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Anyone else with a high needs child sort of addicted to their child'a adoption story? I have noticed that I rely on it when I am not getting my own way. So far I have only used it for really good reason, but if a doctor tells me they aren't accepting new patients and dd needs to see this specialist, I tell her story and they make me an appointment.<br><br>
It is easy now because dd is so young, but as she gets older, her story is her story. I just wonder if this is a common temptation.
 

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I don't know your child's story, but I certainly tell my child's story when I need help from a professional. I don't consider it using or abusing her story. I consider it presenting the relevant information to get her the services she needs. She is 12, and I don't necessarily consider the information her private information when it comes to medical/psychological services. It's information that the professionals need to adequately treat her.<br><br>
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FWIW, I think it's slightly different when you're telling it in the context of a professional that is forbidden by law to disclose private information unless you give permission, vs. telling it at Cold Stone Creamery to get a free ice cream cone.<br><br>
I applaud you for keeping this in the back of your mind though. Sometimes the adoption story can be used in ways that become uncomfortable to the adoptee in the future, or it becomes so commonplace that the parent telling starts to not think about when it's appropriate and when it's to get strokes for themselves. Sometime the line is quite thin.<br><br>
With medical stuff, to be honest, our system is so effed up that if you have a circumstance that's going to get you in to the doctor that you need to get into, I have a lot of sympathy for doing what it takes.
 

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i don't think it is "abuse" -- we all have a different set of circumstances....and sometimes they are not visable and need to be expalined ...... a child with a food allergy that could kill them, my newphew with POH, a child tha ti now 2 or 3 but was pre-mee and has continuesing issues due tot hat expereince........<br><br>
many people (like the doctors office you site) are willing to make exceptions when there is a real need...... the Ped Allergist that now sees my nephew with deadly food allergies was not accepting new clients either, but when reading a letter about how sever M's reastion to his mom's milk was -- he took the case as it was a "really bad need".<br><br>
the fact remains some kids need some services more than some other -- DN needed that specialist more than one of my other DN with just normal, though very miserible, pollen allergies........and i think it is right to advocate for your child in thoese situations, and make the needs known.<br><br>
I agree with pp who pointed out you are just presenting relvant data regarding your daughter.<br><br>
Aimee
 
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