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arggghghhhhh SUMMER!<br><br>
every single day since summer, just when i get the babies to sleep, ding dong DAMN. i have asked & asked to pleazzzzzze not ring the doorbell when the kids are sleeping, & it is just not working. it's not just me, really: my husband, my 18 yr old, this kid drives everyone nuts. she can be very sweet, but she is much older than my toddlers & i find myself cringing when i step out the door 'miss susan, miss susan'.<br><br>
i am admittedly esp frazzled today as i wasn't able to get back to sleep when the baby wanted me at 3 am, and on app 3 hours sleep i get rather- edgy. but i could take this kid, my kids love her and that is a consideration (even if she wheedles, does not obey requests made for the children's safety & leads them into temptation, & is a general pita), EXCEPT the time when my kids nap- it is necessary to my sanity, and this is making me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">s (is that a smilie, simonee? it needs to be.)<br><br>
argh. if her mom was just oblivious it would be easier, but they do come up with 'i know she must be bothering you over there all the time', & of course i must grit my teeth & say, 'no, not at all.' (sometimes the best i can come up with is 'no more than my own kids'- a bald-faced lie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br>
i know i will probably have to talk to them sometime. but GAWD why can't they figure it out & forbid her to come 'ring, ring, ring' (of course, it will go on forever if i am naked & am trying to nurse them to sleep- which is rather better than WAKING them once i have) during obvious toddler naptime?<br><br>
i have almost electrocuted myself trying to disconnect my doorbell today. that's when i knew i had to come here & vent, lol. it has been a long time but soooo necessary (am i the only awful person somewhat glad that aquaintances are mainstream enough not to have to run into them here? talk about guilty pleasures.)<br><br><br>
arggghhhh.<br><br>
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suse<br>
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Welcome to my world. Really.<br><br>
I dont' even know how to dismantle our freakishly loud and annoying doorbell......
 

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Get someone to disconnect it for you. I got rid of mine, people are so annoying. I'm also going to stop answering my telephone and just let it go to voicemail because it never fails that the damn phone rings when I just drift off to sleep.
 

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Next time the mom says "she must be bothering you" say, "well actually, I enjoy having her over, but these are nap times at my house and also my quiet time, but I'm happy to have her over at 'suchandsuch a time' when the kids are awake again!"
 

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you are so sweet, wendy; of course, that's what a normal person would do (instead of one that has repressed to the point it feels like her head will explode- vent indeed. like a pressure cooker.)<br><br>
bethla, my phone has been on 'ringer off' since the boys were born. tends to annoy people; i just smile & think 'bite me'. that's what email is for. (voicemail too.)<br><br>
pumpkin, if you figure it out let me know. i see wires, i see screws, but am afraid to start poking further. i'm going to let my dh electrocute himself instead. i use power tools, but electricity freaks me out.<br><br>
i hate summer vacation (i unschool, it's always vacation at my house. but i'm not insane, they do go to mother's day out twice a week. and boy, does mom need a Day Out. knocked out. sleep.)<br><br>
blah. suse<br><br>
(does anyone feel guilty not being neighborhood mom, whom all kids adore & who wants them all at her place? i have a lot of the earth mama stuff down pat, like growing veggies and baking bread, but dang, a passel of kids not my own drives me up the wall. the guilt.)<br><br>
edit: not to imply that anyone who *doesn't* feel a need to escape from the kids a few hours a week is insane (i know moms of 5 who handle things much more smoothly than me with my boys); just that *i* would be. mercy, they can be rough.
 

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I'd talk to the mom and the girl and ask that they call before she comes over. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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:evil see above about 'phone' (on the other hand... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br>
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PM me please.<br>
I have a perfect solution for you, and am not sure whether it's "legal" or not to tell you about this on an open forum like this one.<br>
But a friend of mine, who is a mom that I met in Children's Hospital when both of our kids were there, had the EXACT same problem....
 

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How about sticking a little pushpin in over the doorbell and hanging a little sign over it saying something like "Shhh... naptime... please come back later". You may have to explain a couple of times what it means, but it shouldn't take more than that, or if it does, you could call the mom and have her explain to her kid... and you could put it up when you're not napping, too<br><br>
If you're not being honest with her mom about it bothering you, you can't really expect her to know...<br><br>
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yep. we had for months a sign taped OVER the doorbell, and it said "knock only please."<br><br>
eta - it was there during the months when not waking baby was most critical.
 

