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I do have PMS <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> So I wanted opinions from other people.<br><br>
Okay so today my students did a Trike-A-Thon to raise money for St. Jude's hospital. The kids take pledges and did so many laps to raise money.<br><br>
This morning I get a text from the parent of one of my students saying they need me to sponser both the child in my class and his little brother.<br><br>
Note, she didn't actually *ask* me, she told me she needed me to.<br><br>
Two issues I have with this:<br><br>
1. I have 20 students, if I sponser one, I have to do them all. That is a slippery slope I wont go down.<br><br>
2. Everyone within 10 feet of me knows I am broke, digging myself out of medical bills and that I can't even afford to buy groceries right now.<br><br>
I feel that it was an unfair thing to send to me because it left me in an uncomfortable position! I did not know what to say! So I just ignored it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag"><br><br>
I feel irritated about it, and was just curious what others thought.<br><br>
And I have no issues with St. Jude, they know that when they need blankets I am willing to make some, as it is they have no need for them- I e-mail often. I don't have money right now so I try to give back with the only thing I do have, my yarn and my time.
 

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Wow that is pretty rude of her. I would never put someone on the spot like that. I think you are totally justified to feel uncomfortable and I think I would have ignored it too. If she asks you about it I think I would just tell the truth and say that although you would have loved to sponsor them, as a teacher you can't just pick and choose who you want to sponsor and that you don't have the money to sponsor everyone. I just think it is pretty rude of her to ask you to do that in the first place.
 

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Yep, really rude. Especially by text!<br><br>
I'd just send a gracious reply and act as if she'd nicely asked you... something like "I'm not able to sponsor them, but what a nice thing for Jimmy and his brother to do! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">"
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yep, really rude. Especially by text!<br><br>
I'd just send a gracious reply and act as if she'd nicely asked you... something like "I'm not able to sponsor them, but what a nice thing for Jimmy and his brother to do! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">"</div>
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It does seem a bit rude but I would respond with what you have stated here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> It wouldn't really be fair to the other kids and you couldn't afford to sponsor all of them.
 

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Asking you to sponsor would have been a little thougthless and selfish of her - for her to not realize that you cannot single out one specific child to sponsor.....BUT....to TELL you NEED to sponsor her kid and his brother - presumptious beyond all reason in my opinion.<br><br>
I'd simply tell her "thanks for the suggestion but it would be unprofessional for me to single out one student and not do it for all of them, which is something I am not prepared to do."
 

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Maybe she was sending it to her sister or other relative, but sent it to you by mistake. Otherwise it really seems odd!
 

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It does seem a bit rude but I would respond with what you have stated here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> It wouldn't really be fair to the other kids and you couldn't afford to sponsor all of them.</div>
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I agree with this one completely.<br><br>
If it wasn't sent to you inadvertently it was rude and uncalled for.
 
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