[lnitti]

dd is 8 months old and has slept with us from birth. This morning, he started saying he thought it was unhealthy for her to sleep with us and we should put her in a crib.

I was very upset!! I tried to explain how it was very healthy and natural, etc.

I'm just so upset by his comments.

 

[crlacey80]

Sorry to hear about your DH. I can't offer any advise, but wanted to give you a bump.

 

[alegna]

Don't let his ignorance upset you. Next time he says something so foolish, look at him like he has three heads and say something along the lines of "now what on earth would make you think THAT?" No other mammal leaves their baby offspring to sleep alone, why should we?

-Angel

 

[lumi]

I understand how upsetting it can be to have your DH make such comments, but, that said, I think you should talk with him (later, when you're not as upset) and try to find out what his reasons are for suddenly objecting to an arrangement he has been fine with up to this point. It's likely that he has other reasons for wishing to move your daughter to a crib - is she sleeping more restlessly and affecting his sleep, for example? Or is he feeling left out and wanting you to himself a bit more? I'm sure he wants what's best for your DD just as you do, I hope you can work this out.

 

[cinnamonamon]

I think this was about the time that dh started having a hard time with us cosleeping as well. Come to find out, ds was interrupting dh's sleep. He is a light sleeper & cannot stand ANYONE touching him while he sleeps & at 6 months Ian started flailing around more. We ended up moving to a modified co-sleeping arrangement -- although buying a king sized bed would have probably been a good choice too.

There's also a chance that your dh has been listening to other people at his work, etc. Would he read a good book that explains why co-sleeping is not only unharmful, but beneficial? My friend's dh had been "exposed" to the Baby Whisperer book & worried they were doing it all wrong, until I lent them my Dr. Sears Nighttime Parenting book. He just needed reasurance that they weren't going against all the "experts."

Or maybe your dh is trying to tell you he's missing time with just the two of you cuddling in bed? If you have a 2nd bed in the house perhaps you could put dd in there for a bit at the beginning of the night so dh can feel special...dh's are (after all) our first child.

:LOL

 

[phathui5]

If health is the issue, you can look at the co-sleeping articles on the Mothering site. You can also google for information by James McKenna.

 

[Mindy70]

My DH kicked dd out of our bed at about the same age. He wanted our privacy back. While it is upsetting, you have to come to a compromise- if your DH is unhappy and the situation is tense, that will not be good for the baby either.

What we did was I co-slept with dd on a twin mattress on the floor in her room, and kind of rotated between two beds. Eventually, she slept longer and longer alone in the bed w/o any problems- like I would nurse her down, go to bed with DH, and go sleep with her when she woke up to nurse around 1:00 AM. That worked pretty well for us. Now she sleeps the whole night in her bed.