|Then theres the time I nursed in Church. I'm not Catholic, but I know Jesus was breastfed and most likely in public, but you'd have thought I was the one driving the nails into Jesus by the look on her face.|
That's so ironic ... other than family members and until recently (when friends started having babies) the *only* place I could ever recall seeing babies NIP was the women at my (Catholic) church growing up. Most of the moms there NIP'd during mass and at church events and things, it was sort of what we did. I had always assumed that Catholics were a bit more "open" to bf than some other religions. (I hope this comment doesn't put me in trouble with the UA, if it would, just let me know and I'll delete it).
Yes, there are opponents of bf/bfip who supposedly bf'd themselves, who are still in the current generation. I do think that a lot of it does have to do with what they were expected/pressured into doing by their near-peers and family members in terms of how to bf and whether to bfip. I also think that so many of the mainstream parenting books have abysmal bf "information" in them that they assume it's normal for their supplies to dip, baby to develop bottle preference, etc. and "wean around a year or sooner" .... when in reality they've been (intentionally or not) "coached" into that happening by the poor advice and support they're given. If they're told it's natural and it felt natural to them, then who are we to question it and say that it could have been much different, if they'd had good information/support, KWIM?
In other words, many of these moms either stayed in seclusion as long as they were bf, and bf'd in the back bedroom at family events --- OR, they pumped or gave formula bottles and potentially compromised their supply for the times they had to be out in public --- OR, they didn't bf for very long (or a combo of the previous). I do also think that for some, there is a martyr complex going on. "I was a good mom and bf'd my children, even though it meant that for 13 months I was *at home all the time*, Oh, the sacrifices I made, and if you don't do it my way, then you're not being as good a mom as I was!"
I think it has a bit to do with the "good girl" socialization. "Yes, I bf'd, but I was a 'good girl' and didn't offend those around me by taking my sexual bfing breasts out in public and horrifying people." (Corollary being - 'bad girls' flaunt it) ....
It's really sad. Typically when I read the, "I bf'd but I never bf'd in public" argument, I assume that the mom didn't bf for long, supplemented early, and/or was a masochist about bfing. It's unfortunate that there are women out there who did bf, for whatever period, but who are so unsupportive of other women who bf (since those women's approaches/experiences differ from their own).