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Ever since Kailey realized there were differences in body parts and from when she could understand and have little conversations with us (ok since birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) our family has been really open to the normalness of our bodies ho they are not taboo, but just natural. Bodies are cool!<br><br>
So, last night we read the book<span style="text-decoration:underline;">Girls Rule the World</span> by Jada Pincket Smith. Kailey lved it and asked questions about girls "ruling the world" etc. And I told her how women are strong, unique, and special (boys are to of course) and we had a nice talk about how girls should stand up for each other since we are all sisters. I gave examples of how we should help our friends if they are hurt or sad (using her friends) and she really liked that.<br><br>
This kind of came about because yesterday our neighbor (who is DH's good friend) kissed Kailey on the head - inwardly I FREAKED OUT!<br><br>
I was making her bed and suddenly I hear her say in a firm voice (yeay!) DON'T KISS ME!<br><br>
I casually called her in and said "who kissed ya babe?" and she said Mr. B kissed me on the head.<br><br>
Dh was in the room with them and they were just passing through on their way outside.<br><br>
Anyway, I asked Dh to tell B that Kailey isn't very touchy feely and could he not kiss her. I thought that was a hppy medium. I wont compromise her safety just because he is an old man who misses his grandkids. There is a think called appropriateness.<br><br>
Part of me thinks he thought it was ok to kiss Kailey because he and Mark are good friends and we have been close neighbors for 4 years. Then I think I don't give a crap how close we are or what wonderful things B has done for us. I won't risk her safety- NEVER.<br><br>
So this morning we casually talked about or bodies and touching. I kept it casual and matter of fact. She asked questions about hand holding (can Mrs. T- her teacher- hold my <i>hand?</i> I said yes, that was ok. But touching under our clothes was NOT ok- ever. I said our bodies were our own and that we needed to protect them to keep them safe.<br><br>
I want to be more specific but don't know what else to say. But as a starter i am glad we are discussing these things.<br><br>
I want to stay open with her and hope she continues to feel safe and comfortable- and not judged - talking to us.<br><br>
Just thought I would share.
 

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It's great that she feels comfortable and confident enough to say that.<br><br>
How do YOU feel about Mr. B? In Protecting the Gift, they talk a lot about honoring your instincts. It sounds like Mr. B make your daughter nervous. It could be nothing, he's just a friendly guy. It could be also that he's seeing if he can groom her for more intimate contact. If you haven't read Protecting the Gift, do so. It lists a whole set of things that pedophiles do.<br><br>
Don't ever leave them alone together. Not even while you are in the house. If he's around, have them both in sight at all times. Sad but true.
 

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Thanks for replying.<br><br>
No, Mr. B doesn't make Kailey nervous, he makes ME nervous. She LOVES MR. B and loves to watch him work on things in the yard. They are never alone, not even if he is on our front porch and our curtains are open- NEVER. He cannot come into our house because he smokes.<br><br>
Yes, I was so proud of her for saying that and I told her so!<br><br>
I am TOTALLY going with my instincts on this one, that is why I have been taking such precautions. Thank you again.
 
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