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My BIL asked me the other day if I would mind babysitting a friends kids while they went to a party. I said no problem, and asked for $40 for both kids. He was really shocked by the price, and asked if maybe I could just do it as a favor. I told him as much as I would love to help everyone out, I'm not watching peoples kids while they go out and get drunk for free. She ended up only having the baby, so I lowered my price to $15. They turned me down <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> and just took the baby to the party with them, and put her in another room.<br>
The mom and my BIL are soon going to be working with my DH, and I am thinking of offering to babysit her kids while she is at work, or at least while both she and her husband are both at work. I think $15 per kid per day is kindof undercharging myself, as we will go to the park, I'll fix meals for the oldest, and treat them as my own during that time period. Especially since she will be making the same amount my DH is making, plus has her DHs income to work with as well, so I think that is a rate they could afford, that would help us out a little too, as we only have DHs income and are struggling right now with 2 broken cars. What do you think? I know daycares in the area charge between $75 and $150 per week, and I would not even leave a dog at the $75 dollar places, so she is getting a good deal IMO.
 

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Don't sell yourself short just because other people are cheap!!!<br><br>
Fifteen bucks a day to watch a kid -- if that day is only five hours long, that's a mere three dollars an hour. <b>If it's a full eight hour day, that comes out to $1.88/hour.</b><br><br>
Surely your time is worth more than that.
 

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Personally I'd be wary of offering to watch her children on a daily basis given the situation you describe.<br><br>
If you really want to watch her children and/or you really need the money, you can always offer, but I'd be prepared for her to balk at the price, no matter what you quote her. I'd suggest you decide how much you would like to be paid, make the offer, and she either takes it or not. I certainly wouldn't try to talk her into leaving her children with you, I'd want my money upfront each week, and I wouldn't negotiate on the price if you truly feel it is fair and reasonable.
 

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Just for comparsion sake, when I paid by the day at daycare it was $39/day, or $25 for partial days up to 5 hours.<br><br>
$15/day wouldn't be enough money to make it worth my while to watch someone else's child on a regular basis. And honestly I would be really wary to leave my child with someone who was willing to work for less than $2/hour, so don't sell yourself short.
 

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Yeah, from what you just described, I think *offering* to watch their kids is a bad idea.<br><br>
I mean, maybe if they come up with the idea and ask YOU about it, then you can give them a number, but it sounds like the whole situation above would make either you or them feel somewhat uncomfortable, kwim?<br><br>
It sounds like they needed a babysitter, and your BIL recommended you, assuming you'd do it for free.<br><br>
You are somewhat predjudiced against their lifestyle, it seems (babysit their kids while they go get drunk? i'm gonna make them pay for that) and then they decided against having you babysit.<br><br>
I dunno the whole thing is just weird, and my tact-o-meter is just ding-alinging here at the thought of you offering to babysit their kids.
 

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were you asking too much?<br><br>
um, NO!<br><br>
and your bil is a piece of work.<br><br>
$15/day is way underselling yourself, too.<br><br>
and i wouldn't offer my services in the scenario that you describe...let them come to you. and then when they do, make sure you give yourself a fair wage!!!
 

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I used to pay my sister 30 dollars a day to watch my son from 8-3:30. She got more when she watched other kids.
 

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It was family, in the context of a one-off request... doesn't seem that odd to have thought of it as a request for a favor, not an offer of employment.<br><br>
edited<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">k, reread.. I missed that it wasn't the BIL's kids, it was a friend-of-the-BIL's kids. And yeah, that sort of remote acquaintance should have been offering areasonable hourly rate. sorry for the misinterpretation.
 

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If they wanted it for free, they should have had the gonads to say so. And you would have been well within your rights to turn them down. Just because you SAHM does not make you the default free babysitter for your family.<br><br>
The only time I watch other people's kids for free is if it's either an emergency or it's part of a babysitting co-op (and even then, it's kind of being paid). Or if ONE child is coming over for a playdate (short and sweet). Other folks are free to think I'm a b!tch or whatever, but if I wanted to do daycare or nannying, I'd be doing it.<br><br>
OTOH, if you trust them enough to swap occasional night-out babysitting with them, then that's a nice opportunity.<br><br>
It's a pet peeve of mine when people don't want to come out and say they want something like that for free. Favor implies that there's some kind of exchange that will be going on later (like a swap, or trading of services, say...if your BIL is handy around the house, he gets to help DP with some projects next weekend, ect).
 

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I say 15 a day = $75 a week and thats not enough for working what, 40 hours??
 

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I don't have any extra kids right now, but when I do home daycare, I charge $30 per kid per day.
 

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when i did home daycare, the rates were standardized (and subsidized too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> by the army and daily /hourly rates were either 30 a day or 3.50 an hour.... but the rates went up after i quit doing it too..... and the subsidy program paid an extra dollar an hour for hourly too
 

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I've babysat for my friend's kids for pay and the rate was $10 per hour. I brought my youngest son (who was close in age to my friend's little girl) and my friends were thrilled with this arrangement. They NEED to pay you or find someone else--you are providing an important service and this must be recognized.<br><br>
Further, if they didn't pay you, there is a possibility that they could abuse the situation and expect you to watch their kids ALL the time--I could see them walking all over you (potentially).<br><br>
They would pay a complete stranger so why should they not pay you?!
 

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I would charge more than $15 per day even for a niece/nephew if it was an ongoing babysitting relationship. OTH, I wouldn't charge anything to watch a niece/nephew for an evening.
 

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this is so true... ive had lots of people do that to me, because i love watching babies, lol.... i had one neighbor who wanted me to watch her 3 kids 5 days a week, go to her house about 730, see the older 2 off to school (kinder and first grade), watch the baby all day, get the older 2 from school, and keep all 3 til about 6, and she though $100 a week was too much..... not to mention all the times she wanted me to do it for free
 

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Jeneca, I'd avoid this situation like the plague!! Do you really want to encourage someone who thinks $1.88 is fair for GREAT childcare?!?
 

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I did homedaycare for awhile. I finally learned to set my price high enough so that I wouldn't end up resenting it down the line. $25/day for 1 was my minimum and that was for a no more than 8 hour day.
 

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I would not baby sit for $15 a day/8hrs. No way. If it was an easy kid, I would for $30 a day. But thats even pushing it. You will have to give that kid attention, taking attention away from your kid(s). To me, $15 just isn't worth it.
 

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$15/day?!?! Not a snowball's chance in hell.<br><br>
Registered childminder in my area would charge £50-60 ($100-200) PER DAY for an infant.
 
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