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DH and I eloped. We agreed to have a "big" vow renewal ceremony for our 5 year anniversary, for friends/family who did not get to attend our actual wedding ceremony.<br><br>
I'm starting to look into planning it, but am wondering which direction to go...is it appropriate to plan a vow renewal as though it's an actual wedding? As in, would it be appropriate for me to be looking at actual wedding gowns, brides' maids dresses, etc? What's the etiquette on this?
 

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Here is a good link:<br><br><a href="http://www.idotaketwo.com/vow_renewal_etiquette.html" target="_blank">http://www.idotaketwo.com/vow_renewal_etiquette.html</a><br><br>
I think a renewal is kind of like a wedding in the sense that you should do what makes you happy. For me, now I wouldn't do a big thing. Well, frankly I wouldn't renew at all, so if I had to it would be very informal.<br><br><br>
Here is what mine would be if I was forced to have one.<br><br>
Pretty backyard<br>
Catered informal foods, like a great bbq chef, who leaves after the food is cooked and set out. We do this every year for our family reunion.<br>
Good drinks<br>
A short little ceremony<br>
Maybe hire a local band for a hour or so or have a friend play briefly<br>
The only thing I would enjoy doing semi big would be a wicked cool cake or stacks of cheesecakes.<br><br>
Much more big brithday than wedding.
 

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Funnily enough, hubby and i have been "planning" our vow renewal in 2009 for our 5th year anny, because we went to the JOP to get married.<br><br>
We have basically decided on the renewal on the jamaican island thing with silly pictures of us in our renewal duds eating jerk chicken and kissing each other with greasy lips, lol.<br><br>
And then we think for the 10th or later, we may do the bigger, family and friends (and hopefully by then, kids) thing.<br><br>
Anyways, from all my reading up on vow renewal (and believe me, i been a reading! lol), u can do everything EXCEPT accept gifts (i.e. a bridal registry), because thas considererd to be rude, i guess. Everything else besides that seems to be fair game really.
 

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Is it still rude to accept gifts even though we didn't receive gifts when we actually got married?
 

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If people bring gifts accept them openly and graciously and write your thank you notes. I wouldn't register though.<br><br>
Other than that, do what ever you want <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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It's never, ever rude to accept a gift. Now if you were *asking* for gifts that would be another story <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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