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I just saw the wanting but waiting thread in the fertility forum and thought it was an awesome idea, so I’m going to just borrow it and post a thread here, since this is the forum where I feel comfy and at home <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I thought it would be nice to have a thread like that here, since we all share common ground, face similar challenges and can relate to one another.<br><br>
Wanting but waiting, a support thread/tribe for those of us who want to be pregnant and will be TTC... but not quite yet, for whatever reason.<br><br>
Anyone else interested? The other thread lists usernames and when they will start TTC. We can do that here, if anyone is interested. I guess just PM me or post the info here and I'll add it. Otherwise, feel free to just use the thread to chat <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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The list, for those who want to participate-<br><br>
And like I said above, PM me or post here if you want your name/info included.<br><br>
I guess I'll start! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br><b><span>Waiting to TTC</span></b><br><br>
expatmommy- Late spring/summer 09<br>
millefleur- Summer 09<br>
lemurmommies- April 09<br>
Carrin- Early 2010<br>
MovingMomma- June/July 2010.<br>
Parker'smommy- Waiting <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/praying.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="praying">:<br>
Sophiasmomma- Waiting<br>
MisaGoat- June/Summer 09<br>
moonglowmama- Summer<br>
dinahx- Waiting<br>
ArtsyHeartsy- Spring/Summer 09<br>
haleyelianasmom- Summer 09?<br>
fantesia28- May<br>
TTC Catholic- Late summer 2009<br>
LouisianaMomma- June<br><br><b><span>Moved on to TTC!!</span></b><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/praying.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="praying">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/goodvibes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Goodvibes">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rainbow1284.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Rainbow"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">:<br>
jess_paez<br>
btmama<br>
marinak1977<br>
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Here’s what’s going on with me right now-<br><br>
I’m emotionally ready to be pregnant, not to mention I am having a HUGE case of baby fever right now! But I’m going to wait a bit, for physical reasons.<br><br>
I’ve been working out for a couple of months now, and have lost 15 pounds so far. I would like to lose about 30 more before I get pregnant. Yep, lose weight to end up gaining weight <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> But, I just want to do what I can to be healthier and more fit next time around. The exercise also helps me to deal with stress, which was an issue last time, so I want to be well established with that when I do get pregnant so I can keep it up during my pregnancy.<br><br>
So that's what I'm waiting on! And the closer I get to my goals, the more antsy I get!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I'm desperately wanting but waiting for now.<br><br>
Its been almost a month since Max was born still. My doc said wait 3 months & dh is taking her literally at her word. I'm hoping that AF will return in the next few weeks. I think I might be ovulating, but I'm not sure.<br><br>
Dh & I will be in different countries for July/August, so in my ideal world (which all notions of ideal were shattered when Max died) I'd be pregnant before that. I think we'll prevent for the next 2 months & then hope for the best.
 

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Hey Sweetie!!!<br><br><br>
How about *I* want a baby...like 2 years ago, and dh is now wavering...big time. The door isn't closed, slammed shut, but he is just SO worried...about everything. And ya know...I get it, I do. I mean, how can I tell him after losing 2 babies in the second trimester that everything is goign to be a- okay. I don't know that it will be. I'm totally sick the entire 9 months...and then there's the economy, which is freakin' him out. All totally understandable concerns. I'm willing to take the risk...I'm there. But I'm NOT willing to do this without a 100% partner. If we did lose another pregnancy, I'd need him, and if he wasn't onboard 100%, he'd only be resentful.<br><br>
So I'M wanting and waiting on my dh.....I've been praying a lot about it and I have a good feeling that he'll come around....he just needs some hand holding. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:
 

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Wanting now, but waiting until this summer. I am a prime candidate for PPD and I think having a baby in fall or winter would really increase my risk. Plus our financial situation and my health could be better. So, I will be wanting and waiting too. So probably we will try again this summer 2009 - to try for a spring 2010 baby.
 

