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We met with a great midwife last night!!! She has 30+ years of experience, really meshed with our ideas about birth, seems spiritual and solid, supports our choice to have a natural birth at home, and has ideas for a birth team for our twins. And she actually took time to talk with us - an hour - for free (sorry, but after my OB-GYN group experiences, this is AMAZING to me!).<br><br>
We are going to meet with another midwife at the end of the month (she lives a bit closer to us). But the great part is that we know we have at least 1 really wonderful option already.<br><br>
I am so <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">: and grateful!<br><br>
Thanks for all of your support!<br>
(Now please send good vibes that the babies cook for at least 37 weeks and are both head down! - conditions for HB)<br><br>
***Warning: Rant part of posting***<br>
Okay, I am so sick of the fact that there are barriers to me being able to birth my babies at home with a midwife or at a birthing center or 'naturally' because there are two of them. Most people look at me, hear about the twins, and say something like, "OH, you are high risk!" or "But you are a special case."... and on and an. And I want to scream, "No, my body did this naturally and my body will carry and deliver them naturally, with ease, and STFU!"<br><br>
We have one birthing center in San Fran, and the woman who kindly responded to my twin birth inquiry was very regretful that their policy doesn't allow for midwife attended twin births at the center, because she had delivered hers naturally 25 years ago! She said that a different midwife at the center actually went to The Farm (Ina May Gaskin) in Tennessee to deliver her twins naturally, because that's what it came to!!! Now, Tennessee is a nice place and I'm sure I wouldn't mind spending 10 weeks pre-delivery and a few afterwards as part of an intentional community, but I can't believe it would have to come to that!<br><br>
In general the CA medical community frowns on midwives attending twin births, so a midwife would be taking a huge risk doing so, and b/c of this, there aren't many with twin birth experience or willing to attend a twin homebirth.<br><br>
I STILL WANT A HOMEBIRTH... If the pregnancy continues to go well, the babies are in separate sacs, and they are positioned well and full term at birth time, I don't see the necessity to deliver in the hospital OR with an epi placed (standard twin delivery practice<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
I'm searching for a midwife now and really hope I can find a confident, willing, good match despite the challenges.<br><br>
There is a woman who lives in my neighborhood who birthed her twins at home, unattended. (Yes, I've seen Psalm and Zoya and, no, it's not her!) I think I need to talk with her.<br><br>
I don't know why I posted this except that I thought you ladies might understand and maybe have some advice!!! If I posted this on the twins messaging board that I belong to, they'd probably gasp in shock. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> While my situation is different than yours, I'm experiencing a similar frustration. The homebirth laws in my state are very restrictive. Only CNM's can legally attend homebirths, and the closest ones to me are 3-4 hours away and won't travel this far.
 

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There was a birth story posted a little bit ago about a mama who was in a similar situation. Since they couldn't deliver then at a birth center she finally found mw's willing to deliver at a dance studio that she worked at. She had a sign a couple waivers saying she wouldn't sue if something went wrong but all went very well. It's very inspiring, I'll go look for it.<br><br>
Keep looking mama, you can find someone willing to help you.
 

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<a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=770444" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=770444</a>
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> While my situation is different than yours, I'm experiencing a similar frustration. The homebirth laws in my state are very restrictive. Only CNM's can legally attend homebirths, and the closest ones to me are 3-4 hours away and won't travel this far.</div>
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This is also what I'm dealing with.<br><br>
I hope things work out for you.
 

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Hope you find a midwife who will work with you at home.<br><br>
There was a thread here about home birthing twins...maybe you could find it and get some helps from others who have had twins at home.
 

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I wish I had some advice, but alas I do not.<br><br>
BUT, you won't hear any gasps of shock from me either! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Though you might find me in awe and wonder. I think home birthing is so friggin amazing.<br><br>
Just wanted to pop in and wish you lots of luck in finding a brave and competent midwife and an opportunity to birth at home.
 

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Thank you for the support, ladies! And thank you, Lori, for the link to the woman who birthed her twins in her pole dancing studio since it wasn't legal to birth them in the birth center <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I just sent her a PM... so hopefully she'll let me in on how she convinced the midwives to work with her!!!
 

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Have you thought about your comfort level with unassisted childbirth? I think if someone told me that I couldn't have a homebirth for a reason that I didn't think was legitimate, I would get as much info as I could on UC and give that a shot.
 

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I am SOOO sad to hear that people can not have homebirths.<br>
I am SO lucky to be in a place where it doesnt matter... I can have a midwife do what ever i want <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
and I think that is the way it should be.<br>
I dont think the state should have ANYTHING to say about how you birth your baby... how rude.<br><br>
I hope you get this mess all worked out. GOOD LUCK! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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This was my #1 reason for hoping beyond hope that I had only one baby in there (and I do). I would be so pissed off if someone told me that I had to go to the hospital. I would definitely seriously consider the UC thing, especially as a second or subsequent birth. You live in the Bay Area, so you're not far from lots of hospitals. You can always transfer. My personal wish would be to have a midwife or someone there as a doula, even if they're not comfortable delivering you themselves. Then you would have someone with some medical knowledge on-hand to help you decide if you need to transfer.<br><br>
Have you tried contacting <a href="http://blossombirth.org/" target="_blank">Blossom Birth</a> down in Silicon Valley? It's a nice community of naturally-minded women and service providers. Perhaps someone could point you in the right direction? I'm also aware of one midwife a bit further south than that who is known as a renegade. Perhaps she could point you toward someone in the area who would be willing to help in some fashion? PM me if you want that name.<br><br>
Good luck -- we're rooting for you! Remember that no one can tell you what you're "allowed to do." It's up to you to decide that for yourself.
 

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When I was pregnant with twins, I found this site: <a href="http://www.earthbirthproductions.com/" target="_blank">http://www.earthbirthproductions.com/</a>
 

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I was going to suggest viewing the Psalm and Zoya dvd. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I can empathize with you, but I don't have any solid leads on midwives for you.<br><br>
I'm going UC with a singleton and I'm pretty sure that's where I'd go if there were two as well.
 

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i have many a time worried what i would do in your situation. i would want a homebirth for twins..it just seems like the odds are stacked so freaking high at the hospital! good for you for having the faith that your body concieved this way and can complete the process naturally as well. i am just so shocked that a place like the bay area would be so limiting! please let us know what you discover....
 

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I have a promising midwife lead! We're going to set up a meeting! Hooray! Now I hope that she's a good match and that DH and I can afford this... sometimes w/twins you end up with multiple attending midwives... good for the babies, bad for the bank!<br>
Anyway, I'll keep you updated as things progress...
 

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I believe that Harriet Palmer, who is down on the Peninsula (Los Altos, perhaps?) has occasionally attended homebirths of twins over the years. You might contact her for ideas.
 

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Fantastic! I'd love to hear more.
 

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Too bad Minnesota's not close to you! My MW delivered twins shortly after Thanksgiving. Hardly a blip on the radar for her. She had an extra MW and 2 students there, but they probably would have been anyhow. I'm measuring very large for 14 weeks (uterus past naval) and am now not so concerned with worrying about having twins at home!
 
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