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Hello all. This is very hard for me to post, but I have to. I have to look for help where-ever we can find it. DH is barely working (landscaper) for the winter, and until it snows, we are in some very real trouble. I have been working like crazy to support the family and it is catching up with me. I have shingles (I am ONLY 30!!), and finally after almost a week of treatment, have been cleared to go back to work and put me on prozac r/t the stress. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> But, we are still in some serious hot water.<br>
The short story: I am almost 2 months late on the mortgage. If I don't get a full payment together before the 31st, we go into foreclosure.<br>
The power company has threatened to shut us off, but is willing to work with us and now has handed me a minumum payment that is still more than I can come up with, so I don't know what I am going to do. And they CAN shut us off, because we have oil heat. But if they do, I won't have an oil burner to run. I don't get how they can do that. And we make JUST over the minimum for public assistance, so we get NOTHING from them!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"><br>
But, there was an angel at the oil company that allowed us to take a delivery, but I don't have enough money to pay for it. I haven't told them yet.<br>
I have to pay the $160 propane bill by the 14th or they are going to turn us off. Thankfully, we only use the propane for the stove/oven.<br>
I have cut the phone down to the basic and basic internet (which I can't cancel anyway b/c it will void a contract and I will owe $100 canc fee<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">, and the tv is down to basic ($10/mo)<br>
On top of the basic needs of life, I did get grocery shopping this week but will have no money for groceries for the rest of the month. I have to pay mortgage or they are going to foreclose.<br>
I have gained weight since last year, and my coat doesn't fit. Right now I am using a sweater-wrap that is NOT enough with the 20' mornings. I have no Christmas gift for DH, but he is OK with that. We agreed a while ago that no gifts for each other. Luckily, I got in on the big toy coop before the <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"> hit the fan, and DD has some gifts for Christmas morning. The only thing I am missing for her is a 'backpack' harness/tether system. I don't even have the $$ for a tree! So our IL's are loaning us their fake tree. And freecycle has been awesome, DD now has snow boots and a bib snowsuit. Most of her clothes still fit OK, so she is good for now.<br>
And, there is no $$ coming in from what DH is able to do with the business b/c he can't even pay the business bills and is very close to losing the truck and tractor which will leave us open to lawsuit come spring when we don't have the equipment to fulfill his contracts. This he just told me last night<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br>
And then there is gas. I have a guzzling minivan that I can't WAIT to sell, but we owe more than it is worth right now, and with the late payments to places our credit stinks. I am driving as 'efficiently' as I can but have to drive 35-40 min to work, through the hills of New England.<br><br>
I don't know if anyone can help us. I wish beyond wishing that I had realized what we were in for before the Holiday Helpers deadline came, but I didn't and so here I am.<br>
If anyone has any room in thier hearts left to help yet another needy mama, please PM me. I am desparate.<br><br>
Thank you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Thank you, thank you! I have had responses from 2 mamas already, and thank you so much for caring enough to contact me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
And a suggestion to me was to look for grocery store gift cards. Which is a good idea, so if anyone has any to share I have Stop and Shop, Big Y, and Shop Rite nearby. I could very much use them. Thanks so much!<br><br><br><b>ETA: I just wanted to thank the few folks who have contacted me to help out- you are true angels!! I am now all set on the coat, but could certainly still use the grocery cards, or gas cards. Also, I am in need of bras! Mine are falling apart and only thought of requesting them when a mama asked what I needed for me!<br>
Thanks again!!</b>
 

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i couldn't read and not give you a hug. I wish I had resources....
 

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So glad that I can reply right here again!<br>
The bra sizes I need are either 40DD or 42D.<br>
TYIA!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Another update, and thanks to those who have offerred help. We have managed to save our home for now, though it is certainly month-to-month as our income is still less than our monthly expenses. I am not looking forward to the next couple months as far as elec bill and heating oil, but we will be eating a little easier thanks to the serve.org referral.<br>
If anyone has anymore help to offer, I thank you, please PM me.<br>
I am so grateful to those who have already offered, I am very much looking forward to helping out the next MIN as soon as I can!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
ETA: How could I forget Sarah?!?! Thanks to this wonderful MDC mama who brought in her contacts at FNL, I have pantry items and 2 coats. We will be having pizza weekly for the next month!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> And pasta on the other days!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I hope you are still checking this thread. I may try PM'ing you too.<br><br>
I don't know if I can help, but where are you in CT? (We are in Milford.)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I hope you are still checking this thread. I may try PM'ing you too.<br><br>
I don't know if I can help, but where are you in CT? (We are in Milford.)</div>
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I do still check it, and thank you in advance. I am in Danielson, in the NE corner, you know the 'not-so-quiet corner'...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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do you have an updated list of things you might need, I'd love to help if I have some of the stuff. Hope everything is looking up for you
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">do you have an updated list of things you might need, I'd love to help if I have some of the stuff. Hope everything is looking up for you</div>
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Thanks so much for the offer! Things are still pretty tight, and with the holidays past, at least a little of the stress is gone. Although, not totally, as my body is telling me by getting pneumonia this week (this winter is killing me, since I am normally a very healthy horse). So I have been out of work for a week, and am praying that the doc gives me the OK to go back when I go for a follow-up tomorrow morn.<br>
Anywho...<br>
I am still needing boots, bras. Also now that I have dropped a few pounds <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> I could use some size 18jeans. DD is now in 3T and some 4T clothes, so could use those. Or if anyone has a cute holiday dress for Easter, I haven't even considered that far ahead! Otherwise, just warm tights/dresses. M LOVES to dress like a little girl... She is pretty much set with long sleeve shirts and undies. DH doesn't really need anything clothes-wise, my bro took good care of him for Christmas. He is more worried about the state of the home. Undies for him would be good.<br>
Otherwise, we can always use food and gas cards. Those are our biggest expenses. And of course oil/elec/mortgage bills always need to get caught up. We aren't losing our home at the moment, but we are far from safe.<br><br>
Thanks so much for asking!! I must say that I have been inspired by the outpouring of well wishes, even if many can't help. It has inspired me to look around at what I may be able to do for others, and I have been able to do some good things with stuff that comes through freecycle, and finally feeling like I can pay it back/pay it forward, whatever you want to call it.
 

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I'm half-Irish and it's nearly St Patrick's so...<br>
Please PM me your address and I will send you a gas card.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
Chevron ok?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm half-Irish and it's nearly St Patrick's so...<br>
Please PM me your address and I will send you a gas card.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
Chevron ok?</div>
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PM'ed ya! Thanks mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Hey! I have a bunch of 3T and 4T summer dresses! PM me and I can send them!
 

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Does anyone have a pair of white dress shoes, size 8-9, that DD can wear for Easter? I haven't found any at the consignment shops around, and can't see paying full price for likely one day of wear. I would be glad to return after Easter if you like!<br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hey! I have a bunch of 3T and 4T summer dresses! PM me and I can send them!</div>
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yay! Thanks so much! PM'ing ya!
 
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