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I love this thread! Thank-you!! I was starting to get all jealous of the Testing thread. Hah! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Well.....I am wanting to try to conceive in October 09. Hoping for a August baby, but you just never know how long it will take to conceive. I say October, because DH and I travel for his job. Now we're in Spain until late April. After that we will be going straight to Italy until December, so if at all possible, I would like to be a couple months pregnant when we return to the states/(or possibly Canada). I just bought health insurance & a maternity rider in July and just can't get pregnant now, it won't cover me overseas.<br>
We also don't rent a place or own, because his company pays for our living expenses while we travel. So, it's a great way for us to save. I don't know what the future holds, but we did decide to rent a little place in the states for me if for some reason he has to go to yet another country after Italy.<br>
But my uterus is aching!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I want to grow a baby NOW.
 

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Just wanted to give you girls some big ((((HUGS))) ... I'm actually just moving on from this place. We have been waiting since Emma died in October but will be trying again after next AF (Due ??? poss 10 days if my LP settles).<br><br>
So, I understand the compulsion and the holding back. Great idea for a thread, Vermillion <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm here too!<br><br>
We tried this month to get pregnant, but it didn't work and AF arrived yesterday. And since we're travelling in March, we won't be trying because we won't have access to our donor.<br><br>
So we'll be trying again come April '09, unless something comes up and our donor can't make it. But I'm trying not to think about that possibility.
 

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Thanks for starting this. I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere right now. We are hoping for a baby beginning of 2010. So, we are planning on beginning TTC after April of this year.
 

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Hello All!<br><br>
I am here in this TTC limbo too.<br><br>
I feel for all of you and I am so sorry for your losses.<br><br>
I just got test results back the I have the compound heterogenic MTHFR mutations and I just started high dose folic acid and baby aspirin. I am very hopeful about avoiding future miscarriages and I can't wait to TTC next month.<br>
I have had two 1st trimester losses.<br><br>
I am at peace with waiting right now. But, it sure is hard!!! I can't help but think that I am supposed to <i>still be</i> pregnant. I wish there were a smiley that stomps it's foot on the ground toddler tantrum style, because that is how it feels sometimes.<br><br>
But, another part of me is truly peaceful and hopeful. And, this may sound silly, but I think that my future baby is waiting for my body to be healthy.<br><br>
Happy body and spirit healing to all of you!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hello All!<br><br>
I am here in this TTC limbo too.<br><br>
I feel for all of you and I am so sorry for your losses.<br><br>
I just got test results back the I have the compound heterogenic MTHFR mutations and I just started high dose folic acid and baby aspirin. I am very hopeful about avoiding future miscarriages and I can't wait to TTC next month.<br>
I have had two 1st trimester losses.<br><br>
I am at peace with waiting right now. But, it sure is hard!!! I can't help but think that I am supposed to <i>still be</i> pregnant. I wish there were a smiley that stomps it's foot on the ground toddler tantrum style, because that is how it feels sometimes.<br><br>
But, another part of me is truly peaceful and hopeful. And, this may sound silly, but I think that my future baby is waiting for my body to be healthy.<br><br>
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i'm with you on the smiley or rather a lack of smiley!!!
 

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I wish we had that smiley too!<br><br>
I never thought myself immune to pregnancy or birth loss, but somehow by the time I got to 28 weeks, I didn't think I needed to worry anymore. Guess I was wrong, eh?<br><br>
I went to a birthday party yesterday for one of E's little friends, who's mom I used to work with before I became a SAHM. She got pregnant after I did, and of course now she's visibly pregnant. With us trying this month and it not working, and knowing I should still be pregnant with Noelle, it was everything I could do not to just run screaming from the party. But I made it through.<br><br>
We're about to call our donor to discuss possible travel dates for April. Wish us luck.
 

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Oh, great thread! Thank you!!! I'm on the one in the fertility forum, but I don't feel at home there.<br><br>
I wish wish wish we could TTC ASAP. But we'll be good to go from a physiological standpoint in April, and if we conceived then the baby would be due right when DH is supposed to deploy. We've thought about doing a pregancy & a deployment concurrently before (trying for a due date shortly after retun from a deployment) but there is no way either of us could stay sane through that after our loss.<br><br>
So. We are waiting, oh so reluctantly, until after DH returns from his deployment sometime around June or July 2010.
 

