+ cm. I was feeling the baby moving throughout, my energy was good, so I wasn't worried. But afterwards I did think "wow, if I would've known it was going to go on for that long, I would have tried to carry on normally for longer, and I would've liked to have had another woman around for support."<br><br>
So this time I will try hard to have no expectations for length of labor. I will ask a good friend who has given birth three times to be at the birth, to support me or to help with the kids, cooking, etc. We have a big enough house to find privacy if we need it.<br><br>
Good luck with your journey! I really do know the inner debate well, and for me it was more that I didn't feel I needed a midwife rather than I felt adamant about being alone.
 

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we are planning a uc!<br><br>
i am a student midwife with several mw friends who have been practicing 20+ years as go to people. i have all my own equipment too.<br><br>
i like to birth mostly alone and with dh, so having another person present would just get in my way, but many mamas who plan uc's seem to like to have doula support. i will attend uc's as a doula/labor support person.
 

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My last labour was only 3 hours long and I was holding back from pushing for the last hour due to all these mishaps as we tried to head to the hospital (dh doesn't drive so we had to call an ambulance to take me to the hospital, the ambulance got lost, then when we finally got to the hospital the elevator was shut down).<br><br>
I thought, "This is ridiculous!!!" and decided that next time I will try a homebirth again (my first was a homebirth hospital transfer due to meconium in the fluid - protocol around these here parts). Holding back from pushing was utterly stupid, I thought. Next time if I have the urge, I just want to go with it. If the midwives get here in time, they do. If they don't, they don't. I believe in my body's ability to birth my baby. Still need to get some information and overcome some fears. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bow">
 

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Thanks ladies for the reply.<br><br>
Mataji4, you brought a worthwhile consideration to mind - the possibility that this labor may not follow suit and be longer than the last two. In that case, an extra hand may be helpful. If it does follow suit, I guess I would have an extra hand for pictures and whatnot.<br><br>
We are going to spend the next couple weeks organizing our thoughts and make a decision.<br><br>
As much as I am enamored by following my intuition into a dark corner alone and freely birthing our baby with little to no preparation I think we will be taking a slightly more prepared route. I've been involved in hospital transfers during labor and it's nothing that I want to be a part of, ever.<br><br>
In my mind, there is a basic list of signs and symptoms to be aware of. Many complications are easily remedied at home and prevent an unnecessary transfer. So, I do not doubt my ability to birth my baby at home with my partner one bit, however, a little preparation may be just what we need to have the birth we dream of.<br><br>
These last comments were semi-inspired by a reply I read in the Unassisted Childbirth forum... a woman was responded to that she is "not ready" to even consider unassisted birth if she is concerned about monitoring for fetal distress during labor. She went on to say that it is by intuition only that women should UC. This saddened me but I was quickly lifted up by the rest of the replies.<br><br>
Woman-power. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/superhero.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hero">
 

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take heart mama! every woman uc's for different reasons and from a different place. yes, intuition is key in up/uc, BUT intuition SHOULD be key for every pg woman anyway.<br><br>
some mamas feel better when they monitor themselves in labor, some find it distracting/unnecessary and un-uc-ish.<br><br>
there is also A LOT of debate over in the uc forum about what is actually considered a uc. some mamas feel even having their partner present is not a "real" uc. some feel that having a support person other than a partner is not a "real" uc. and many, many mamas have hired/made arrangements with a mw or other hcp to be on-call for their labor/birth and postpartum in case stitches are needed.<br><br>
you have to search within yourself and decide where your individual comfort level is and what your intuition is telling you. your story is your own, and only you can tell it!
 
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