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First of all, hello! I've just moved over to this board with my BFP this week! I also have a question at this point that I'd like to ask you more experienced ladies:<br><br>
My extended family is planning a vacation to NC in April, and are trying to figure out who is coming. I'd really like to go, but I will be 37 weeks at that point, and I'm worried about travelling when I'm that pregnant. It'll be either a flight (probably with a connection) or a 12 hour drive one way. The vacation itself will probably be fine though, my family is pretty laid back, and if I want to sit by the pool for the whole week, that'd be fine. These vacations usually involve sitting by the pool, sitting by the beach, cooking out, playing with the kids etc, so not too intense. Several of my cousins will have newborns or infants (I'm somehow the last to get pregnant).<br><br>
Do you think I'd be ok to go? Or at least to plan to go - everyone would understand if I had to back out for pregnancy related reasons, but I don't want to tell them I'm going if its very likely that I'll be unable to.
 

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If you're flying, some airlines won't allow pregnant women to fly during the third trimester-some will allow with a letter from your caregiver. Also, most OB's (my only experience), don't want you to be outside of the general area after about 36 weeks or so.<br><br>
I would check with your caregiver before making any plans. Personally, I wouldn't be going on a vacation like that at 37 weeks, caregiver's OK or not, but that's just me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You may want to check with your insurance company; mine will not pay any non-network labor/delivery costs if you're outside their regular coverage area at 37w or beyond.<br><br>
I flew regularly for work throughout my first pregnancy, but stopped at about 32 weeks, and by that point, I was glad to be finished; airplanes are definitely NOT designed for heavily pregnant women!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> As for a 12-hour car trip, I know I would be miserable, but again, you might be one of the lucky ones.<br><br>
Ultimately, I think you're probably better off underestimating your energy/ambition levels in late pregnancy, and enjoying a pleasant surprise if you're feeling better than you expected.<br><br>
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Thats a hard one! I think it would be relaxing and fun and a great distraction for the woes of later pregnancy but the travel is pretty long. I dont think they will let you fly but could you break up the drive and stay in a great hotel to break up that first day of driving?<br><br>
Its something that you will have to decide based on how you feel then. If I felt good I would go for it though.<br>
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I would not. Both my girls were born at 38.5 weeks (not induced or anything), so I would not risk going into labor and giving birth far from home. A week long vacation at 37 weeks would be cutting it too close, IMO From your sig it looks as though this is your first baby, so you really have no idea when you will give birth. Sure, it could not be until 41 weeks...but it could also be 37 weeks. You just don't know.<br><br>
Is there anyway the vacation could be planned for a few weeks earlier? I woudln't go at 37 weeks, but I probably would at 34/35.<br><br>
There is also a genetic component to how long one gestates. In both my family and my husband's family all babies have been born before their due dates (spontaneously). If you know that BOTH your family and the father's family have gone past due dates then you might be okay risking it. However, if the father's gestational length (and that of any of his siblings) is unknown then I do think you are putting yourself at risk of giving birth farm from home with an unfamiliar care provider and possibly having to travel long distance with a very,very,very new baby.
 

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If you chose to go I too would drive and break it up into shorter legs. And bring emergency birth supplies just in case, although I doubt you want your first birth to happen like that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I really don't think it's a very good idea to be traveling that far away. I'd do maybe a 3-4 hour away trip, but definately not much farther. I am PG w/ twins, and my family is doing something similar when I'll be around 25 weeks and I will not be going simply b/c I do not want to add any stress to my already stressed body. I know that chances are I"d be fine, but I am not willing to risk it, KWIM?
 

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Not a good idea, IMO. 37 weeks is generally considered full term. Your baby could come at any time then. I assumed with my first pregnancy that my son would be born between 40-41 weeks, since that was supposed to be "normal" for a first-timer. But no -- my water broke at 37 weeks exactly.<br><br>
I you go and then your labor starts while you're away then your options are, I assume, labor and deliver in an unfamiliar hospital, with care providers that did not attend your pregnancy, and then transport your newborn back home by plane or by a very long car ride (newborns are really not supposed to be in car seats for long periods of time because there tends to be an effect on their breathing after 30 minutes or so, they are not getting as much oxygen as they need). Your other option besides delivering in NC is trying to get back to Chicago, but with the typical labor being about 12 hours long, well that really doesn't seem feasible either.<br><br>
I would not travel more than about 2 hours from home after 36 weeks.
 

