I am a bit frustrated. I had a csect that never should have happened. Basically, the doctor induced me a week and a half early which caused the need for the csect. He tried to tell me to never try to give birth vaginally ever again. Fortunately, I did not listen to him and I went elsewhere. It took some looking, but I found a doctor who was fine with vbac. I had a vbac with no episiotomy and such. She was 8 pounds 3 ounces and my healthiest child ever. The next baby was vbac too. But then with the next, the doctor changed his mind when I went in to labor and lied to me and told me I had previa. I believed him and consented to the csect only to find out after the delivery, from a different doctor (the perinatalogist) that I never really had previa. So, I searched hard for the next doctor. Found one that agreed to vbac. But, she pulled the rug out about 4 weeks before my due date and said they would not do vbacs anymore so consent to a csect or be dropped. I always have regretted to giving in to her. DH told me not to, but I did. I was sooo stupid. stupid stupid stupid. I hate her. So that was my 3rd csect.
Then 3 yrs ago, I was in a car accident which broke my water. I was way too early to have the baby so they spent many hours trying to stop the labor and get my fluid to refill. Instead, the baby died inside and once they stopped trying to stop the labor, which was not working anyway as I was having huge horrible contractions every 3 minutes for 18 hrs...I gave birth right away vaginally then. It is very sad that he died. But in the experience, I remembered how much easier vaginal births were to deal with and how much I cannot stand to be sliced open when I do not need to be.
So now I am desparate to have a vbac and not a csect. I am scared of dying from a csect. My last csect, they put the epidural so high that I could barely breathe. Each one of my csect babies ended up needed extra help after the birth related to the csect, fluid in the lungs and jaundice (csect was done 3 weeks early) and so on. My incisions never heal well. If I am forced in to an unwanted major abdominal surgery, I know I will have postpartum depression, something I have only had after csects. And people die from csects. I don't want to die.
To top it off, dh and I would like 1 more child. I will be 39 when this baby is born. So, dh and I do not want to return to birth control after the baby is born. But if I have a csect, and I get pregnant again right away (which has happened before) then the pregnancy will be extremely high risk. So basically, I would be forced to use birth control if I have a csect. Whatever happened to my body, my choice?
Anyway, I am having a hard time finding support groups now and vbac info. I have already been to ican-online, but I was also hoping to have a comparison of vbac risks vs repeat csect risks. I have noticed when people list risks of csects, they only list initial csect risks and stats. Even then, you are hard pressed to find any stats. I have not found any actually. But with vbac, they include stats from women who were induced and even women who used cervidel (cervidel has a 5% rupture rate in women who have never had prior csects). Since I do not plan to induce and I have had prior vbacs, I am at one of the lowest risks for vbac possible. Why do doctors, when pushing csects on you, ignore the risks of csects? They are risky!!! And I have never had one without complications. And the recovery is awful.
Anyway, so if anyone can help, that would be great. With links to info or support groups or so on. Thanks!
Then 3 yrs ago, I was in a car accident which broke my water. I was way too early to have the baby so they spent many hours trying to stop the labor and get my fluid to refill. Instead, the baby died inside and once they stopped trying to stop the labor, which was not working anyway as I was having huge horrible contractions every 3 minutes for 18 hrs...I gave birth right away vaginally then. It is very sad that he died. But in the experience, I remembered how much easier vaginal births were to deal with and how much I cannot stand to be sliced open when I do not need to be.
So now I am desparate to have a vbac and not a csect. I am scared of dying from a csect. My last csect, they put the epidural so high that I could barely breathe. Each one of my csect babies ended up needed extra help after the birth related to the csect, fluid in the lungs and jaundice (csect was done 3 weeks early) and so on. My incisions never heal well. If I am forced in to an unwanted major abdominal surgery, I know I will have postpartum depression, something I have only had after csects. And people die from csects. I don't want to die.
To top it off, dh and I would like 1 more child. I will be 39 when this baby is born. So, dh and I do not want to return to birth control after the baby is born. But if I have a csect, and I get pregnant again right away (which has happened before) then the pregnancy will be extremely high risk. So basically, I would be forced to use birth control if I have a csect. Whatever happened to my body, my choice?
Anyway, I am having a hard time finding support groups now and vbac info. I have already been to ican-online, but I was also hoping to have a comparison of vbac risks vs repeat csect risks. I have noticed when people list risks of csects, they only list initial csect risks and stats. Even then, you are hard pressed to find any stats. I have not found any actually. But with vbac, they include stats from women who were induced and even women who used cervidel (cervidel has a 5% rupture rate in women who have never had prior csects). Since I do not plan to induce and I have had prior vbacs, I am at one of the lowest risks for vbac possible. Why do doctors, when pushing csects on you, ignore the risks of csects? They are risky!!! And I have never had one without complications. And the recovery is awful.
Anyway, so if anyone can help, that would be great. With links to info or support groups or so on. Thanks!