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i didn't want to put this in breastfeeding since it's not really a personal problem, but it's been bothering me more and more and i just need to vent a bit.<br><br>
my sister and i have babies 2 months apart, and very different parenting styles... she's much more traditional than me, and we tend to butt heads a lot when it comes to parenting decisions. i guess the easy answer would be just not to talk to her about it, but i'm making an effort to communicate more with her, and since i don't have a lot of friends with kids, there aren't a whole lot of people to talk to about baby stuff.<br><br>
anyway, about a month ago, when her baby was 4 months old, she started him on solids. she EPs, and seems to be doing fine, but i can't help but wonder if the extra trouble of EPing is leading her to kind of rush through the breastfeeding period. i saw a video of him eating a couple weeks later, and it makes me <i>sooo</i> mad. he's clearly NOT ready... his tongue is thrusting all over the place, shoving out the mouthfuls and she just keeps spooning it back in... and meanwhile they have this dialogue going where they're laughing about how excited he is to eat, but it looks more like he's kind of overwhelmed and pushing the spoon away. he can't sit up yet, and he doesn't have the hand coordination to bring anything to his mouth really.<br><br>
she even told me that i should start my baby on solids "early" (earlier than 4 months!?!) because she was a preemie and hasn't "built up" stores of vitamins. she is also under the impression that by 6 months she will have him all on solids with only 3 bottles of BM a day.<br><br>
i've brought it up a couple times (mostly just trying to understand where she's getting this info from) because i can't wrap my head around how we've managed to get such different ideas on feeding our babies, when we're both well-educated women with access to the same kind of health care, and the same upbringing (which was slightly less mainstream than her parenting style, and more so than mine.) it turns out the ped was pushing solids at the 4 month visit, and now a health visitor (UK thing) has been telling her that she should cut out ANOTHER bottle feeding in his already quite reduced bottle feeding schedule because it's "too many calories" and she should be giving him more solids instead. why are these practioners SO eager to reduce the amount of breastmilk a little baby gets, when they're simultaneously campaigning to increase the amount of moms who give BM? it seriously blows my mind.<br><br>
why are people in such a damn rush to get through babyhood? i feel like that's what it boils down to. she's in a rush to get him eating adult food and be done with breastmilk, she's in a rush to get him sleeping through the night, she's in a rush to get him napping predictably and without any help...<br><br>
i'm even starting to dread our family vacation this summer because my baby will be just 6 months old and i really don't intend to be giving any solids if she's not 100% ready for it, not to mention that i assume she'll still be sleeping in our bed and breastfeeding whenever she feels like. the comments are going to be interesting, that's for sure!<br><br>
i just want to savour this precious first year, when she's so little and needs me for everything... it'll be gone soon enough! i don't get why other people don't feel the same way!
 

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Plus side, by the time you see them, her ds won't be too young for the stuff they're feeding him. Just tell them your ds isn't ready for complementary foods if they ask.<br><br>
Dump a ton of information on complementary foods readiness right now, and by the time you see them she'll know to not start it with you.
 

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I dont really have similar experience but i have found these situations just really make you appreciate that every family is different. there isn't a right and wrong here, in this situation, even if we tend to think the things we are doing are the right ones. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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