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I flew to a work-related conference at 35 weeks into my last pregnancy. It was tolerable, but definitely not fun, and I ended up canceling a shorter (1 hour flight) trip 2 weeks later, even though my OBGYN was fine with it. Just too uncomfortable and worrisome. This time around, I've done 2 family vacations fairly far along: traveled cross-country with my 3 year old at 27-29 weeks, and spent a week at the beach, 4 hours away on crazy, twisty roads, from 31-32 weeks. Both of these were okay, but the latter was pretty uncomfortable. For me, long car rides after about 30 weeks are tough.<br><br>
And I'm at 37 weeks now, and if someone proposed a 12 hour drive or a flight with a connection, I'd probably slug them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It depends so much on the person and on how your pregnancy progresses, but right now, I'm really just wanting to stay close to home as I finish gestating. If you need to decide pretty far in advance, I think I'd lean toward not going. And if you decide to book the flight, make sure your tickets are refundable!
 

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I wouldn't go at 37 weeks.<br>
We are planning a trip for when I'm 35 weeks, and I'm nervous about that! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I flew at around 37wks, and no one said anything to me! I got a few looks from passengers and on the way home, the plane had to stop half-way to let a passenger off for medical reasons and a couple people said they thought it was me having the baby! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> You just have to have a letter from your caregiver that they ok it--just in case someone asks. And I would MUCH rather fly (non-stop) somewhere than drive at that point. Also, I would consider making your trip only 2-3 days instead of all week. By the end of the week you'd be 38wks....
 

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I had my daughter at 37 weeks. I couldn't have imagined going on a plane trip or a long car trip at the time. I would hate for you to go into labor in an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar midwives/doctors. Since this is your first baby (I'm assuming) you may not want to take the chance of spontaneously going into labor while you're away on this trip. Sorry, that's probably not what you want to hear. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Have you told your family that you're pregnant yet? It's quite possible that your family will be quite excited by your news and feel that this changes things a lot.<br>
I wouldn't do a journey like that later than 33/34 weeks. Apart from anything else, the risk of DVT from sitting still in a car or on a plane is pretty significant when you're pregnant and close to birthing.
 

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Yeah, that's kinda what I figured. I will probably plan to not go. I haven't told anyone but my mom yet, and she thinks it's a pretty tough time to be away from home too. Unfortunately it's being scheduled around school vacations, so it really can't be moved for just me. They will totally understand why I can't go once I tell them I'm pregnant, and could probably squeeze me in if I decide I feel up to it when it gets close.<br><br>
Thanks everyone for the little dose of reality. I've never done this before, I'm not sure what to expect! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I was considering something similar to get to my oldest (not in age!) friend's wedding in Italy at about 37 weeks. The airlines here won't consider you after 36 weeks (sometimes 34) so I investigated the train. It would be a 20 journey, so overnight. I really wanted to go and nearly made the arrangements but something held me back. From what I remember, this journey would have been fine in my 1st pregnancy - I had much more energy and fewer aches/pains.<br><br>
I am now 35.5 weeks along and I struggle with the 2 hour car journeys we have been making recently to visit DP's mother in hospital. We don't travel both ways in one day, and still I end up with serious discomfort/pressure on my cervix and increased BHs. Apart from the physical discomfort - at this point I am so low in energy that I am really not up for doing anything much. I love just relaxing and am so glad that I don't have that journey ahead of me next week!
 

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I would not go, I went into labor in my 37th week, first pregnancy. Yikes to be far away from my MW--Or to have to sit in the car for 12 hours in pre-labor.<br><br>
I wouldn't worry about whether or not you feel up to it, you will probably feel fine.<br>
That's deep into "you might have the baby today" territory.
 

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I'm normally very lax about travel in pregnancy, but NO WAY would I go at 37 weeks. Mainly because at 37 wks 1 day, dd was born, after exactly 12 hours of labor. You are full term at 37 weeks, and I would not want to risk having dc while 12 hours away from home. Or worse yet, while in the car, driving home!
 

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I wouldn't do it. I am actually backing out of an overnight this weekend because I'm just too exhausted to imagine doing anything! I'm 35 weeks today... I could not have imagined how tired I'd be at this point - I felt GREAT until a couple of weeks ago and thought I'd be totally up for it.<br><br>
Airlines will not let you fly at that point, so you'd be driving. With potty breaks every hour or so, you're also looking at more time driving than you may be expecting... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
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i probably wouldn't go either, and i traveled a lot in my third trimester (weekend wedding a 3.5 hr flight away at 35 weeks, 8 hr drive for a long weekend at 36 weeks). i'd primarily be worried about the insurance costs of delivering on vacation.<br><br>
however, i KNEW i'd go late with DD. just an intuition thing, but i was certain. so, i felt totally comfortable making my trips. i also carried small and high, so i didn't have to use the bathroom any more than anyone else. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 
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