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We have pulled ds from summer school and will be homeschooling next year

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William had three bad days with a new teacher at school this week. It all came to a head yesterday. He got into trouble and taken out of the pool during water play because he wasn't listening to the teacher when she told him to stop. He was told he could sit in a chair by the pool until he calmed down or go inside the classroom with an aide. He went into the classroom and had a major meltdown. He was sent to school in underwear because we are trying to get him ready for kindergarten. He held his poop on tuesday so we sent a pullup for him(he refuses to poop on the potty). He proceeded to pee his pants. He was never given his iullup and was holding his poop so much that he was constipated when he got home. The school never called us through any of this. He was extremely upset and doesn't want to go back to school. He had other problems before this and the teacher doesn't seem to be able to communicate well with William.

This has also made us rethink sending him to kindergarten this year. We don't think he is emotionally ready. To tell you the truth I worry about sending him and worry about not sending him. I worry so much about failing him but in the end he is just a 4 year old little boy who in most states wouldn't even be old enough to go to kindergarten this year.
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I am so not looking forward to school years. hang in there!
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I'm sorry it's been a hard few days at school for William and your family. We've been homeschooling for over 9 years. We have 3 SN children and 1 NT child. For the most part, it's been a really good thing to have the kids at home to help them at their level of maturity (emotionally, socially & intellectually). And, you're right, your little William is still so very young. If you check with your state's homeschooling laws, you should be able to find what your state's compulsory school age is and that might ease your mind in knowing, there's still plenty of time to let him just play and be before needing to worry about academics. (BTW, in Oregon, where we live, a child doesn't have to go to school until 7 yo). Just be sure to try to schedule some time every day to catch your breath to renew your spirit.
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I completely agree with you. I don't think that 4 yo is old enough for kindergarten.
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William had three bad days with a new teacher at school this week. It all came to a head yesterday. He got into trouble and taken out of the pool during water play because he wasn't listening to the teacher when she told him to stop. He was told he could sit in a chair by the pool until he calmed down or go inside the classroom with an aide. He went into the classroom and had a major meltdown. He was sent to school in underwear because we are trying to get him ready for kindergarten. He held his poop on tuesday so we sent a pullup for him(he refuses to poop on the potty). He proceeded to pee his pants. He was never given his iullup and was holding his poop so much that he was constipated when he got home. The school never called us through any of this. He was extremely upset and doesn't want to go back to school. He had other problems before this and the teacher doesn't seem to be able to communicate well with William.

This has also made us rethink sending him to kindergarten this year. We don't think he is emotionally ready. To tell you the truth I worry about sending him and worry about not sending him. I worry so much about failing him but in the end he is just a 4 year old little boy who in most states wouldn't even be old enough to go to kindergarten this year.
Wow that sounds like a heck of a week for you both
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I'm so glad you are so willing to meet William's needs. He's lucky to have you!
I really think your ds is better off at home. I took dd out of school 2 years ago and I wish I would have done it sooner.

In public and private schools (although much worse in the public school) I have seen how kids with disabilities are treated. Luckily behavior wise my kid was never an issue (although she started to be the last couple months before I took her out). I have seen what happens to our kids and it is scary. My kid was better off because I volunteered there and was with her a lot and was on the teachers butts constantly - eventually I just couldn't be there enough for her to be OK.
I have never heard of a kid with a disability whose parents felt like the school was meeting all their needs.

BTW, in MN the law is 7 yrs old too. I wouldn't rush it. I sent dd to preschool and now I really wish I would have kept her home.
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William had three bad days with a new teacher at school this week. It all came to a head yesterday. He got into trouble and taken out of the pool during water play because he wasn't listening to the teacher when she told him to stop. He was told he could sit in a chair by the pool until he calmed down or go inside the classroom with an aide. He went into the classroom and had a major meltdown. He was sent to school in underwear because we are trying to get him ready for kindergarten. He held his poop on tuesday so we sent a pullup for him(he refuses to poop on the potty). He proceeded to pee his pants. He was never given his iullup and was holding his poop so much that he was constipated when he got home. The school never called us through any of this. He was extremely upset and doesn't want to go back to school. He had other problems before this and the teacher doesn't seem to be able to communicate well with William.

This has also made us rethink sending him to kindergarten this year. We don't think he is emotionally ready. To tell you the truth I worry about sending him and worry about not sending him. I worry so much about failing him but in the end he is just a 4 year old little boy who in most states wouldn't even be old enough to go to kindergarten this year.
I had Emma in a early preschool program at a local Head Start building and was very disapointed in how things were run. First, the teachers there were a little nervous about accepting a disabled child, saying that these kids have more behavioral problems. Second, I told them all about Emma's diet and cathing schedule. Well, for a good week, I'd pick Emma up and she'd be soaking wet. I'd ask her if she forgot to cath, and she would tell me no one helped her (hence, her bladder filled beyond capacity and overflowed). Plus, she told me that no one gave her her leg medicine at lunch (she's on Baclofen for spasticity and it had to be taken 4 times a day at the time).
Plus, she told me that some of the other kids wouldn't let her play with them and she was upset.
After hearing the same stuff for a week and constantly complaining to the teachers, I decided to just homeschool Emma and Angela, until they wanted to go to school. My family even told me that if needed, they'd help me pay for private school, because then they wouldn't have to take the WASL test in the future (I am totally against this test).
Emma, Angela, and I still go to a support group for parents of physically disabled kids once a month. She has made a lot of friends there and likes going there, because all the other kids have stuff in common. Several of the other parents there have complained of the same thing from that HeadStart program, and most of them now homeschool their kids.

Hope homeschool works out okay for you. I think your child will be really happy!

Jessie
(single mommy to Emma, 3 years
and Anglea, 2 years
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I think you are making the best choice. I homeschooled my eldest until third grade, and loved it. He would not have coped with school well at all. If I could have homeschooled all my kids right to college I would have, but I've had to put them in school. A. is doing extremely well in school. I think it wouldn't be so good for him now, if he'd not been able to gently outgrow some of his behaviors. By third grade he'd caught up socially with his peers. Academics were never a problem.

Kiley
We are also going to homeschool my special needs son. homeschooling has been such a wonderful experience for our whole family. There are tough times and periods of self doubt as with any aspect of parenting. Listen to yourself and your child. Enjoy the ride!

www.nhen.org/specneed
National Home Educators Network - special needs page

www.ontariohomeschool.org/learndiff
Ontario Federation of Teaching Parents - special needs page
Canadian but maybe some info can help

www.autismteachingtools.com
lots of great tips and printables

www.dotolearn.com
free printable pecs for schedule etc - which are still very useful even if child is verbal. lots of other printables as well

www.polyxo.com
ABA info including printable data collection sheets

www.weirdkids.com/autism/aut2bhome
Online group of homeschoolers with autism - must sign up (free)
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Welcome to the club!

My 5 year old says he will NEVER go to school, EVER.

And in my state the compulsary age is also 7, meaning we do not have to submit any forms until a child turns 7.
Thanks everyone. I spoke to someone at our school district yesterday and told them I would be holding him out of kindergarten this year due to maturity and potty issues. They said it was a wise decision and that setting up his therapy would be no problem. I was told by his preschool teacher that we would have to be homeschooling for him to continue to to get his speech therapy through them. We have discussed this before and our original plan was to homeschool him. One of the thing that disturbs me is that in the speech pathologists reports for his last iep, it says "This prognosis is contingent upon participation in a regular education kindergarten program...". That sentence really pissed me off.

Of course his preschool teacher has always thought it was bad that he was so attached to us.

Misty
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