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Is anyone else starting to take a bit of easier breath now that we are almost all reaching the point of viability?<br><br>
Having had problems in the past (a car accident caused placental abruption at 17 weeks with DS) knowing that something going wrong could STILL result in a live child without spending weeks worrying that it will get worse and have nothing that can be done... its really a huge relief to me. Im only 23 weeks but even at this point, if it came down to leaving baby in and undoubtedly dying or taking baby out and having almost 50% chance of survival... there's that chance!<br><br>
of course, fingers crossed tightly for no micropremies (or premies at all for that matter!)<br><br>
but its such a breath of fresh air to know our babies have a fighting chance!
 

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Yes, I'm looking forward to it too. I'm only 21 1/2 weeks, but counting down the days. I had a friend who just lost her twins at 23 1/2 weeks just a month and a half ago <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> so it's fresh on my mind.
 

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This might sound weird, but no.<br><br>
I'm actually more stressed now about her gestational age, because honestly...being born anytime in the next few weeks would be BAD. BAD, BAD, BAD. I've followed a few micro-preemie stories, and my best friend works in a NICU, and I do NOT want that for any of my children. Truly good outcomes are rare, despite the claim of viability, and the pain involved in achieving those good outcomes seems so wrong.<br><br>
Before "viability" I felt very at peace with what would happen...the outcome would be out of my hands. But here, now? The outcome would be so difficult, so painful for the baby and for our family, that I pray "viability" doesn't come into play for us or for anyone here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Funny, with each pregnancy this milestone seems less significant. I was so into the 24 week thing with my first, I think since I am a nurse and remembered the significance, but after having an 11 week m/c the second time around I put so much significance on making it to 12 weeks and then the 18-20 week u/s being "normal" as a mother over 35 that I totally forgot about viability this time around. A girlfriend of mine has twins at 25 weeks this past winter and they are home and healthy now! It is amazing what medicine has achieved in terms of NICU care.<br>
That being said, I hope NO ONE in our DDC needs to worry about having a 24-37 week old baby! Lets all carry these babys to the end!<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">This might sound weird, but no.<br><br>
I'm actually more stressed now about her gestational age, because honestly...being born anytime in the next few weeks would be BAD. BAD, BAD, BAD. I've followed a few micro-preemie stories, and my best friend works in a NICU, and I do NOT want that for any of my children. Truly good outcomes are rare, despite the claim of viability, and the pain involved in achieving those good outcomes seems so wrong.<br><br>
Before "viability" I felt very at peace with what would happen...the outcome would be out of my hands. But here, now? The outcome would be so difficult, so painful for the baby and for our family, that I pray "viability" doesn't come into play for us or for anyone here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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Ditto.
 

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i am on the fence here too, i'm excited - yet scared of the complications that would be involved.. i don't want to go there, but i do feel a little better knowing that there would be a chance ..
 

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Well Im not HOPING any of us have a micropremie<br><br>
just as I said... I nearly lost my son at 17 weeks. Had I been as far along as I am, I would have at least known if everything went wrong inside of me, he had a fighting chance outside. Once I hit viability with him, I relaxed a lot more... knowing if everything went wrong, there was still a chance...<br><br>
but then I had just lost a baby at 13 weeks 2 months before getting pregnant with him so I suppose I have a bit different viewpoint.
 

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I'll be a lot more excited when I get to 32w...because of how dramatically outcomes improve then!<br><br>
But yes, it did seem like a milestone to me when I was talking to my grandma this weekend. One of her losses was at "5 months", which I assume to be right around 24w since they didn't count the same way back then. They called it a miscarriage and didn't let her see the baby or anything, just took it away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> She was stunned that my baby actually had a chance of living if born at the same gestation.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'll be a lot more excited when I get to 32w...because of how dramatically outcomes improve then!<br><br>
But yes, it did seem like a milestone to me when I was talking to my grandma this weekend. One of her losses was at "5 months", which I assume to be right around 24w since they didn't count the same way back then. They called it a miscarriage and didn't let her see the baby or anything, just took it away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> She was stunned that my baby actually had a chance of living if born at the same gestation.</div>
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yeah... my brothers were born at 26 weeks... in the early 70s... and the doctors figured the babies had no chance at all<br><br>
they made it 3 days before passing away (one from immature lungs, one from heart failure) and passed away within hours of each other (they were twins... if you didnt get that from what I already said)<br><br>
however, I have a cousin that was born right around 26 weeks 10 years ago who is now a healthy 10 year old.<br><br>
So yeah... any chance is better than none in my eyes... if it came down to it, i would rather my baby have the chance to fight than none at all.
 

