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So I just called my baby's father to see where he is and he is going to be about an hour late for our second Lamaze class tonight! It only runs for two to two and a half hours. I suggested that he just not come tonight but he wants to.
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He was at a meeting today and I don't know why he couldn't have excused himself a little early to make the correct train.
 

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Thank you, Erika. I am trying not to feel down about it. We had discussed the train schedule on Monday and he knew that he had to leave right at 5 p.m. He even talked about how he would tell them that he had to make an appointment at 7 p.m. and leave if it went long! All this talk about how important it is to him, how he doesn't remember when I share information, he learns better in a class setting and he barely even looks at any information that I send him (sites, threads, etc.).

So he ended up being about 50 minutes late. The problem is that he decided to get a ride with someone, couldn't see them when it was time to go, got a ride with someone else, didn't realize that they weren't going to the train station that he needed to be at (How could that happen?! Don't you discuss that before getting into the car?), had to take a bus to get another bus.... on and on. It took him 2 hours and 50 minutes to make it when it should have taken 1 hour and 15 minutes.

I just feel so unsure with someone like that supposedly going to support my labour and delivery.
 

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I'm not laughing AT the situation you are in...ie a man who isn't as 'into' all the pg stuff as the woman. Trust me, I KNOW where you are coming from...men (and I"m speaking in generalities) tend to not see how important things in this realm are to us...they usually can't understand why we are so 'into it'...
I remember with baby #1 giving my dh things to read and explaining things to him...trying to get him to feel the baby move...and he tried to seem interested (what a trooper huh?) but really , he felt he couldn't do much until the day of the birth. I don't think he ever really read anything I gave him...and much of what I told him when in one ear and out the other. I am not sure it would've mattered in L&D anyways...he wa so emotional and 'scatterbrained' he was of VERY LITTLE help...the nurses were my saving grace. And this is why I am SOOOOOOOOOOO PRO doula!
 

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Emily - I know that you want your baby's father to be invloved as well, but do you have a really close, trustworthy friend who could come to these classes too, and be your backup birth buddy? That way if you're put in this horrid position again you at least have the comfort of knowing that someone is going to be there for you reliably...

I'm sorry he keeps letting you down
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