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Yeah, when DS was an infant and sleep was a luxury we put a little note above our doorbell asking people not to use between certain times.
 

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(does anyone feel guilty not being neighborhood mom, whom all kids adore & who wants them all at her place? i have a lot of the earth mama stuff down pat, like growing veggies and baking bread, but dang, a passel of kids not my own drives me up the wall. the guilt.)<br></div>
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No, I don't feel guilty at all. I will gladly be the neighborhood mom, when it suits though.<br><br>
I have told the boy down the street who does the "popover" all the time that it is polite to call before coming to someone's house - after the one time too many that he arrived while we were eating, painting, napping....or fill in the blank.<br><br>
Good luck with that doorbell.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">yep. we had for months a sign taped OVER the doorbell, and it said "knock only please."<br></div>
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Great solution to the doorbell problem, much less painful that way <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">you are so sweet, wendy; of course, that's what a normal person would do (instead of one that has repressed to the point it feels like her head will explode- vent indeed. like a pressure cooker.)<br></div>
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I've been there and like a PP said, unless you're telling the mom that her kid is bothering you, you can't expect her to know or do anything about it. At the point that you're at, I'd probably be likely to tell her off...but I'd also have told her long ago about nap times. I just figured telling her off wouldn't be ideal.
 

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I'm the neighborhood mom by selfish choice. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief"> I want to know where my kids are and who they are playing with.<br><br>
Wasn't a need when my kids were babies or toddlers, but now it is. I would rather be driven crazy than not know where they are. I might like other people's kids most of the time, but I certainly don't trust all of them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm the neighborhood mom by selfish choice. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief"> I want to know where my kids are and who they are playing with.<br><br>
Wasn't a need when my kids were babies or toddlers, but now it is. I would rather be driven crazy than not know where they are. I might like other people's kids most of the time, but I certainly don't trust all of them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:</div>
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This is me, too.
 

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I would do the sign over the doorbell thing too. Only I would take it a step further. I would show it to the little girl when you make it, tell her what the problem is, and explain how the sign is a solution. Tell her in kind but straightfoward words that if she comes to the door and sees the sign, she needs to tip-toe away quietly and not ring OR knock until the sign is removed and the kids are awake again. If it ends up that she does not respect the sign, THEN speak with her mother. But I bet she'll cooperate.
 

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well, the doorbell is down, & i have to say it is a relief, lol (i have my doubts about her respecting a sign, anyway- she tends to be selectively oblivious. if waking the kids up means she gets to play with them sooner...) now the door-pounding will just make the dog bark. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
but that invention you put up is a corker, granolly, i wish i'd seen it before we dismantled ours. a lifesaver for anyone whose problem is people who might actually respect the message.<br><br>
don't get me wrong about being grouchmama, btw- there are times i like to have bunches of kids over playing. just not all day. every day. i start feeling hunted, you know? sometimes i just like to enjoy my own kids. (and if they actually do what i ask so i don't have to hover constantly, making sure 6 yr olds didn't get into something that is childproofed for toddlers- pruning saws out of the toolshed! opening rabbit cages and letting them free! dismantling newly placed masonry work! spraying my excemaceous toddler with forbidden sunscreen that makes him break out & scream! etc- they are more than welcome.)<br><br>
i am glad that it's not just me. (and a night's sleep made a world of difference; i asked the baby if he possibly could just come see me for milk in the morning, instead of the usual middle of the night, & he obliged. wasn't that nice? bliss.)<br><br>
thanks, suse
 

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Do you have an entryway that's narrow? Just put up a child gate that prevents her from getting to the door at all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/FIREdevil.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="devil"><br><br>
No knocking, no doorbells. You'll only have to ignore her plantive pleading voice.
 

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Our doorbell went on the jinx shortly after we moved into our brand new house (quality construction - BAH!).<br><br>
I have never missed it! Occassionally we miss the UPS guy or almost miss the Chinese delivery person, but for the most part, it is worth not having a jarring noise interrupt our day. A gentle knock is so much more pleasant.<br><br>
Not sure what I will do if our next house has a working doorbell.
 
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