[Strong Mama]

Ugh. I am a sahm to 2 wonderful children. Dh worked(noticed the past tense) 65 hours a week in England, two months ago. I did everything except for the bill paying, and odd jobs around the house as dh worked nights and is also disabled. No problemo. Well, we have moved to America at the end of june, and since then, dh and i both are at home with the boys, doing nada. Well, dh is doing nada. Oh, *looking* for jobs, as our savings goes downhill, I forgot to mention that. While I LOVE dh spending time with us, I dont love the fact that I am still doing everything while dh sits on his bazooka. I mean, GAWD he is home too now!! He is doing some occasional cooking at least. I wish he would get a job! I have threatened to get one myself but he wants me home with him!

 

[mamacatsbaby]

Sounds like your DH has it made! If he's going to enjoy all this family fabulousness he should at least help you out, sheesh!

 

[MamaTaraX]

Kick him in the butt! HARD!!
My DH worked for his family for twenty years. For the first 6 years of my oldest son's life, which included the first year of our second son's life, he was gone 14 hrs a day, 5-7 days a week. Then his family closed the business. He saved a bunch of money and now he's home. All the time. All day everyday. NOw he works from home with his dad. THe man sleeps all the friggin' time, only does stuff when I ask him to. I told him that if he's going to be home with us, he's going to live like he's here. Help around rthe house, help with the kids, and not whine about it. I getu p when they do. If I am sick or whatever, I'm up. Him? No. He had diarrhea (sorry) yesterday and the two littlest for a whole hour and a half and that just "wiped him out" Well WAH. Get up and help! The 3-yr-old totally TRASHED the house while I was gone in the morning and then the 3 and 7 yr old trahsed some more when I was goine in the evening. DH didn't life a finger. He was up all night, so was I, except that I was up all night holding dna feeding and entertaining children. ARGGH.

Seriously,tell your man that if he's home, he has to act like it. Being home IS A JOB TOO. So he needs to get up off his arse and WORK. And if he's not working at home, he needs to gethis butt back out there working somewhere else. If two able-bodied adulrs are in the house, they need to both be able-bodily caring for it! Yeah, this cheeses me off because I live it every single day!
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Namaste, Tara

 

[MysteryMama]

i actually went through the same thing for 3 months last winter. i was pregnant and dh got fired. well while i had a job and worked waiting tables, dh was home for 3 months before he found a job and did nothing at all around the house but make a mess. well i decided that since i was the only one working at the time, it wasn't my responsibility to take care of the house. needless to say, the house went to shit.

 

[MysteryMama]

oh and welcome to America, home of the lazy ass husband.

 

[starry_mama]

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Originally Posted by jeannie81 oh and welcome to America, home of the lazy ass husband.

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[craftymom]

I feel your pain, but mine has an end in sight. My dh teaches and has summers off. Once in awhile he even grills dinner, but mostly he watches TV, gets dragged to the beach by me and kiddos, "works on the computer" (reads sports articles online). I clean, I do laundry, I make breakfasts lunchs most dinners, I shop for groceries and back to school, I push swings and play games and give kisses. I plan outings and pack. I schedule and go to dentist. I fill out and turn in school paperwork. I put in time volunteering at school. He runs a personal errand. He doesn't even put gas in his car! When I take it (we have carseat issues) it's always on E.

Can you talk him into doing some job searching at the library??? Here, they have great stuff there for job searches.

 

[kitchenwitch]

I know exactly how you feel! I have gone through the same thing! DH just started working this past June!