the vaccination thread really got me thinking about this and remembering how frustrated I was when mothers of full term babies would try to give me advice or tell me something about my child that was in no way helpful to the point of absurity in not knowing what it was like to have a premature baby and having a whole other set of rules in how to raise your child and what to think about.
Like, how many mothers of FT babies
-had to take CPR before being allowed to take their child home?
-had to manage an oxygen tank, feeding tubes, gtube, pumps, or stomas when home?
- see 5 doctors a month for the first few months for their child
- not have their child on the growth chart and knwo that the advice - oh they will eat when they are hungry really mean absolutely nothing.
- really know that your baby could (and had) have a random apnea or bradycardia spell at home and that you constantly watched their breathing, adn their breathing rate.
- worry about taking their child out into the wide world of germs we live in?
- not be able to hold your child for weeks.
- that newborn pictures of your child full of IV's , ventilators, O2, or other monitors?
it still gets to me, over a year later, when mothers of FT children assume anything about my child, esp. related to health, and give me advice not knowing, or being able to fully comprehend, the hell we went through to have our babies, and what we have to do to not only keep them healthy, but to get them up to speed with their actual age.
it's just frustrating. thanks for letting me vent.
Like, how many mothers of FT babies
-had to take CPR before being allowed to take their child home?
-had to manage an oxygen tank, feeding tubes, gtube, pumps, or stomas when home?
- see 5 doctors a month for the first few months for their child
- not have their child on the growth chart and knwo that the advice - oh they will eat when they are hungry really mean absolutely nothing.
- really know that your baby could (and had) have a random apnea or bradycardia spell at home and that you constantly watched their breathing, adn their breathing rate.
- worry about taking their child out into the wide world of germs we live in?
- not be able to hold your child for weeks.
- that newborn pictures of your child full of IV's , ventilators, O2, or other monitors?
it still gets to me, over a year later, when mothers of FT children assume anything about my child, esp. related to health, and give me advice not knowing, or being able to fully comprehend, the hell we went through to have our babies, and what we have to do to not only keep them healthy, but to get them up to speed with their actual age.
it's just frustrating. thanks for letting me vent.