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I'm sorry if this has been addressed a hundred times, but I don't have time to do a search right now!<br><br>
We are passing through day three now....home from the hospital, and my milk is not in yet. What do I do in the meantime? I am nursing him constantly, but it's like he doesn't want to half the time and is pulling off after ten sucks and then cries. He has now started biting me when I try to latch him....which I guess is a completely different subject!<br><br>
I had supply issues due to PCOS with my last babe, so I'm doing everything I can to make milk. I know that getting sleep is important in making milk, but the baby doesn't sleep unless he's attached to the boob or in my arms making it pretty impossible for me to sleep.<br><br>
Help please! I do not plan to offer a bottle, but I have thought about supplementing with an SNS. If my milk takes another two days to come in I don't know if I'll still be sane!
 

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If I was you, I'd get a BFing-friendly sling, or just stay in bed with bubby, and just let him stay attached to the boob constantly. Take any offers of help from anyone, get them to do your housework or help with the older bub. Do not supplement with formula - this will not help your supply. Let your baby suck suck suck and everything will turn out fine. I know it's worrying. Have you tried a nice warm bath for you and bubby? Skin to skin contact is great and the warm water will hopefully relax you both too. Just keep on keeping on.
 

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First of all, congratulations!<br><br>
Second, I would strongly advise you to learn to nurse while lying down--it's pretty easy to learn and is a total lifesaver! Most babies need to nurse pretty much constantly during those first few weeks--and thats the best way to get a good milk supply up and going. I know you said that he is pulling off and screaming--my suggestion for that is to just keep on trying. And with the biting--wait till his mouth is open WIDE. He will eventually get it and as long as he is filling diapers appropriately then he is getting enough. He is prob getting more than you think--newborn's little tummies can hold such a tiny amount. He is only three days old and it does take a little time for some babies to get the hang of nursing. The more he is at the breast the sooner your milk should come in. Also, you may not realize that your milk has come in with second and subsequent babies--my milk kind of snuck in with babies #2 and #3 instead of arriving with gutso as with baby #1. And all of my babies were the same: there was no sleep for anyone unless the baby was attached to the breast! I understand how frustrating it can be to teach a baby how to nurse but pls rememeber that your breast and baby were meant for each other Could you contact a lactation consultant? If you have to pay for a consultant it is well worth the money in the long run (and the short run). Or you could call your local La Leche chapter. Anyway, just throwing suggestions out there. Those first few weeks are so rough. It does sound like you are doing what you can--just keep it up and absolutely try to nurse while lying down so you can get some rest!
 

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Congrats on your little one! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
It is totally normal to go three days or more on colostrum only.<br><br>
I had my DD on a Wednesday morning and my milk didn't come in until Monday night. Not a single person, doctor, nurse, etc. ever suggested supplementing.<br><br>
She's now 5 months old and doing great, 100% EBF.<br><br>
Try not to worry about it - the stress can't help!
 

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My milk came in on day four (or was it five? it all ran together what with the no-sleeping etc <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ), and it never occurred to me to supplement. I'm pretty sure that's a normal timeframe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Newborns are all "mixed up" with regards to night and day, and nursing constantly is normal and healthy, as are sleepless nights the first week.<br><br>
Yes, they DO have tiny stomachs. As long as he's soaking his diapers, he's getting enough.<br><br>
Hang in there! I bet in another 24-48 hours you'll have more milk than you even want! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks for the replies everyone....I guess I forgot to add the part that he is NOT making enough diapers. He had about 8 dirty diapers his first 36 hours, but now has not had one in over 24 hours. Also, only two wet ones in 24 hours. This is why I"m so worried.
 

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i had the exact same problem my mom had me supplement with a bottle a little bit at night so i could get some sleep. that made me feel terrible but i did get some sleep. but for upping your supply fenugreek works wonders! and there is a tea for nursing moms that works very well too although i don't really care for the taste i have to put a ton of sugar in it. if you have honey it will be much better im sure.<br>
my baby is now 19 weeks. but it took me almost 10 days for my milk to finally come in real good. it started to come in around 5 days but just wasn't enough for dd yet. it was so hard on me, but hang in there and try the fenugreek. i didnt' hear of fenugreek til later on but it really does work very well. i had gotten sick and my supply went way down i used a little fenugreek and i had more milk than i knew what to do with lol. but seriously try it.<br>
love ya hope everything works out for you.
 

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It took me 5 days for my milk to come in. He was a tiny bit jaundiced and had some "dehydrated" diapers (red rusty crystals) but my milk came in the next day and he was fine. Just keep nursing. I agree about getting a wrap, putting it on without a shirt underneath so that baby's against your skin and can nurse whenever he wants. You could try getting in the bathtub with warm deep water and nursing there. Good luck--keep us posted.
 

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rule of thumb for wet diapers is this:<br><br>
one the first day<br>
two the second day<br>
three the third day<br>
and so on until your milk comes in.... I bet it comes in soon!!
 

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You are getting great advice here. Your milk WILL come. Just keep that babe attached to the boobies, okay? These first days are the most difficult; you two are still trying to work things out. I will never forget those first days! It's very frustrating, but also fleeting (although you'd not know it now!) In the next few days, you'll be working out a rythm, okay? Hang in there and whatever you do, don't supplement. Your baby needs the colostrum and even though it seems as if he's not staying on your breast long enough, he is getting some.<br><br>
ETA that making sure the babe's mouth is WIDE open and kind of "ramming" him into the boob is good advice and helped me in those first days with my second. His mouth has to cover your areola (or most of it).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">rule of thumb for wet diapers is this:<br><br>
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You don't need as many diapers in that first week.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I had similar issues but my milk didn't come in for almost 7 days (c-sec with a pretty bad hemorrhage afterwards) and by day 3 she absolutely refused to nurse on me anymore (after being latched on pretty much constantly up until that point). It was a battle from that point on to get her to latch onto me again and I eventually used a small amount of formula (which just killed me) and some of my friend's pumped breastmilk through an SNS. It took until about day 5-ish before I could get her to latch back onto me pretty easily and by then I was starting to have a little bit of milk coming through.
 

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It was day 5 for my second son. He cried, but did fine. I agree that feeding laying in bed is the way to go to get some much-needed rest.
 

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Heather, how are things going?
 
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