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I have an acquaintance that lost her 36 weeker. Just died. Stillbirth.<br><br>
So........I'm not going to be happy till I have a healthy squeaker in my hands.<br><br>
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I hadn't thought too much about the "viable baby" aspect as just being happy I am now 24 weeks (today! yay!) because it starts the 6th month (if we're going by the weeks = month method, rather than the count backward from the due date method. Dang, figuring out pregnancy math is confusing...). I'm both frustrated by how slow the pregnancy is going and amazed by how fast it's going, depending upon the day!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I hadn't thought too much about the "viable baby" aspect as just being happy I am now 24 weeks (today! yay!) because it starts the 6th month (if we're going by the weeks = month method, rather than the count backward from the due date method. Dang, figuring out pregnancy math is confusing...). I'm both frustrated by how slow the pregnancy is going and amazed by how fast it's going, depending upon the day!</div>
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I am too!! I go by the weeks = months method too because that's what my midwives and all our hospitals use...might as well stay constant. I love getting to say "6 months pregnant" and not getting stared at for having a belly. LOL!<br><br>
I also am more nervous about viability at this point, for the same reasons as Red Oak Mama. The idea of a micropreemie is scary to me and I'm not sure that how I would deal.
 

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Same here. I think I will feel "safe" when I hit 32 weeks.<br><br>
I know two women who delivered full-term, still-born babies. It must have been heart-breaking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> So I know even if I make full-term, there is still no guarantee all will be okay. I keep saying my prayers for a healthy baby.
 

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I'm happy about the progress. I think it is certainly interesting to have a baby inside that could survive on its own - all thoughts of preterm delivery aside. The developmental milestones are so interesting to me from here on out. Sure, all those kidneys in the beginning were cool, but very alien.<br><br>
With all the SIDS and apnea in my family, even live birth isn't comforting to me. Baptism is my safety net and the moment I get to have a sigh of relief. So any progress is good and fun right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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It is definitely a thought that goes through my head, but having previously worked in the NICU I know all too well what it would entail. I have a happier thought in that regard at 28 weeks (because that seems to be a better point for most prems) and then again at 32 weeks. Mini milestones I guess!<br>
We had a scare that ds1 was going to make an appearance at 25/6 weeks and having to face the reality that I would become one of the families I was taking care of at work was scary. Luckily we avoided that one, and ended up going past dates.
 

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With my cervix doing all the stupid stuff it's doing, I'm not going to really breath easy until 27ish weeks. Viability is okay....but man, that's so not something I want to go through. I remember when DD was in the NICU all too well. She looked totallly ENORMOUS in there at 6 lbs, 11 oz, 19 inches. I'm already on pretty serious bed rest, cervix checks every week, pain and pressure if I stand up for more than a few minutes.
 

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Bri, that's awful I hope things stay put.<br><br>
I had a 36 weeker and while there was no NICU stay, it was still rough on me. Very high needs, food sensitivities, horrible reflux, bad jaundice, desat in car seat. Just no fun. Compared to my 41 w 3 d baby, it was a nightmare, 2nd baby was a dream.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Is anyone else starting to take a bit of easier breath now that we are almost all reaching the point of viability?<br><br>
Having had problems in the past (a car accident caused placental abruption at 17 weeks with DS) knowing that something going wrong could STILL result in a live child without spending weeks worrying that it will get worse and have nothing that can be done... its really a huge relief to me. Im only 23 weeks but even at this point, if it came down to leaving baby in and undoubtedly dying or taking baby out and having almost 50% chance of survival... there's that chance!<br><br>
of course, fingers crossed tightly for no micropremies (or premies at all for that matter!)<br><br>
but its such a breath of fresh air to know our babies have a fighting chance!</div>
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Ha, nice to know I'm not the only person who thinks of stuff like this.<br><br>
Really I'm counting down now to 27 weeks. Such a good chance of survival at 27 weeks.<br><br>
After I get there, I'll count down to 36 weeks (as far as I got last time) and the good chance of no NICU time.<br><br>
If I make it past 36 weeks, don't know what I'll do, haha.
 

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Constantly wait to go into labor and pray for every twinge to be "it"? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Constantly wait to go into labor and pray for every twinge to be "it"? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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ROTFL probably!
 
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