He has made it clear for her to only watch the kids at our house.Yeah but i think only because he boyfriend is back in town when he is gone she will be bugging us again. She even asked him why they can't get married? And to keep the peace he doesn't tell me all the text messages and voice mails she sends talking crap.(Atleast 10 a day) I understand he is stressed out and he says he can handle it himself but just this morning sent a text message saying "I am on my way to get the kids are you coming home with them" What the heck. As far as a lawyer we have no money for that and he says he has no chance. I really don't know what to do. She is controlling him and he is leeting her. Sometimes I do wonder if it is habit or what. They were together for 13 years on and off and she always cheated on him and spent his money, didn't work and he always watched the kids while she had a 3 hour job at sonic at night. After he would go to school and work a full day he had to come home and watch the kids while she ran around with everyone else in town. And she is the one who finally kicked him out to be with his brother. So do you think maybe it's habit or maybe he wants her. I don't know. ANY suggestions are welcome.