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My 6 mo ds is a very inconsistent night sleeper - some nights he hardly wakes up, some nights he wakes up every hour. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he doesn't usually cry (unless he's <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fever.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Fever">: ), just looks around, talks and kicks a little. We have a video monitor, so even if we're not in the room with him, we have developed a habit of going to him the second we see that he's awake, even if he's perfectly happy to lie there alone. (We have him in a bedside cosleeper, and he probably spends about a quarter of his night in bed with us.)<br><br>
My question is, at what point should we try to help him go back to sleep? The second he wakes up? or should we let him hang out as long as he isn't upset? I think we might be developing strange habits if we keep trying to resettle him even if he's not upset.. what do you think?<br><br>
The same thing happens at naptime. He wakes up like clockwork after exactly 40 minutes... we usually just go to him as soon as we see his eyes open, but I'm wondering if we should let him hang out and see if he'll get more sleep?
 

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If he's not calling for you, I wouldn't go and intervene just because his eyes are open. Try waiting a couple of minutes. He may just go back to sleep on his own - I've seen my babies do that when they were in my bed. Eyes open, they move around a little, and if I don't say anything or make a move, they go right back to sleep. Obviously, if he cries, you know he needs you, but if he's not making a sound, I would let him be!!
 

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Depends on your kiddo. If we let mine go once his eyes are open, then he wakes up fully and its a lot harder to get him back to sleep. If I had the kind of kid like the pp, who falls back asleep after a few minutes then I'd let it go.<br><br>
Experiment a little and if open eyes just mean crying is on its way then I'd just go right away to save myself the trouble of soothing a more awake/upset babe.
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">Depends on your kiddo. If we let mine go once his eyes are open, then he wakes up fully and its a lot harder to get him back to sleep. If I had the kind of kid like the pp, who falls back asleep after a few minutes then I'd let it go.<br><br>
Experiment a little and if open eyes just mean crying is on its way then I'd just go right away to save myself the trouble of soothing a more awake/upset babe.</td>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> this is exactly what i was thinking. no harm in seeing whether he goes back to sleep on his own if he's not upset, but mine never did - and then they were wide awake and much harder to get back down.
 

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Yeah - that's pretty much the problem we have. He wakes all the way up, and getting him back down is a very long trial. I've yet to see him go back to sleep on his own. He doesn't escalate to crying until a lot of time has passed. I just wondered if it might be detrimental to jump on him (figuratively) the second his eyes opened, when it's probably not bad for him to feel comfortable and happy hanging out.
 
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