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Do any of you mamas to be have visions of tripping and falling down the stairs with your new babe in your arms?<br><br>
Or seeing your child jump off a high place and break something?<br><br>
What about other strange fears like I always hold my keys extra tight when I walk over a sidewalk grate so I don't drop them... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Am I crazy?<br><br>
What irrational or crazy thoughts/fears do you have?
 

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I'm the same way but I don't think it has anything to do with the pregnancy or anything. I guess I'm just a paranoid person!<br>
I also hold my keys tight so I don't drop them down the grate. I also hold them with a key sticking straight out if I'm walking alone so if I'm attacked I have something to stab my attacker with. Then I get paranoid that I'll trip and stab myself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I used to nanny a few years back and I can't even tell you how often I used to say "be careful!".<br>
Hopefully raising a boy will get me to not give a damn any more and chill.<br>
I know I can't controll everything, but wouldn't it be nice? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I absolutely have those nasty images! They started with my last pregnancy and didn't really slow down until dd was about 1yo. Now that I'm pregnant, they are coming back. I talked to other moms in my playgroup at the time and we all had at least one thing (like falling down the stairs) that we imagined over and over. We called it the "worst case scenario visions".<br><br>
I've thought about it a lot and I think for me personally it is at its worst when I have sole responsibility for the well-being of the child--pregnancy and infancy. When dd started to eat solids and to accept some comfort from other people, then my worries started to subside (a little, but not completely.) I think that there is something biological to it. As protector of this little life, it is in the best interest of the species for the mama to be able to imagine what dangers lie ahead, kwim?<br><br>
Unfortunately, it can cause a lot of anxiety (and I admit I might be more susceptible to worry than others.) In some situations, I found that if there is anything I can do to "fix" what worries me about the situation, then I can let it go. OK, just one example here...I used to have to go down steep stairs to the basement to do the laundry. I would envision falling down the stairs and breaking a leg with a sleeping infant upstairs. I finally found an old phone jack down there, plugged in a phone, put it on the floor, and I felt better after that. (OK, that sounds totally wacko now that I write it down, but there it is.)
 

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Every mother I've ever talked to has these worst case scenario fears. I think it's some sort of protection mechanism built into us to anticipate danger for our young.<br><br>
Last night I couldn't stop envisioning my 12 mo falling down these stone stairs at the church we had my Grandmothers funeral in. The day of the funeral lots of people were holding him and letting him run around and I kept having to push through crowds of people to try to find him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I guess it's still bothering me a week later because while trying to fall asleep I kept seeing him fall down all of those stone stairs and land at the bottom very VERY still. *shudder* I finally had to tell myself, it didn't happen, it's not going to happen because if you ever go back there again you will wear him to ensure it does not happen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Then I was able to sleep.<br><br>
As for the keys, we used to live in an apartment building, and I would always hold my keys really tightly walking through the elevator doors because of the big crack. I was really worried I would drop them down the elevator shaft. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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