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anyone doing anything to prepare for when they are ready?<br>
I'm losing some weight. I'd like to lose another 20 lbs. I've lost 10 and gained A LOT of muscle so far and inches. I went off birth control 3 months ago and have had 3 periods of which were natural. I want to figure out my cycle. So, for now we are using condoms. I also want to buy a basal body thermometer, supplements and tea when I'm in the states in 10 days. I'm saving money so when I fall pregnant we can have a slush fund. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And also I bought insurance in July with a maternity rider just in case I happened to get a "suprise pregnancy". I didn't have ins with Joslyn, so getting insurance helped with my peace of mind!!!<br>
What about you lovely ladies?
 

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So I just added you ladies to the list, if you don’t want to be on there for whatever reason, just let me know and I’ll take your username off.<br><br>
I’m also psyched to see that lots of us will be trying at the same time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/praying.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="praying">: that everything goes well for all of us and we'll all be able to share good news with eachother soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Vermillion- thank you for this thread!<br><br>
Jess, I too am interested in what you all are doing in your wanting but waiting time. :smile<br><br>
I have been trying to focus my energy positively. I have been keeping my lost peanuts in my heart but at the same time trying to focus on celebrating life.<br><br>
I have also been trying to pamper my body. Eat wonderfully healthy food. Get more sleep. Do more yoga. I am a yoga teacher, but I often let my own practice fall short. I found some yoga poses meant to aid in fertility too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
MovingMama- I am sorry that life circumstances lend themselves to you having to wait so long. That must be hard. And, it must be hard to be away from DH. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Lemurmommies- Best of luck with your donor!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to all you other waiting mamas!<br><br>
I am so grateful to have you all. Def. helps me stay sane!
 

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I'm doing a ton of stuff while waiting... Like I mentioned above, I'm also doing the weight loss thing. I'm now up to 17 pounds lost since December. I'm losing at a nice, steady rate to make sure I stay good on my nutritional requirements and such. Ideally, I'd like to lose another... oh, 25/30 pounds before TTC. I'd love to lose 50 total, but I'll worry about the rest after pregnancy. Right now my main goal is to get in better shape before pregnancy, better heart rate and B/P, more so than just getting thinner...<br><br>
For fitness, I’m doing a mix of stationary biking, walking outdoors now that the weather is getting better (I’m in New England, it’s cold here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">) strength training, and my new favorite, yoga. The yoga is mainly for stress relief, a BIG issue of mine that I want under control before pregnancy, but I’m finding that some of the yoga I’ve been doing is also a really good workout!<br><br>
Other things I’m doing: Lots of good mind and spirit stuff like meditation and breathing exercises, as well as getting back into spirituality. I want to get rid of negativity in my life, or at least control it in a more positive way. Something that really slipped after losing the baby.<br><br>
I’m eating better again, yet another thing that I kind of let go of after losing the baby (hence the weight gain). No more junk, huge portions, etc. Lots of fruits and veggies, whole foods, water, green tea... I’ll be starting a prenatal again this month, as well as probiotics and fish oil.<br><br>
I'm sure there's some more stuff, but I've already written a novel here! Basically I'm just working hard at getting back on track with all the things I should be doing anyway, TTC or not! Things that just make me feel stronger and better in general, which I definitely need before being pregnant.
 

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Well, our donor booked his plane ticket for April today, so we're a go for next month. I am keeping my fingers crossed that this will be it.<br><br>
TTCing after a loss would seem so much easier for me, at least logistically, if I didn't have to worry about how timed my cycles are and when our donor needed to fly in from across the continent. Oh, to just be able to BD around O day and hope. I mean, since we're inseminating at home techincally that is kind of what we're doing, but it's as if my husband lives in another country three time zones away. Gah.<br><br>
As for what I am doing to prepare. Hmmmm. I am keeping up with my prenatal and my folic acid. I am doing my best to reduce the amount of takeout we eat by meal planning and cooking balanced meals at home. I am trying to focus a lot on family, on how we work together, and on what it will really mean to bring another life into the mix. And I am working through my feelings about losing Noelle on a nearly daily basis. As my due date gets closer, it's getting harder instead of easier, which has kind of surprised me. But I'm working on it.
 

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HI Id love to join in if its ok<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
Im Shelly... I had 2 MC last yr and I am actually waiting and not sure why..<br>
Well alot of fear and I still have some questions for my Dr...
 
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