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Hi there! We moved to a town with a great waldorf school and I signed DS (15 months) and myself up for a Parent/toddler class. The class is a playgroup for birth to age 3. It is really a beautiful room filled with great toys and a nice and welcoming teacher. So, I arrive and DS is the youngest (there is another girl is age). He can't sit still during the story time or the "rest time" and wants to get up and play and bang the pots at the wood kitchen. Next, comes snack time where they are supposed to sit at the table and say their blessing while sitting in their own chairs and drink out of a dixie cup on their own. This is a far cry from a sippy in a high chair. I want to enjoy the experience, but I feel like maybe the activities are too structured for DS and I get stressed out the whole time thinking about how I can bring him "back into the circle" I talked to the teacher at the end and her advice was "just be gentle" and "see how it goes next week" Should I sign him up for the next session which is 10 weeks from now and lose my spot (there is a waiting list since they only accept 8). Am I going to be a waldorf dropout? How would you mommas handle it? Let him play and just stay in the activity and urge him to come back? It is very stressful and I want it to be fun. I would love any advice that you all may have. thanks in advance.<br>
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Definitely hang in there and give it time. Everything is new to him and it'll take him a little time to get the hang of the routine. Just relax and allow yourself to enjoy it. He'll probably wander around the room and be curious, not listen to direction etc... but that's perfectly normal. I bet in a few weeks you'll be amazed at how much he's following directions and participating. Even if he's not, it's ok - he's young and is still absorbing everything like a sponge even if he's not participating in every activity.<br><br>
I just started art and music classes through gymboree with my 19 mo DD and it's exactly as you described. She's pretty much doing her own thing - as are all the other children. I gently try to redirect her toward the activity that we're doing but if she's not interested, I figure she's learning by exploring and listening to the music even if she's not doing exactly what the teacher is instructing at the time.<br><br>
Relax, have fun and enjoy this special time with you and your DS because most likely, that's exactly what he's doing - having a blast <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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If the teacher is okay with you being relaxed about it keep trying. If she was acting stressed about the 'disruption' I would say drop it. If it is stressing YOU too much... well, think about whether you can let it go.
 

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gosh I am surprised - from everything I have read about waldorf #1 your ds would be too young to be in a structured activiity and #2 they don't really structure activiites - I wonder if this is a true Waldorf thing? Here in L.A, the kids who are in Waldorf do everything at their own pace and they don't even want kids to starts school until almost 3....<br><br>
Don't stress too much - your child is at the age where they need to do everything at their own pace. If he needs to be unstructured and run around then let him.
 

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Hi, my almost 15 month old son and I are doing a Waldorf parent toddler group also. The teacher very much believes that children will do things when they are ready by following the examples that are set by those around them. So, sometimes Jacob will participate in the circle time, and other times he's over cooking in the kitchen. It's fine. When we sing a song and include his name in it... over he comes.. at least for awhile. We never force, or put any pressure on him to participate.<br><br>
He loves trying to help prepare the snack, and is good about sitting at the table, but that is something that he likes to do at home. I have found that over and over he impresses me by rising to the occasion in ways I wouldn't have expected.<br><br>
I would see how you feel about it. Does it bring stess to you that your son isn't participating? Does it bother him? Does it bother others in the class? If so, maybe you wait awhile. Drop out for now and get back on the waiting list for later on. Our kids know what they need. Sometimes we just have to sit back and listen to what they are saying with their actions as well as their words.<br><br>
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