I've been very easy-going with X. He took the kids when he wanted, ignored them when he wished, etc, etc. Since his arrest a week ago for breaking and entering (!) I really don't want him to even see the kids! But, I don't want/can't handle a court battle. I have sole physical custody, joint legal. He doesn't want them too much so I can't complain. Basically, I need to set some ground rules. Only certain days, only with 48 hours notice, etc. What ground rules do you have with your X, if any. I'm sick of his spur of the moment "hey, I feel like being a dad today..." What suggestions do you have? He text messaged me yesterday to pick them up after school and I just ignored him. Unfortunately, I can't ignore him forever.