[JamesMama]

BIL called this morning and said DN isn't tolelrating the formula, he was up screaming from 9pm till 3am non-stop. They've tried a few different kinds of formula, he screams or throws it right up. He goes to the dr today to check on his weight gain.

So, DH (gotta love him) says "Has SIL tried breastfeeding?" and BIL says "Thats next I think." and DH says "Thats good, it's better for them anyway." and BIL says "Oh, it is?" and DH says "Yeah, Renae breastfed James and he's never had any problems with gas so long as she didn't eat something weird...and that was only a couple times."

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I'm really hoping they have a pro-bf'ing doctor...I'm sure they'll just push him onto some fancy formula...which will make me sad. But it might make them re-think things because that special formula is 3 times as expensive as the other stuff.

 

[Clarinet]

That's NEXT? Crazy. Now they've spent all that money on different kinds formula just to decide that their last resort is their free option, which is the best in the first place. Well, good luck to her. I hope it works out, the baby stops suffering and the mother decides it's worth it.

 

[Shaunam]

If she's so weirded out by bf'ing couldn't she at least try pumping!? It would be great if she could get the baby to the breast, but judging by her attitude, that's not gonna happen. It kills me that people call this a "personal choice". Yeah lots of babies do fine on formula, but when it comes down to the basic welfare of your child you just suck it up and do it!!! I couldn't imagine being so selfish that I could see my baby miserable and not want to do what's best for him. Here's hoping her doctor advises her to breastfeed....or they get skeeved out by the cost of expensive formula.

 

[elanorh]

IF the expensive formula route is the one they are leaning towards -- they need to know:

1. It's VERY expensive (Ina had to be on Neocate for awhile and it was over $10/day and I think we were getting it nearly "at cost." If we had to keep her on it instead of breastmilk, I think it would have ended up paying in the neighborhood of $4,500 for her formula) .... The hypo formulas are about twice as much as the "regular" formulas.

2. It's very unusual for parents to be able to get insurance coverage for the formula, as well. There are a few states where legislation has been passed to mandate coverage for Neocate/Elecare formulas -- but most insurance companies won't pay unless legislatively compelled.

...Whereas, relactating at this point (isn't baby just a few days old?) would be probably quite a bit easier, safer, etc. And if there are allergies causing this reaction (who knows 'til baby has been on breastmilk alone for quite awhile) -- then mom can alter her diet. FAR cheaper than the formula. But it's entirely possible that all this little one needs, is breastmilk.

HTH when you talk next!

 

[firstkid4me]

Wait, so after all the formula trying, they're going to bf? Is she doing anything to keep her supply up?

 

[jarynsmom06]

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Originally Posted by firstkid4me Wait, so after all the formula trying, they're going to bf? Is she doing anything to keep her supply up?

: I was thinking the same thing, if she hasn't been pumping or nursing him, she may have trouble getting anything out. How old is the baby? I hope she can bf him, maybe if she realizes that is the best thing she will ask you for some help since your dh mentioned to your BIL you bf. Good luck to her and the baby.

 

[JamesMama]

Baby is not quite a week old (week old tomorrow). I gotta have DH call and see how things are going.

 

[firstkid4me]

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Originally Posted by JamesMama Baby is not quite a week old (week old tomorrow). I gotta have DH call and see how things are going.

Maybe there's hope then, with some fenugreek and mother's milk tea. Hopefully the baby will grow out of these allergies.

 

[JamesMama]

*sigh* DH talked to BIL and the dr suggested yet another formula

DH asked about bf'ing again and BIL said "SIL doesn't want to, and the dr said she couldn't since it's been so long." *sigh*

 

[sebarnes]

I hate doctors.

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[Robin926]

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Originally Posted by JamesMama *sigh* DH talked to BIL and the dr suggested yet another formula DH asked about bf'ing again and BIL said "SIL doesn't want to, and the dr said she couldn't since it's been so long." *sigh*

So long??? If babe is only a week old, her milk would've just come in a couple days ago probably! Ugh, I hate doctors.

 

[TigerTail]

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Originally Posted by Robin926 So long??? If babe is only a week old, her milk would've just come in a couple days ago probably! Ugh, I hate doctors.

Yeah, that. that's possibly one of the stupidest things I've heard from a Dr yet. Her boobs are probably rock hard & ready to explode with milk, but 'it's too late'. Obscene ignorance. (I am always a little shocked at the amount of women who wouldn't even try bfing when they hadn't planned to just for farking relief.)

Poor baby. Why on earth wouldn't they try a pump? Why aren't the Drs telling her her baby NEEDS it? Thank goodness for political correctness. As long as no one feels pressured, you know, that's what's important, not the health & comfort of a struggling newborn. Gah.

 

[Carma]

Maybe you can visit and help her out a bit? This must all be very nervewrecking to your SIL. Maybe she just needs some calm words from an experienced nurser?

Carma

 

[Maggies*Mommy]

Oh, Nae, i'm speechless.

Maybe next time DH talks to them, have him ask what the next step is if this formula doesnt work. Pretty soon she wont be able to get any milk in and then what happens?

 

[*caitlinsmom*]

Oh, this makes me so sad. the baby is obviously allergic to something, and the mother won't give him the one thing that he won't be allergic to, just b/c she "doesn't want to bf"?! How sad for the baby, and how selfish of the mom!

Seriously, I can imagine why she wouldn't want to BF under these circumstances. Is she just ignorant, selfish, or both?

 

[JamesMama]

Baby is going in to the dr in the AM to be tested for Acid Reflux.

I don't understand my SIL at all...I just don't get her thought process. If BF'ing could help why won't she try it? Why would she rather her baby suffer just so she's not 'uncomfortable'? She said "Well I'm just not comfortable with it and if I'm not he won't be either." WTH does that mean?

I called today and she was all happy cuz he was better today. "That new formula is really doing the trick! My pedi said it's pretty common to have to switch a lot in the begining to find something that baby will tollerate." I just said "Oh, lucky me I didn't have to switch anything!" and she just said "yeah..."

 

[elanorh]

What formula is it?

There's a two week period before you know for sure if a formula is being tolerated, you may want to suggest to her that she consider pumping to maintain a breastmilk supply if formula (even this new one) doesn't seem to be helping.

BF'd babies with reflux (as a cohort) have milder reflux than ff'd infants, according to the researchers.