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We go to our first Bradley class tonight & I'm nervous<br><br>
I signed up for the class a long time ago & they have been postponed about 6weeks because no other couples signed up. The teacher finally said that we should just go ahead and start without any other couples. (The teacher is pregnant too & due in December - she sounds nice.) The classes will be at her house, which I knew when I signed up.<br><br>
My DP is kind of a "rough and tough" "manly" kind of guy. He doesnt have a lot of patience for certain things. He has been really good (suprisingly) about wanting to go to dr's appts, etc. even though he is really uncomfortable there (and he LIKES the midwife, lord knows if it was an OB he would be miserable.) I know he isnt excited about these classes, but he didn't require any pushing because he knew I felt it was important.<br><br>
Last night he said "so where is the class anyways?" and I told him (its in the neighboring town) and he said "oh, where?"<br><br>
Well, the lady lives in a sub-development that is known for being really... I dont know how to describe it. it is exactly middle class families, not wealthy but not poor, the houses are on top of each other, and they tend to be <b>really</b> main stream middle class "yuppie" types. I know if this lady is an advocate of HB & lives there she is probably pretty hippy-ish.<br><br>
We are not "crunchy" people. We both grew up way out in the country, and he isn't always very good at accepting people who are not familiar with that type of lifestyle. I guess we end up at the same ending point as crunchy people (home birth, cloth diapers, no formula, homegrown food, etc.) but its kinda like farmer joe vs. the southern california liberal 20 something, they both eat hormone free grass fed beef but one slaughtered it and one got it at the natural food store. Same ending point, different path.<br><br>
I do really good at switching gears. I work at a desk job and have for about 5 years, so I've gotta be able to work with all different kinds of people, but he only owns one pair of pants that arn't jeans and if you want him to wear them somebody better have died. He is virtually unable to engage in conversation with certain types of people.<br><br>
These classes are 12 weeks long!!! What am I going to do if he hates them?? I really thought there would be another 3-4 couples in the class, and with that many people I know he would be much more comfortable, but just us and the teacher & her hubby all I can imagion is a really akward situation. He already thinks that 12 weeks of classes in preparation for a one-day event that woman have done forever is kind of silly. (I'm sure some of you feel the same way - and I don't disagree, but I figured the class can't hurt anything)<br><br>
Any brainstorms to ease tension? Anyone taken a bradley class before who can offer any insight on the nature of the material?
 

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Well, I have to say that her neighborhood sounds a lot like ours so try not to worry too much. You'd be surprised how crunchy and natural someone in a middle/upper middle class subdivision can be. I think as long as the info she presents is what you're wanting, the place in which you receive it isn't important. Maybe email her and let her know that you're a little nervous about being the only ones in the class though you're very excited. Then at least she's aware of your feelings and can maybe help the nerves diminish. GL! Our Bradley classes start this week too!
 

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I could definitely see how you might feel awkward being one-on-one with the instructor, but I actually think it might be better for you guys, especially since your DH is so set in his ways. Think about it - he can ask whatever question he wants and not have an audience, not worry about what other people are thinking. You'll have the full attention of the instructor. I actually think it's kind of a good deal you've got there. Plus you guys can just be yourselves. I've never taken a Bradley class, but since they focus on the partner as coach, I think being one-on-one with the instructor is going to make your DH an excellent coach.
 

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Perhaps because it is just you and your DH class time can be consolidated to include more info...so maybe you can cover the same ground in 6-8 weeks as you would in 12 weeks with a "full class". Perhaps you can ask her if this is something she can do.<br><br>
My DH is not far off from yours so I can imagine how you must be feeling. As this is our 2nd we aren't taking any classes this time around, but DH was actually the one to initiate some conversation with one of the other couples in our class and 3 years later we are still very good friends with this other couple. So perhaps your DH may surprise you as well.
 

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Bradley classes are very information based. I think he will either tune out and not listen all that much or he will be interested in the information and pay attention. Either way, the teacher will have plenty to say and he can spend most of the class being relatively passive. There are some exercises to do and some relaxations, but they really don't ask a lot of their students. I just don't think he will really have to do anything that will make him feel too awkward.<br><br>
I hope that he can go into this with a good attitude and be a great support for you during your birth. If not, maybe there is a female who could attend the classes with you and then plan to attend the birth as your major support person?
 

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I hope that he can go into this with a good attitude and be a great support for you during your birth. If not, maybe there is a female who could attend the classes with you and then plan to attend the birth as your major support person?</div>
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Thats what I was wondering, how interactive it was. You all made me feel better. I'll update tomorrow on how it goes! So far w/ the whole pregnancy he has been really uncharacteristically sweet & helpful, and the past few weeks that I've really started showing he seems to get more & more excited, So he may just suprise me again.<br><br>
And if he does a really lousy job - i'll have my mom take over. she is wonderful (I could write an essay on how great she is in how many different ways - I have a hard time not going on and on about how good of a mom she is. I'm very lucky.)<br>
I also have two wonderful sisters, who are only 17 & 19, but would be really great in addition to my mom. I know they will probably help out the first few days when I'm feeling slow w/ laundry & dishes & just for company if DP can't take time off work then.
 
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